Most women nowadays are very brainless, clueless, cheaters, gold diggers, selfish, greedy, spoiled, narcissists, picky, very money hungry, worthless. Gee Wiz, and so much more can certainly added to that list as well. And to think that most women many years ago weren’t like today at all. What a change unfortunately.

Filthy no good disgusting cunt women are a dime a dozen nowadays unfortunately. How very sad. Quite a change from the old days.

you sir are correct.

The author is making assumptions. If you call someone a cunt male or female it is because they are an idiot, maybe they lied, cheated, abused, manipulated, used excuses and lies to control and much more. As a therapist, I think cunt is a useful word to describe behavior that is deplorable.

Actions from others can be cu$& actions, not just a word.

You sir, are my fucking hero. Just made my day.

Exactly and woman that are ungrateful are… Cunts, Entitled yet claim to be empowered by taking responsibility a man normal does. Go for it just Pay for your own dinner and mine too. Love what everyone wrote! Made my day as well.

Wow! Women don’t like you much, eh? It shows.

You sir , are a fucking modern hero!

To quote: there are lots of people who blame always a girl or woman. But they do not think that if there were an incident with a girl then a girl is not a culprit.

Sad observation
I think many on this board are far too preoccupied with arguing their own nonsense against one woman to pay attention to any legit point struggling to be made here.

Mate, it’s funny how we can’t actually directly reply to her huh..? What a piece of shit. Is this what women are now – she clearly assumes she speaks for all of them….

What an absolute cunt.

It’s not that. Every woman has a husband who will eventually beat you up if you start conversations with them. Most men are still territorial and possessive over women and don’t like it when other men talk to their wives.

And women can’t even initiate normal conversations with men due to fear that men will easily become hostile by sexually assaulting them, for example, because men hate being approached by women. It makes them feel emasculated. They want to be the superior ones approaching women instead. You know how many women get raped and murdered for approaching a man in most areas? Even when asking for men online to meet them in public places? It’s no wonder women can’t have equal relationships with men because most men still want to be the boss who is doing all the pursuing and stalking, which women can’t do to men or they get raped and murdered in return, knowing men can fight back real easily since they are bigger, stronger, and extremely intimidating. Dating, relationships, marriage, and sex are still male-dominated, AKA a man’s domain.

I don’t believe a guy calling a woman a c word means he’s calling all females the c word. Just like if a girl calls a man a p**sy doesn’t mean she’s calling all men pussies. Who cares really? Stick and Stone’s from elementary school….

Lol Dumb cunts just dont get it

K virgin

It couldn’t be because you are all a bunch of misogynistic pigs with mouths like a filthy shit filled toilet? Or could it be that you’re all gutless swines hiding behind keyboards insulting women’ with the most hate fueled bullshit? No it can’t be that maybe it’s the contempt and prejudice you feel against women and girls. It’s not enough that women have had to indure a social system where we are treated with hostility and hatred just because we are women trying to make it in a world created by and for men ?? You wonder why women have changed? Well in order to live in a world full of filthy pigs just like you men you have to become a
butcher !

You nailed it.

I agree we should not give someone the power to hurt us or give their words power, but that’s not always going to be the case. & 110% it is about that person and not anyone else. But we all still affect each other. People need to understand to feel their pain and not just take it out on someone who scares them because they’re doing things that their terrified to do, which is be honest with themselves. Honestly I think anyone that is able to take a step back and see all the ways that we say things and what they can mean versus how they may be interpreted is very respectable. Especially in the English language when someone may say I’m so tired I’m going to crash. However, if they’re on a plane and say they are so tired they’re going to crash, the word has an entirely different meaning and evokes a completely different feeling.
As far as the C word, I think the C word makes a woman feel worthless like calling a man a “soft dick” would. Because unfortunately men and women both put so much emphasis on men being strong, tall, brave, hard, protective, etc and I think subconsciously men translate to their dick should also be like that. So to tell a man he’s being a dick could cause many completely different reactions. For someone who is insecure in their life as a man or the role they think they should have it could make them feel incomplete. For a man that feels proud of who he is but not confident in his actual dick or sexual ability, that can make him feel incomplete. For a man who is confident in who he is and his sexual performance he may say THANK YOU! That could be the best compliment someone could give him.
I’m rambling but it’s truly amazing how many different ways some words can be interpreted. However, I really do love Glennon’s explanation for what the C word means. Because I think some words do hold just one meaning across the board and no matter who you say it to, it will be interpreted in the same way. These are the words we must stop using. Like Glennon said across the board the C word means, sit down, shut up, know your place. I don’t think there is one single positive way that word could be used. & I personally think that calling someone a dick COULD have the same awful affect on one’s self worth, but I’m not sure if we have a word in the English language that completely defeats a man and his worth. If we do I would love to know it so that I never accidentally say it. No one deserves to have their worth defined by someone who isn’t willing to sit with their own pain.

I am female. No, I am not arrogant,self serving or greedy. I am kind hearted, thoughtful and sick of being constantly being called the C word and treated less than I deserve. You should not group all women the same.

Did you ever call a man a bitch or a pussy? I can tell you the only woman that has ever received “cunt” from me is my ex-wife, twice. But she had no trouble calling me a bitch, pussy, asshole, dickhead, (insert insult here). She is for all but me a gentle kind woman. Save your gender biased indignance. The female of the species are as grotesque as the male.

If you’re having trouble meeting women who aren’t whores, might I suggest you stop hanging around in brothels and red-light districts? It really is a matter of location, location, location.

You need a reality check. You sir are projecting and must be a male Whore. How do you know a woman is a whore unless you yourself are sleeping around with everyone. Think about that. How about you take your caveman IQ of 28 back to the ice age. No real woman wants you anyway. Most probably see that you are completely worthless. No self respecting woman wants a stupid baby from your dumbass sperm to come out of their cunt. Evolutionary biology has allowed women to determine this from more than just hormones. Change who you are and your thought processes 100% then maybe you can find a woman who is interested.

! A GOOD MAN will never have to try and find a whore that isnt a good woman . MAYBE YOU ARE SINGLE BECAUSE YOU ARE UNAWARE THAT INSIDE EVERY GOOD WOMAN IS A AWESOME WHORE. MOST “GOOD MEN” Will never comprehend that and remain single forever looking for something that does not exist. A SMART MAN WILL NEVER FIND HAPPINESS AND SATISFACTION IN A GOOD WOMAN IF SHE ISNT A WHORE. ITS FUN BEING A WHORE AND ONE MAY NOT BE CONSIDERED A GOOD WOMAN IF IT IS FUN FOR HER TO BE A WHORE . Its 2019 stop looking for a good woman because it seems they are extinct. SO IT WONT HURT TO SETTLE FOR A BAD BITCH WHICH FYI MEANS GOOD WOMAN. But remember that inside every bad bitch is a good woman that loves being a whore. Most boring men dont like bad bitches and remain a single good man forever

Very true. I have virtual given up trying to find a woman who is not arrogant, self serving and greedy. Sorry. been married twice. Looking for a new relationship but there just isn’t much quality out there.

Your comment is rude and demeaning. You know full well that isn’t the case. You are a dreamer with your head up your arse. What the man says is true and I will second the motion.

So are dumb ass men. Except, unlike women, you don’t have the power to carry and give birth to a human being. I guess us “dumb ass women” will just continue to do the hard work while you complain about us being “dumb asses” on the internet. Maybe you’re attracting dumb asses because you are one.

Wow. That’s absolutely beautiful!

I used one too many “nots” when referring to Sean Melton. I am not Sean Melton!

LOL! right on. I respect your candour and the fact you say it as it is.

I stopped reading your comment when you said you were a nice guy. That tells me that you are the one who needed to read this article and take it to heart, but will be the last one to do so.

Thank you, Joshua Sellers!

This was so well said.

Thank you, Joshua….really.

what a cuck

I’m sorry… but Cunt is an appropriate word to describe a bat shit crazy female who is off the rails….

He not only called me a c***, he called me a stupid f****** c**** 6 times in one night and then beat me up…….we’ve been married for 30 years and had such a wonderful love life…..so I thought…..don’t know what to do, he has hit me since and yells and screams at me now too on a regular basis. He is lying about social media and I think he has something going on….plz help me

Thanks Josh, you sound like a gentleman. Yumm.

Bless you Sir. Thank you for standing up.

Thank you, CJ…really.

This is awesome.

I read a book about the etymology of this word and it was so moving.

that is wonderful .. can I hold this and maybe share if required?

I love that ❤

Awesome!

LOL! You should be in PR workinfor Trump in Washington D. C.

I challenge your assumption of who invented writing and numerals, hell, it took man to invent tampons for God’s sake. Why don’t you and the rest of the SJW’s give it a rest, you got nothin when it comes right down to it.

Amanda, I don’t think it’s cool to call men any of those names. Disrespect for men is just as bad as disrespect for women. When we descend to someone else’s level we are no better than him (or her.)

Yes, yes you are.

I don’t think Glennon is saying anything about those being ok. And they’re not ok.

I think you’ll find that Glennon doesn’t call people any of those names. Perhaps your anger should be directed towards a source who actually does?

So, my daughter came home one day (age 6 going on 35) asking what a bitch meant. I used the word several times in my explanation to take the mystical draw out of it. I told her bitch was actually a word for a female dog but sometimes people use this word to put down girls and women. Sometimes it’s said out of anger and not directed towards anyone personally. I also explained that it wasn’t just this word that had some deeper power to hurt. If she called someone stupid with the same intent of hurting them, to me…it’s the same as bitch. What matters most about the words that come out of our mouths is the intent in our hearts. That needs to be checked. So we talk often about the power of the tongue and, while it’s small, it can do great damage. However, before it ever gets to our lips, it’s had awhile to grow in our hearts. That’s where we need to start with our language.

It’s so not okay. Genitalia should never be an insult.

I think Liz Lemon from 30 Rock summed it up best why the c-word is a horrible word (put simply there’s no male equivalent to that word in the context that it is used to be vile and hateful):

Liz: I’m not upset by cursing. I love cursing. I love it. But this word is not acceptable because there’s nothing you can call a guy back. There is no male equivalent to this word.
Pete: Well, why don’t we come up with one, and then you can call him that? Like, um, “muncus”.
Frank: “Fungdark”
Liz: I’m serious, you guys.
Pete: You’re just in reaction right now. You need to just take a few hours and calm down.
Liz: Don’t tell me to calm down, you Fungdark.
Pete: Yeah, you’re right, it doesn’t work.

Shannon,
Carry on Warrior. Save your soul and you save your children. Such a hard thing nonetheless.

I once said to the man I was married to (I refuse to call him “husband” which connotes protector) “Which do you prefer? That I divorce you or kill you?” Of course I was somewhat joking and I divorced him. He was killing my soul with his verbal abuses. I loaded up my little car with my kids and just the basics and I drove off and never looked back.

What does this have to do with the word “cunt”? Show those who use the word the proverbial finger by embracing it. Have a tee shirt printed with the word and wear it. The LGBT community once adopted the word “queer” and guess what? It took the sting off of it’s usage.

That is truly beautiful, Shannon. I left my daughter’s father for the same reason, it’s almost like that word sparks a fury inside that cannot be blown out, once it’s been uttered you can’t take it back. I applaud you for putting your soul first I don’t personally know you, but I know you deserve better. <<>>

Good for you Shannon ! You’re making the right decision ! Your husband is abusing you ! I’ve lived with abuse for 60 years . Now divorcing my husband of 34 years ! These abusers need to be put in their place ! They never stop !

I wish you well Shannon. You have a courage I never had. Bless you in all you do and wherever life takes you from now on.

My ex husband calling me a slut, and then doubling down when I asked him to apologize by saying,”I’m sorry you’re a slut.”, was one of the final nails in the coffin of our 16 year marriage.
The one person in the world I expect to not disrespect me in that way is my partner. When I met my current bf almost 3 years ago, I let him know right up front that calling me derogatory names, ever, was an instant deal breaker for me. I’ve also raised my three daughters and son to understand that disrespectful language like that has no place in loving, committed relationships.

fat bitch

Hi there,
So nice of you to leave your comment. However, it seems to be terribly uninformed. You see, Glennon was not doing anything to be deserved to be called an insult like this. Actually, no one deserves to be called an insult like this, no matter if well deserved of not. Obviously you ended up at her blog not by chance, so please go and purchase one of her books, it may teach you something. Society nowadays is okay with calling people insults instead of loving everyone fiercely and without limits. I am embarrassed for you, and sad for every woman you love. They deserve to have someone who respects not only them but humans and women as a whole. Someone who respects other’s opinions and people that stand up for what is wrong. Just food for thought.
A

Very well said. I like the fact that you are the only female on this blog that’s hasn’t rounded up the villagers with the pitch forks and torches and attacked “the man” I am saddened that most of these women have the idea of “us” against “them” attitude.

That feels fair enough. Yes, women aren’t one monolithic entity nor are we are so tender we can’t handle name calling. I didn’t see anyone saying there aren’t abusive women. I know a few myself. Perhaps it’s generational, but it’s a word I wouldn’t allow in my home nor would I allow it to be said to me by anyone who wanted to be in relationship with me. It could be different for you.

With that said, I look less at the name calling and more at the intention and “energy” behind it. I’ve offhandedly said to someone about another guy, “He’s such a dick.” It’s non-threatening and a way to blow off steam.

That’s different from posting, “You conservative/liberal dick” on his FB page. That takes it to another level that is creepy, at best and aggressive and slanderous at its worse. Also, Glennon clearly doesn’t set that tone on her page. I see people’s FB pages as their front porch and they get to set the tone. Good manners dictates that if you go visit their home, you observe the standards they’ve created and choose to engage or not. It’s mutual respect.

These are not ordinary times. People are getting serious threats for speaking out. Judges have to have security. We have a president who normalized sexual abuse and was elected to the highest office in the land. Glennon and her sister handled this well. Bring it out in the open. Name it. Personalize it and bring it back home to a real life experience and invite this man to see it through the eyes of his baby daughter who lives in a world with a bully as president and bully trolls on the internet.

Finally, many of the comments on this page come from women who’ve experienced some form of abuse. When you’ve been abused and “cunt” was your abusers’ favorite derogatory term, that needs to be seen and witnessed as part of the conversation.

July 31st 2016 at 11.16pm,
PULL YOUR HEAD IN. YOU SOUND LIKE A RIGHT CREEP.

*grievance

Ellen,

What makes you so sure that Glennon does not genuinely plan on praying for his daughter? She is a woman of faith. And as far as the “F” word, that is the beauty of freedom of speech. You don’t have to read what Glennon has to say.

Wow…in one message you managed to: (1) Tell Glennon her language offends you even though YOU choose to go to her page…Sean posted a comment to Glennon’s page, not the other way around. It is the difference between someone walking into your home and calling you the “C” word and you going into their home where they use the “F” word and being offended by it. Apples and oranges is an understatement, (2) “I suppose it is a matter of taste and background…” is pretty much calling her poor white trash, (3) you totally missed the point of the “C” word and what it means. It is something that in this country is a particularly feminine insult because it conflates female genitalia with violence. It makes reference to the historical belief that women were only good for what is between their legs, (4) you assumed that Glennon was being snarky about her prayers for his daughter, which incidentally says more about you than her, (5) you managed to both humble brag (let me just fashion you a medal real quick for that 5 am class…not the 8 am one…that’s for slackers!!!!) and passive aggressively end a post that was dripping with condescension and negativity with the “Happy Tuesday, Everyone!” and accompanying bullshit happy face emoji. Maybe you should avoid Glennon’s page in the future and use that sunrise Pilates class to think about what energy YOU are putting out in the world.

I love everything about this reply. Women becoming as vulgar as men ISNT the answer! And using “I’ll pray for you” has become a slap in the face (and Christ’s) response for passive aggressive people.

Amen! The F word triggers the same reaction for me. Thank you for voicing your opinion.

Wow, way to prove her point.

Dear CB,

1 : I will try to explain why calling a woman a cunt is calling all women cunts, by using an analogy :

Let’s say humanity is divided in two categories : blond haired persons and brown haired people. Let’s say that since beginning of time, blond haired people are presented like less worthy people than brown haired people. Being brown haired is linked to being strong, courageous, smart, what have you. Being blond haired is linked to being weak, irrational, oversensitive, you see the picture. Well, with time going on, brown haired people throw around « blondie ! » as an insult towards their brown haired fellows, and towards blonde haired people as a general description of why they think these blonde haired people are inferior to them. No need to explain « You are so dumb, so weak, so irrational », because they have ONE word for all of this. Quick and easy. And some blonde haired people start saying it too, in order to demonstrate «It’s not an insult, I claim it back, being blonde is awesome, look how blonde I am! »
Other blonde haired people start to think brown is better, too and cut their hair as short as they can, they tie it in a bun, they try to hide it, they wear hats.

But if you admit that the half of your own family is blonde haired, and they hear you calling another person « blondie » , they might come to you and ask you « But Daddy (or « Darling), I am blonde, too, so do you hate me like you hate this person… !? » What are you saying to THEM ? « No Sweetheart, it has nothing to do with your hair ! » ? If this is true, then find another word for your anger and your hate. Say whatever you really mean, but don’t reduce them to what makes them what they are.
What would you feel if your first name became an insult ? What would you feel every time you heard someone pronounce your beautiful name to insult someone else ? Or yourself ? Would’nt you want to shout « My name is CB and it’s nothing to be ashamed of !!! » ?

Many commenters have said that « brownie » is a thing too and that brown haired people are’nt nearly as offended by it then blonde haired by « blondie ». Well, why would they ? Since the beginning of time, they are told being brown haired is awesome !! They LOVE their brown hair, they compare it to each other, they show it every chance they get, they brag with it, they take pictures of it for the whole world to see on the Internet ! How could it be an insult ? « Hey, look at my brown hair, isn’t it the brownest hair you’ve ever seen ?  Brown hair is POWER ! Brown hair is BETTER ! »

So, why are blonde haired people so offended by being called « blondie » ? Might it be because it is thrown around like an insult since the dawn of humanity ? Could it be that blonde haired people have started to BELIEVE being blonde haired is something to be ashamed of ? Like saying « Yes, I am blonde, but please, can we forget that for a while ? Blonde is not all that I am. I am many other things, blonde is not the main thing. You can’t reduce me to only that. »

I don’t know, I too believe that words have only the power you give them. I also believe being blonde is as good as being brunette, I don’t care if you are blonde or brown haired, as long as you are a decent person. I believe insults go both ways : a word can be USED as an insult, and it can be TAKEN as an insult, and it can fire back in both cases : if you call me blondie, I will shrug my shoulders and say « Yes, I am blonde, and ? What do you mean by that ? Can’t you find something more… SPECIFIC ? » And if you call me (searching for what would really make me feeling insulted) « stupid » or « useless », well then I would be pissed. Although these words are polite. See ?

2 : But I also believe in a thing some (not all) women call « mansplaining » (I don’t like this term either) which is something some (not all) men do in order to prove they are right and the woman they are speaking to is wrong, and it goes a little like this :

Man : (says something, could be anything, really)
Woman : Ouch, what a hurtful thing to say !
M: What, «  (says it again) » ? C’mon, it’s true, everybody knows this !
W : Well, it hurts !
M : How can it hurt, it’s true, I can prove it !
W: I don’t care if it’s true or not. You’ve hurt me by saying this. I expect you to apologize.
M: How can you not care if it’s true or not ? This is totally silly. Besides, I didn’t mean to hurt you.
W: Well, you did, so I want you to apologize.
M : I am NOT going to apologize for saying something that is TRUE and wasn’t MEANT to hurt you. All you have to do is changing the way you see it. But *I* did nothing wrong, so I won’t apologize. You are being irrational. Besides, even if I apologize, it wont take away words that have been said and heard, apologies are useless.
W: And you are denying my feelings. You’ve hurt my feelings, no matter if you meant to or not, so you have to apologize !
M: I am not responsible for your feelings, I am responsible for my words only. You chose to be hurt by them, you could have chosen otherwise. Just don’t be hurt and all will be well.
W: I can’t chose my feelings, these feelings are HAPPENING to me.
M: This is NOT my fault !
W: I. Am. Hurt !
M : Get ! Over ! It !

Sooo.. Who is wrong and who is right ? I don’t know, probably both. But this mecanism exists, there is no denying that. Maybe we could aknowledge that when we say certain things, although it’s not meant to hurt, some people are in fact being hurt. So, if we know it, maybe we can avoid saying them. And maybe some other people can say « I know you probably didn’t mean to hurt me, so I wont make you apologize. But please notice that what you say can be perceived as insulting, here’s why (be sure to explain why). Can you please think about it ? » Maybe we could all try to become more forgiving and respectful towards persons who are not like us. Because, hey, not two persons are really alike. (« Trying hard not to be a jerk »)
And if you step unwillingly on someones foot, say « sorry ! »

It’s “every woman”, not “every women”. Christ, misogynists are so dumb.

Okay, just to clarify one thing. I’m a British woman and I’m pretty sick of this ‘oh but in the UK women don’t get upset about the word cunt.’ WE DO. We just get called humourless killjoys if we complain about it. But rest assured, mostly we find it aggressive and hideously offensive.

That’s frickin awesome! Too funny. Wow. Bravo. Go “Man Power”!!!

It is safe to say everyone on this measly planet, male or female, has used a word in their life someone else found offensive or derogatory. That said, calling one person a name does not mean you are calling everyone of that gender, race etc. the same name. That’s the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. If I call you a bitch, it’s because I believe YOU are acting like a bitch and THAT is where it ends. AT YOU. Sometimes the things women say make me cringe and I hope people realize not ALL women are overly sensitive expecting to be treated as delicate glass. I DO understand the author’s reasons behind the article and though I do not agree entirely, I do see her point. Yes, behave towards others as you behave towards your loved ones. BUT let’s get real here, you will never care for my feelings, life goals and personal circumstances as a stranger the way you will for someone who is close to you. It is unnatural if you do and I encourage you to get a hobby because you have too much time on your hands. SO, though what the man responsible for this article had said may be rude and uncalled for as he does not know the author, it’s also fair to say for that very reason is why he may say it to her yet never dream of thinking it about his loved ones. HE. DOESN’T. KNOW.HER.

A tid bit worthy of many judgmental opinions to come!

Always a woman to blame, huh? Maybe…men could stop being assholes? Maybe men could take responsibility for their own behavior without pointing to the nearest female-bodied person and yelling “She started it!”

The sexism of this remark is hard to swallow.

Wow! Talk about “manning up” and “shouldering responsibility.” I hope that was meant to be tongue in cheek because if not it is just as offensive as the original post.

Cunt Cuntry
Alix Olson

I’ve decided to start
Cunt Cuntry!
Write our own Cunstitution
Let our liberated clit bells ring out:
The Cunts are coming: It’s the Cunt Revolution!
I’d cut through my panties, I’d shake my pube hair loose,
I’d sign my Jane HanCunt in cursive with Cunt juice.
I’d declare the Independence of Clitoris to Shining Clitoris,
Proclaim the Emancipation of all Cunts–
and tell Dicks this:
You’re being drafted for the Big Solution:
Stand Erect, Be Proud,
You’re part of the Cunt Revolution!
Defending our slick, silky, vaginal turf
For all cunted creatures, created or by birth.
And they’d wear buttons with fists raised, that say:
Patriarchy! I survived! Now this Dick’s fighting the Good Fight for
Vaginal Pride!
And kids in school would learn the Her-story
Of the Boston Tea-ch Party,
When Cunt-Liberators tossed Cunt-Traitors into the sea,
Finally felt what it meant to be free.
And they’d learn how color complicated the win,
How White Cunted Creatures had to sacrifice Privilege,
Re-focus Vision for a Real Revolution to happen.
And kids would have weekly field trips
To the Museum of Un-Natural His-Story
With display glass jars of rapist dicks in all their shriveled glory.
And Behind velvet rope, ancient relics of the past, like:
Female Guilt, Circumcision knives, Certificates turning whole people into Wives.

And there’d be torture chamber exhibits
with tall, skinny heels
Inviting little girls to:
Try this, and see how this feels-
Cunted Creatures wore these to work or to anywhere formal:
This Pain was called Sexy. This process was called Normal!
And there’d be old collections of posters like:
Keep Abortion Legal- with a plaque:
Not much is known. But these come from an era when
Insecure Ruling Dickheads thought of
Bodies as something to own.
We’d pledge allegiance to P-Flag
With stars like you– and crooked stripes!
We’d carry passports made from a giant Cunt Mold
In all pubic colors: Gray, Auburn, Ebony, Gold.
We’d ban all commercials of:
Are you not so fresh?
Is your vag repulsive? Do you stink like fish?
And instead, we’d conduct a Cunt Taste-Testing Session,
Get used to the smells of Blood, Yeast, and the Ocean.
And Hothead Paison would lead Alison Bechdel’s Dykes:
Watch out for the Cunt Cuntry Army on Bikes!
There’d be an Esteemed Office called “National Astrologist”
And Cunt Commander in Chief would be… a Gynecologist.
And Michael Moore would be Vice-Pres…
Cause the Cunt Cuntry Court of Legality says:
Possessing a Cunt matters less than possessing
the Cunt Mentality.
And daughters would laugh at old-fashioned terms like
Virgin and Bitch and Whore
As they checked out the newest inventory of vibrators Sold at the corner store.
Because daughters would be freer and dykes would be Freer and dicks would be freer
If we stood up and sang:
My Cunt tis of Thee
My Cunt tis of Thee
Because Cunt is the latin root of Kin and Country
But see, somehow some of our countrymen forgot they had
Sisters, decided to treat us as unwelcome visitors,
Made it hard to have a cunt in this country.
Made it hard to have a cunt in this country.
So, we are starting Cunt Cuntry.
Not out of rebellion,
Or unexamined sisterhood,
Or some sort of Seventies Separatist Revival.
We are starting Cunt Land
For that which it will stand:
One Nation
Under Survival.

Yes! It’s time to reclaim the C word. The fact that people are so outraged and stung by this word only shows how deeply the patriarchal belief is internalized IN WOMEN that the vagina is a shameful thing. If you’ve spent any time in the UK or Australia, people use the work Cunt often and in reference to both men and women. It is the equivalent of saying in the US, don’t be a Dick or that’s a Dick move. We call men Dicks all the time and they aren’t reeling in shame or acting as if they have been stabbed. That guy’s comment was meant as an insult but let’s not gets so focused on the word Cunt and what it means. Do you see what I’m saying?

Why isn’t the use of the word dick the same thing? Not trying to be hostile. Just curious what your explanation is.

Protected?? Oh you make me laugh.

you are just adorable.

Bob, I think the point of the rebuke is the hatred, and minimizing and marginalizing women, not necessarily the use of the word cunt or dick or a thousand other meant-to-be-insults-when-snarled. Could be any word, really.

Bob,

Of course your are right, no one should be spoken to in a demeaning way. So calling men a dick is wrong. As is telling them to “man up” or “grow a pair” etc.

But I think there is a subtle difference.. When a man uses a word like cunt to a woman there is an implied physical threat. It’s the same when a woman is “cat-called” on the street. These types of words are more hurtful when there is real possibility that you could be raped or physically harmed. Even if you are on a public street when a man says this, where there are people around you, it reminds you of how vunerable you are.

Women should be rebuked for calling men dicks, but other men shouldn’t? Or did you conveniently forget that that word isn’t nearly as gender-specific by the giver or the receiver? Treat us like equals by stop attempting to derail our issues and silence the discussion.

No, Bob. This is not a place to keep score. There’s no justification to treat any woman poorly. It drives me nuts when one person will use vile behavior of another to justify his own. Using any disparaging word about women is just an indication of the deep hate and contempt one has for them. Having done some counseling in my day, I know there are reasons for the hate, but they’re just reasons, not excuses. A man once asked ” If someone offers you a gift and you refuse to accept it, to whom does the gift belong?” As hard as it is to let this terrible behavior go, there’s nothing you can do to change the man and revenge is not a reward.

What? Spineless = without a spine. Without a backbone. Males and females have backbones, spines, they make you stand up straight. If you are spineless you can’t stand up for anything. Has nothing to do with emasculating.

It seems in the US when we want to cut a man or to emasculate him we call him a woman, we feminize him, we tell him to man up, to grow balls, to stop being a pussy, to stop being a girl, that he throws like a girl, we call him pussy whipped, we point out the one feature that makes him a man and NOT a woman, his dick and we start this when he is young so knows a woman is something he doesn’t want to be, that she is less than he.

When we want to belittle a woman we refer to her genitalia (cunt, pussy), to her function as a breeder (bitch) and equate her to less than a man, to less than human (bitch), we call her girl, and girly and prude and slut and we start this young too, with teasing on the playground (boys will be boys) and catcalls as she walks home from school (can’t you take a compliment, bitch). She begins to fear these words and the potential violence behind them.

As adults we know the power of words and can learn to take the power back. But before we get to adulthood we suffer a thousand slices to our child self, a thousand bleeding wounds with these words. We do not become the people we could have been. It’s with childhood and our children that we need to make this change so we can call someone out based on their actions or lack of action, not their gender or genitalia.

Ames,

*Fist bump*

Way to go, sister.

Love it. We give the word it’s meaning and can take it away. I’m proud to be a Cunt, or a vagina, or whatever. Cunts rule!!No one can shame me by using that word because I’m not ashamed of my vagina or of being a woman!

Interesting! I love that you are being completely unbiased and seeing it both ways.

Yes! You are a wise and awesome person!

I love that book! I think of it every time I hear the word cunt 🙂

Hi Victoria ~ like you, I was introduced to this book titled, “Cunt,” a few years ago when a mentor/wise woman invited her friends to read and discuss the book together over a 6-week period. You can only imagine the stories we shared about going to/calling the bookstore to order the book. Before reading the book and talking about it with a book study group, the word ‘cunt’ seemed like one of the cruelest words thrown at anyone, man or woman. But, it is just a word. It is the intent with which underscores the use of it that is important to realize, which I think Glennon, Amanda and you so eloquently explain. I performed monologues in 2 productions of “The Vagina Monologues” by Eve Ensler. She has a monologue titled, “Cunt.” By the end of the monologue, the whole audience is chanting ‘cunt, cunt, cunt,’ in a benign manner, largely humorous manner, because Eve re-defines, destigmatizes the word in the content of the monologue. The word itself will never be removed from the English language, but we can remove our own internal, defensive, trigger-like effect when it is used and then eloquently, like Amanda, respond with the plain, simple intent to educate the user. With regards to the argument that if men should not use the word cunt, then women should not use the word dick. If, and only if, white men had EVER historically been legally defined as an inferior group, then would I take time to place the use of that word in the context of the word cunt. As it is, using one word vs. the other is, to me, comparing apples to oranges. With all said and done, it’s just not nice to call each other names, especially when one is a grown-up! Brava & Bravo for the discussion!

Yes. I’m a cunt and proud of it. Not ashamed of my vagina or of being a woman. That word can never hurt me!
Cunts rule!!

Yes. I’m a cunt and proud of it. Not ashamed of my vagina or of being a woman. That word can never hurt me!

Oh my goodness, my thoughts exactly! Where do they learn this from? I caught my two sons at the dinner table calling the other one a “girl” in a derogatory way (aka teasing) and I explained to them that there is nothing wrong with being a girl and why would they tease about that. Your mother is a girl would you tease her and call her a boy. I quite firm with them. And then I went away and thought about it, was I overacting? Was this harmless? And no…it wasn’t. It was not right and I needed to explain to them that it wasn’t. But maybe this is how it starts…two little boys teasing each other and no one told them it wasn’t right. So it festers and grows into something bigger and more hurtful.

Agreed.

I find this really interesting also, why can’t they say the word they are actually meaning which is ‘weak’? Girls aren’t weak. So say what you really mean.
Then probably check yourself for teasing someone for being weak. We’ve all been weak at some moment in our lives!!!

I hate the term “mansplain.” A man should have the right to express his opinion the same as a woman. That said, the word cunt is clearly worse than the word dick, at least in our culture (in great Britain they use cunt all the time for either gender and it’s much less offensive). I do think some guys use it in a hateful, misogynistic way. However, I don’t think the term necessarily implies violence. It depends on the context. So I don’t think that every time a man uses that word he announces that he is ok with misogyny. To me that is way overblown. But the underlying point – that the world would be a better place if all men treated women like they would want their sister or daughter or mother to be treated – is valid.

*NOT worthy

If be happy to drive across the Ally to lend my vote if I could!!

Amber: Both women and men have this emotional disorder. It is called Borderline Personality Disorder / Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

If you are convinced that only the other gender is abusive, then you are a Borderline.

You explain that “cunt” doesn’t have the same weight for you, and point out that meanings are personally and culturally influenced. Perhaps, then, you should listen and consider Glennon’s phenomenological explanation on behalf of millions regarding the very real meaning it does hold for those of a different culture and entirely different gender?

Brilliantly worded, you. Respect.
-Trase

Chris, you took a very specific topic of conversation and attempted change it’s course, to make yourself the center of attention and devaluation the thoughts of the original author, without sympathizing. That technique is called deflecting. It’s not acceptable.

Hi Chris,
That you choose not to be offended is one adaptive strategy to offensive behaviors. And the behaviors you describe towards you are offensive as was Sean’s behavior. Calling out offensive behavior (which often leads to abuse)seeing it for what it is, is, from my perspective, what opens the way to awareness and possible change and growth. Amanda and Glennon are examples of this very thing. As was, since you bring racism into it, Dr. King and Black Lives Matter. They are speaking their truth with love and power. The way one chooses to work with these toxins personally is also important but not exclusive to calling out what on sees if there is an opportunity to do so. And, to my mind and it seems many others here, Amanda has done this with love and skill.
Best,
Christina

Wow. Well said, Chris. Finally something written well enough and with solid content to read on a blog.

Chris,
Thanks for your thoughts. I applaud your thick skin and I’m sorry you’ve had to develop it. I think, although you have a thick skin, and because words are culturally sensitive, it still doesn’t make it ok for a person to be ignorant or to use them. Wouldn’t you rather have people NOT call you those words than have to develop thick skin?

Developing thick skin will not solve bigotry or make “terrorists” go away, but discussing the power of words may help educate one person at a time. Probably to keep some inner peace and hopefully happiness, we can’t let those words offend us, however, if something isn’t said or done about it, ignorant folks will think that it’s ok to continue.

Whether or not offended, these discussions are really important.

What about the p word?

We should mail him a copy. Hundreds of them even!

Matt. If you call one woman whom you dislike an ass, you are not denigrating all women. But when you use an intensely hateful word that is only used against women, you absolutely disrespect all of us. There is not a comparable word used against men, so I know it is harder to get. But ask your sister and your mother if they agree with what you just wrote here. You may be surprised to find they do not.

There is not a scenario where “but she IS a cunt” is a valid or appropriate response.

I think you miss the point. You should never use the word cunt. Period.

I’m a woman. I agree with you.

Cunt is not an acceptable word to call a woman EVER. If she is hurting you or someone else, tell her exactly why or how you disagree with her. That is constructive. Calling her a “cunt” will only ever be destructive.

To be clear, I feel the same about calling a man a “dick.” Never acceptable.

I encourage you to read some of Glennon’s other writing. She is a fantastic woman who shares her experiences freely and only ever seeks to spread love and justice. I even feel bad arguing with you here because I’m not sure it’s what she’d want me to do. Plus, I’m sure she’d be much more eloquent about it.

You completely and totally missed the point. When you use the word cunt, you give permission for anyone to use the same word. Whether you agree or not is besides the point. It is how language works. It spreads. Like wild fire. And you have a responsibility to make that stop. Who determines who is horrible? You? So you get to choose who gets to be called a name and who doesn’t? Seems like a slippery slope to me. And sort of really sad that at the end of it all, you ultimately defend the use of that word depending on who it used to reference. Yes, indeed. You missed the point.

Dude. Seriously. That’s a lot of rationalization to defend a style of “commentary” that is one step up from banging rocks together. The problem isn’t the word itself; it’s the inarticulate misogyny driving those who use it that way. Who hurt you, chief? Damn.

I guess it doesn’t occur or matter to you that that “horrible person” IS someone’s daughter, mother, sister, wife, best friend. Why is it that, because you dislike someone, you think you can define them as a “horrible person” aka a “cunt?”

ABSOLUTELY 100% what I was thinking while reading the blog. One does not equal all. Well said and thank you!

It seems that you completely missed the fact that “cunt” is not just any old name. You know, this whole part:
” Misogynists call women cunts when they are trying to instill fear, trying to put us back in our place, trying to remind us that what our identity boils down to is: our cunt. And our cunt is really all we’re permitted to use, not our brain or heart or voice or passion or anger or even body, really. And so when a man calls me a cunt, I know what he is saying: Know your worth — you are nothing. You are here for no other reason than for me to use. So lie down and shut up. There is violence implied and that’s not an accident. ”
This is not the same as calling someone a “jerk”, (ie – rude) “jackass” (dumb, foolish), or even a “motherfucker” (there is no realistically- based implication in those words). But every woman who has experienced being called a “cunt” within the context someone chose to use it against them knows well the truth of Glennon’s description. As another commenter said, there is no male equivalent.
There is a big hole, torn by lack of factual and phenomenological understanding, in your own “logic” and “rational” thinking here.
(Regardless of the instability of your own logic, it’s not surprising that you went right for calling Glennon irrational. It’s one of the most popular old standby means for a man’s invalidating attack against a women when he is too polite to just call her a cunt.)

I see your point, Matt, but I don’t think that she meant that you are not allowed to dislike one woman without disliking them all. What I think she is saying is that in order to call a woman a cunt, one must first have a hatred towards women. She is saying that in order to use that word one must first have a desire to reduce that woman, violently, to a humanless thing only valuable for a man’s use and abuse. Having a desire to do that to a woman is only possible if you are capable of seeing a woman as anything other than a fellow person. I think she is saying that if you have that capacity, you have it for all women, including your sisters, daughters, etc. I hope that you can see the difference.

Hi, Matt. I commend you for thoughtfully and respectfully engaging in this dialogue, as most men shy away from it. However, the issue addressed here is the power and magnitude of a very specific word that carries tremendous hate and denigration in the context of American culture. While it isn’t an apples-to-apples comparison, I would liken the word “cunt” to the “N word,” or other racial slurs. If a white person angrily calls someone a n*gger on the internet, but never behaves hatefully towards a black co-worker, he/she has still engaged in racist behavior in another forum, which says something about his/her underlying beliefs about a particular group of people.

I don’t imagine you would tell an entire race of people not to be offended by a racial slur, so why question or deny the impact that the word “cunt” has on so many women?

I do agree that despising an individual woman for her deplorable behavior doesn’t mean you despise all women — but you’re conflating the issue here, which is about implicitly hateful language. If we have a specific grievance with someone, then we should address the specific grievance. Using the word “cunt” takes aim at women, not at individual behavior. It’s also just plain lazy.

If what you’re really arguing for is your freedom to use any word you want, then that is indeed your freedom. I would just encourage you to be aware of the social implications of the words you choose.

“Being ignorant is not so much a shame as being unwilling to learn.” Benjamin Franklin

If a man does such a horrible thing as to call a women a cunt, it doesn’t mean he thinks the same of women he loves, as you pointed out. No, that’s thinking too literal. It means he is actively creating a world where it’s acceptable for men to treat women with less value and respect he was expects for himself. For this, he must take responsibility for his contribution to the world where he and the women he may love still have to live.

Hi, I’m sorry. I do understand that there are some women you don’t like. I mean that honestly, but what I think may not be crossing your mind is the fact that one word is overkill. Even to a woman you don’t like, why would you need to degrade her so much? Why do you need to tell her she is nothing? Why do you need to tell her she is a worthless object? Why do you ever need to make someone else less than you? You can dislike anyone you want, but it says so much more about you and not the person you dislike.

“I’m not trying to, but … ” “I’m not saying that … ” “I don’t do that, but … ”

When you post something that requires this many qualifiers, you can’t then sit back and say that people who vehemently disagree with you are “professional internet victims.”

Saying “I don’t do that, but” or “I don’t say that, but” or “I personally don’t believe, but … ” really means that you think that doing that, saying that, or believing that is OK in certain circumstances because hey, she REALLY is a cunt, y’know?

Nope, not OK. Not even if the person really is someone you believe to have earned the title. To most women, the word “cunt” is like the word “n—r.” So when it leaves your mouth in anger, you are saying to the world and to the women in your life that you think it’s OK to use that kind of demeaning, subjugating language to insult a woman, even if she is a horrible person.

How about calling her a horrible person? An evil bitch, even? There are so many words you can use other than cunt. Cunt goes right to the source. It calls out our “otherness” in a way that is demeaning and inescapable. There is no corollary for men, I’d like to point out. When you call someone a “n” you are calling out their otherness in a despicable way. Same for cunt. You boys can call each other f–gs or cocksuckers or whatever you want, but that is an insult to gay men in general. It doesn’t necessarily mean that the person to whom it’s addressed is gay. You’re not calling them out for being “other.” You’re just calling them a name, bonus points for demeaning an entire group along with it, amirite?

I’ve thought hard about your comments and I just can’t get with them. I agree with the previous posters that the male privilege you are displaying is pretty stunning. Also, when I say privilege, I don’t mean that you have money or power or status or whatever. It means that you have the privilege of being in the Category On Top – men. When you’re in such a category, it’s going to be a real stretch for you to tell people in the categories below you how they should feel about being in that spot.

Couldn’t agree more!!

This! Yes! I was talking with my BEST that not only do we want our daughters to have the courage to say no to an uninvited sexual advance, i.e. rape – we want them to be able to sat no in situations where the answer is no because “this is gooooood stuff and I don’t want you to have any of it”

Yes! Thank you for articulating this!

No No! We do not have to sink to their level of vulgarity!

Yes. This.
And I refuse to let someone else’s use of the word cunt offend me, that takes away it’s power over me and gives the power to me.

YES!! xx

Yes! Since my college woman’s studies class in 1990 THIS is how I hear and use the word cunt. It is MINE, it is my power, is the source of my creativity… That power scares people with no power of their own.

PS…seeing you this Saturday in Oak Park!!! 🙂

Please – PLEASE – don’t blame his mother. He is a grown man with a family. He needs to own his behavior, regardless of his relationship with his mother, his father or anyone else.

I wonder what happened in his relationship with himself.

As a linguistics teacher, she was probably trying to teach you the etymological use of the word. Originally, that is what the word meant in Old English (though newer translations may relate it as above, if you read an older version of Chaucer you’ll find it in the correct “queint”). You can also find other variations of this word that more closely resemble what one might currently expect in different Germanic languages that have fed modern English. Hopefully you were studying something in linguistics since you denoted that as her field, and if so, that definition could have easily been considered correct in her expertise.

Your comment intrigued me so I found your most recent post and read it. I may have to go back and read more of what you have to say. Our backgrounds aren’t precisely parallel but I seem some overlap.

Hi there. What is your blog called, please? I am interested.

boohoo Cunt

I’m still bothered by the F word, because isn’t the whole connotation of it to be using sex to show anger or violence? You don’t say “F you” to someone meaning, “I would like to make love with you.” When you say or write a word that turns sexual intercourse into rage or a threat, how is that in any way empowering the women who use it? I know some women who seem to find using that word somehow liberating, but I don’t get it. To me, it sounds like joining men in seeing sex as a weapon.

What about women like who lose their husband’s and are nice to the 25 wen they found out about but not one was nice and they all lied to me
I deserve answers and honesty. Not cheating women calling ME a slut and whore. I am angry at my husband but a Wan Ned Jenny is stalking me via internet. I am in south pain and she has deleted pictures, chats, files, everything. No one believed me until an ITexpert saw it happen. Now the FBI, police and a cyber crimes investor are involved and she is STILL not stopping. So yes, I am passed at this woman who cheated knowing he had a wife and has stalked me. I’ve been through hell and have every right to be angry at this sociopathic, empathy lacking, cheating, lying. theif of a :woman”