I’m staring at this blank page and thinking: This is one of the most important things you’ll ever write. Be kind and brave, Glennon. Steady. Clear. Shameless. Gentle. True.
Pretend it’s just the two of us here in my kitchen. I’m making us chamomile tea. I pass a mug to you and ask you to sit down on the couch with me. You follow me into my family room and and we sit down and I look at you. I can see that you’re nervous because you’ve figured out I’m about to tell you something important. I quickly say: It’s okay. Everyone is healthy. All is well. We are all okay.
We are. And yet.
Craig and I are separating.
What happened? I am still looking for the words. While I am smack dab in the middle of the unfolding, here is my best explanation: As you’ll read in Love Warrior, Craig and I endured serious trauma a few years ago. We suffered. My God, we suffered. I was broken, just completely shattered. And then we healed. It was beautiful.
And this is what I learned: You can be shattered and then you can put yourself back together piece by piece.
But what can happen over time is this: You wake up one day and realize that you have put yourself back together completely differently. That you are whole, finally, and strong – but you are now a different shape, a different size. This sort of change — the change that occurs when you sit inside your own pain — it’s revolutionary. When you let yourself die, there is suddenly one day: new life. You are Different. New. And no matter how hard you try, you simply cannot fit into your old life anymore. You are like a snake trying to fit into old, dead skin, or a butterfly trying to crawl back into the cocoon, or new wine trying to pour itself back into an old wineskin. This new you is equal parts undeniable and terrifying.
Because you just do not fit. And suddenly you know that. And you have become a woman who doesn’t ignore her knowing. Who doesn’t pretend she doesn’t know. Because pretending makes you sick. And because you never promised yourself an easy life, but you did promise yourself a true one. You did promise – back when you were putting yourself back together – that you’d never betray you again.
And so one day you sit down with your beloved, wonderful, kind, brave, warrior husband and you look at him and you say: Honey. We have worked so hard, for so long. We have been warriors for each other and for our children and for this marriage. And yet. I don’t fit here anymore.
And your husband looks at you and, eventually through his tears, he says: Four years ago you gave me the most selfless love I’ve ever received. It healed me. And now I’m going to return that kind of love to you. The kind of love that only wants truth and wholeness and peace for each other.
For the next several weeks, you do nothing but cry and talk. Sometimes it feels like that’s all you ever do—because, it turns out, you have been grieving your marriage for years. But still, you cry and talk more. You close the bedroom door and sit on that bed and you talk. You talk about how hard you’ve worked together, how you stayed on your mats and didn’t run from each other. Since you didn’t run, you discovered together that fight or flight aren’t the only options. There is a third way: heal.
You talk about how broken you each were when you met, and how whole each of you is now. You say to him: You’ve been my healing partner. He says: And you have been mine. You talk about how you can forgive someone and love someone and at the very same time know that you cannot be with them anymore. You get more honest than you have ever, ever been before. You talk about how hard, how very brutal it’s all been for the two of you. Since day one. And you talk about how beautiful it’s been for the two of you. Since day one. There is a moment in every conversation when one of you says: My God, the kids – and neither of you can go on. That’s the black hole. Still is. I can’t write more about that right now. Someday. Not today.
You sit in a therapist’s waiting room to discuss how to handle this with as much peace as possible for the kids.
You sit with your children and you create a new family mission statement:
Then you help your soon-to-be-ex-husband-forever-life-partner move into a rented house a few doors down. You have family dinners, plan your family summer vacation together, and you look at each other and realize you’ve never loved each other more, bigger, truer.
And then you tell your team. You tell the people who are invested in your career. And hot damn, this is bad timing. There is fear and panic. Because you are about to launch the biggest project of your career, the book you finished a year ago, and so many have been working so hard for its release. And it’s all about your marriage. And the advice from many is: Wait, G. Just wait till after the book has launched to reveal this. This is a MARRIAGE book – you can’t break up before it even comes out! Glennon – it will affect sales. It will affect your career, your success.
And you will listen to this advice. And you will decide: No.
Like Mama T said: I was not called to be successful. I was called to be faithful.
I was called to be faithful to truth and vulnerability and to YOU. I never promised anybody I’d get it all right; I promised I’d keep showing up forever. Today. Whether I’m in the valley or on the mountaintop.
Please come close when I say this next part, it’s important: This next step is not a departure from the path of the Love Warrior. This next step is the fulfillment of it – for me, for my particular journey. Love Warrior is a book about self-trust. It’s a book about a woman who has painstakingly learned that there is a still, small voice guiding her through this brutiful life one next right thing at a time. And that the only thing she cannot do – not ever again – is betray that voice. Self-betrayal is allowing the fear voices to drown out the still, small voice that knows what to do and is always leading us home to ourselves and to truth and to love. Love is the boss of me, not fear, and certainly not “success.”
And by the way, success to me is not staying in a marriage — it’s staying in my own peace. At all costs. And so, even when it’s highly inconvenient – even when it feels CRAZY – I will listen to the voice, and I will obey it. And I will be messy and complicated – and I will show up anyway. Because I’ve fought too hard for my sobriety, sanity, integrity—and for your trust—to give it up now.
So I said to the team: We tell our people now.
And they said: Okay. Should we clear your schedule then? Revealing yourself in your writing about this is one thing, but do you want to be on stages with it? Won’t that feel too vulnerable?
And I thought about that for a while. Lord have mercy, cancelling the tour sounded good.
And I decided: No.
My family is here, now in two houses. But my family is also you.
I will not hide from you, not now. I will show up in your cities, in your churches and theaters and on stages and I will say: HERE I AM. A little busted up, but not destroyed. I will be at my weakest, but when we are weak, then we are strong. If I’m this weak, can you imagine how strong I’ll be? Damn.
Listen: Love is not a victory march. It’s a cold and it’s a broken hallelujah. So I might be cold and I might be broken but I am still gonna scream HALLELUJAH all over this country. I am going to stand in front of you with my medicated little head held high and I am going to be so busted up and broken that the light is going to pour out of me like stained glass. I know this.
Here’s what else I know: Some loves are perennials—they survive the winter and bloom again. Other loves are annuals—beautiful and lush and full for a season and then back to the earth to die and create richer soil for new life to grow. The eventual result of both types of plants is New Life.
New life. Nothing wasted. No failure. Love never fails. Never, never. Love is messy and beautiful and brutal – and Love is the whole point. So, I am not afraid, I was born to do this.
I’m asking you, please love me through this. Be my people. The world will have opinions and I need this Love Warrior Army. Please stay close.
Sister On, my beloveds. We can do hard things. We belong to each other. And LOVE WINS.
G
P.S. Since I publicly announced the trauma in my marriage four years ago, I have become a soft place to land for women in marriage trauma. I have listened to what kind of responses from people are helpful and which are hurtful. So many of us want to say and do the loving and supportive thing, but we sometimes don’t know what that looks like. So, with humility, love (and a healthy dose of defensiveness on behalf of my heart and the hearts of my warrior sisters), I offer the following thoughts:
If I don’t mention something, it’s not because I forgot to. It’s because I desperately have to find the balance here between honesty and a tell-all. Between transparency and responsibility. What I owe you and what I owe myself. There will be parts of this story I (try to) keep for myself and Craig and the kids. If you can, please resist assumptions, gossip, or asking for details I haven’t provided. I can tell you this: I feel defensive of Craig here. No one could have worked harder. There is no better father or man on earth. Craig is a hero. He is a Love Warrior. I am fiercely proud of him.
Try to avoid lamenting how sad it is that people “throw away their marriages these days.” Try not to generalize. I have met hundreds of divorced women who didn’t throw their marriages away. Most of us fight like hell for our marriages until we realize that we can either save our marriages or save our souls. So please, I’m not looking for advice. Just love and support.
Please don’t pretend to know what God thinks of us. Please think deeply about the chasm-wide difference between leaving a man and leaving God. Please remember that when a woman leaves, she just brings God with her. Nothing separates a woman or a family from God’s love. Not death, and certainly not divorce. Jesus taught us that sometimes death is necessary for there to be new life. And that God loves us far more than any institution God made for us. When someone suggests otherwise, it brings shame to us. But we won’t let that in. We are women who have become far too wise to believe in shame.
Sometimes, when people make decisions about marriage, it evokes strong feelings in others. If my news does that to you today, please look inside and get curious about whether those feelings have more to do with you and your life than they do about me and mine.
I will repeat this last one: Please stay close. I need you more than I’ve ever needed you.
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G–your story is stunningly familiar to me right now and I never thought your words could relate even more than they already have. As you reveal your story, know you are walking along side many others who are heading (stumbling)down a similar path. We will hold you and you will hold us, if for no other reason than We Belong To Each Other. Love and light.
G. 20 years ago, after long deliberation, trial and tribulation I left my marriage. I could not be true to me inside the marriage and though he was happy with the status quo, I just wasn’t. It was the best thing I could have done for both of us. Without me to rely on he had to go out and make more friends and do more things, which he did. I grew and blossomed and now have the most awesome world of friends in my life and have had a rich and fulfilling career. He passed away 3 years ago and I wept and my heart ached but it was still the very best thing for both of us. You expressed it most beautifully – after being broken, when put back together you’re put back differently – and we have to go with that. My heart to yours.
<3
Beautiful.Brave.Humbling.
Love and strength to you all.
Your humility and strength wows me. You are such a brave and courageous woman. It is not easy to put your Soul first and do what needs to be done. I have been there and applaud your honesty and undeniable love and respect you have for Craig and your children. May God continue to walk this journey with you and carry you those moments that you can not walk. Sending lots of love, hugs and support.
Thank you for your commitment to the messy, confusing, challenging, painful, and yes, healing truth of life lived in the foggy space between black and white. You, Craig, and your kids remain in my thoughts and prayers as you continue your journey. Thank you for allowing us to witness your courage. I look forward to reading my pre-ordered copy of Love Warrior!
I’m so honored to witness your honoring of your faithful heart.
Xxo
Such a big, brave, beautiful post and decision and approach. Warrior on. I’m standing with you.
<3 <3 <3
I love your words and courage, my losses in life have taught me keep putting one foot in front of the other, don’t stop trying but rest, give yourself grace and love. There comes a day when we aren’t living in truth that we realize we can’t keep giving away parts of ourselves that we can’t get back, that leads to death. Prayers for your family.
Wishing you and your family peace and healing. I have walked a similar path in my own family. I know that it takes great courage and love to be a family that lives in two houses. But I also know that LOVE is what makes family, not legal papers or rings. The work of being a family is difficult under all circumstances. Your love and warrior spirits will carry your family through. There is no failure in love. Relationships change as we change. Sometimes they don’t fit us anymore. That’s not failure that’s growth.
I admire you, you are brave, strong and most of all true to yourself. The only way way to live. My love goes out to your family!
God, you are so damn brave. All the love and support I can offer is yours.
We are on the brink of something important here, Glennon! When I found Momastery 4 years ago, I was tortured by this feeling-this knowing-that my marriage to the good and kind man I married, my best friend and father of our 2 beautiful children, wasn’t “right”. I have my story, all the hard work we did, but with God’s grace and your mantras–“We can do hard things”, “Love Wins”–we have forged, still are forging, a new way of being a family. And I am certain that this way of doing things, this third option “to heal” (versus flight or fight/staying or leaving) is something we must bring to the consciousness of our world–it can be done! And it can save our families and our children and ourselves and diminish the shame associated with separation or divorce or 2-household families. Talk about a revolution! Other people’s reactions to your choice is all about their own issues–remember that. You are brave and true and I am with you all the way through your evolving journey–we were born to do this!
Thank you for sharing your truth with us. Your marriage will always be a thing of beauty, you have just completed the work you had to do with one another. It sounds like it was transformational, holy, healing work but good for the two of you to realize it is completed. You are an inspiration and you are loved, both you and Craig.
This is some brave shit. <3
You are the bravest. You are inspirational. Be true to yourself. Sending love…
Look at you, with your open smile, your drink in a GLASS GLASS and a SLICE OF CITRUS– that’s how I knew this is an EXTRA important post! 🙂 I’ll be continuing to love and pray for your entire family, as a family and as individuals– which you always were/will always be. Holding space for you. Think of me as one of many standing up as a human love wall between you and Westboro church/National Enquirer worst attitudes and impulses… You are a Shero, always.
I’m here for you, friend. I honor your courage and your pain.
Thank you for demonstrating grace and dignity in ending a relationship.
I am so grateful for you!
Oh the gifts when we are vulnerable and authentic. On the journey of living the sober life, I find sometimes we carry others and sometimes we are carried. I hope you are feeling supported by your sisters, but I must share that today you are carrying me. I am standing on the precipice of separating from my husband of 21 years. He is a good man and a great father. I cannot believe we can’t make it work. We’ve tried. I have been so critical of myself. My self-talk has been about my failure to be in relationship with others. That I am a loser and unable to explain adequately why other than I believe somehow this is all my fault. Thank you thank you thank you for sharing. I don’t know yet if I can see myself as the butterfly that no longer fits in the caterpillar world, but for the first time I have hope that I am not a bad person. That I am not less than because of the facts of my life. I have been following you for years. I got sober 12 years ago in NYC and there was a man in the rooms who used to say “How can I fail? How can I fail when I walk with these great warriors of sobriety?” I was new and I remember thinking, “What warriors? I’m in a room with a bunch of schlubs who couldn’t handle their drinking?” Obviously, I learned what it means to be a great warrior and I have lived that life and shared it to the best of my ability with my sisters, but in my marriage I feel I had failed. Now, after reading your article, a window has opened. Perhaps I have not failed. Perhaps I am still a great warrior who is being guided down an unexpected path to continue to carry the message with love. I cannot express my gratitude in words. Thank you!
Holding space for you as well. Your courage is beautiful. Fly, sweet butterfly.
Thank you!
Glennon- I had the honor of receiving an advanced reading copy of your new book. And when I say honored….I mean honored. Your words and fierce honesty have already positively affected my heart, my soul, and my marriage. Your story is my story. Thank you for being brave for all of us and lighting such a clear path to freedom. Deep bows to your integrity for recognizing your truth at this time and for stepping forward as only a true warrior could. I’m sending so much love and light to your entire family dear sister…..blessings….
You are so open and brave. Thank you for being a voice. Sending my love to you.
Glennon,
I am keeping you and your beautiful family in my thoughts and prayers.
Thank you for sharing your truth, thank you too for being Craig’s champion and loving each other through the hard stuff. You are setting a wonderful example for your children and for all of us.
Carry on sister warrior, we are close; holding you up and sending love and light your way!
<3
I’m pretty sure most all of us love you more. Hugs to your entire brave clan.
Thank you for living in truth! It is the only way to live! My love goes out to you and your family.
We can do hard things. We will be here for you. We love you and Craig and your family. You are not only a Love Warrior, but a Life Warrior – and you are my SHEro. Love wins. xo
One your most poignant posts, truly a Truth Warrior. I continue to follow because you are honest and compellingly transparent, that to me is beautiful.
I am in tears; for your beauty. Your bravery. Your spirit. Your knowingness. Your heart. Your family. You are indeed a stained glass filled with light. I am so proud of you. Proud to “know” you. To have held you in my arms both physically and virtually. And I will hold you in my heart forever. Thank you for who you are, dear one. You are lifted in love and light by all of us whose lives you’ve forever altered. We are yours and you are ours. xo
Unh. That must have been such a hard decision. Love and admiration. You have such a sense of your own truth. You are an amazing person. Thank you for helping us all feel loved. We love you, too.
Sending so much love to you and your family Glennon. Thank you for being brave and sharing yourself with us. I am saving my soul right now too and it’s your words that have so often been a source of comfort and inspiration to me.
My love to you and your Craig and your children. I am so glad you learned to listen to your heart and continue to listen, even though it can be so, SO hard. My prayers to you all in this sensitive new time with new fresh but tender skin. I love how you are telling others what you need and how to respond. We all need to learn how to do that better because people are amazing and connected to each other and often we need to know how to respond.
Wow. Amazing. I am in awe of your truthfulness, your vulnerability, your faith in love winning and swimming to the surface. Hugs to you today, Glennon.
I am sad you and Craig are hurting and I wish it could be different for you both and yet I am also so proud of you guys and in awe of the love you have shown each other and the example you two have been to your kids and to us. Love, honesty and integrity win every time. Don’t forget. XO
Wow. This is obviously a very painful and trying time for you and your family, thank you for sharing for those who may be in a similar situation. I truly believe that everyone walks their own path- a path unique to them. I hope you find strength and generosity from those around you after this announcement! THANK you for being real and honest, sending love and internet hugs!
seeing you, hearing you, feeling you
I am so excited to read your book that was written from your heart at a time when all you wrote was true. I will remember that you did not know the ending to the “marriage book” just as no one knows the ending to their marriage books. God has a plan and only He knows the ending. I would have a much harder time holding the book as true if it seemed you waited to announce any news until after the book release. Thank you for showing us there are so many different ways to be true, happy and a family!
I can only imagine what a difficult decision this was for you both. I can imagine how your family feels right now. I’m holding space for all of you and lifting you up as best as I can. My love and hope and healing to all of you.
Even in the midst of this difficulty, you show grace, wisdom, and love. What a gift you are, Glennon. I learn something from you every single time a read something of yours. Thank you deeply for that.
Love + Support = YOURS
That’s all.
You stayed, you fought for your marriage and you healed. If your soul cannot grow as God intends in this marriage, no matter how good a man your husband is, you are showing strength to step out in faith. I am a strong believer in marriage being forever, but I don’t believe God calls us to stay in marriages that don’t allow us to be who He wants us to be. Prayers for peace and comfort
Staying close. We love you, G.
You got me, still, sister. Me…the broken, been-through-the-divorce-hell as well. Me…the one who prays for wholeness and openness and strength every day. Yeah, you still got me. And I got your back….always.
I remind myself often, so because I love you like me, I’m remind you as well….I had to go through what I went through to get to here. And here is good. SO good. I just love right now.
And your new “here” will be good too. I promise. And I never lie to my beloved friends.
Soldier on, beloved friend.
Wishing you all peace , love and support now and always. That’s all. Carry on, Warrior. You are loved.
I just can’t stop crying. Sending you love, G.
I wish I could hug you right now – so imagine that right now! You have put to words something I’ve felt for years but couldn’t articulate. My sister died 24 years ago, a week before my 20th birthday. It broke me utterly. And it broke my parents. They stayed broken. And I started slowly, awfully to put myself back together. It was horrible and for a long time I was angry that my parents made me do that myself. And then the anger faded, as it does, because overtime I became whole. But I didn’t fit with them anymore. And now you’ve given me the words to express that and understand. My healing took me in a different direction and I met my husband of 21 years. And I’m still connected to my parents but we don’t fit – I’m a different shape. I cried this morning when I read your words- selfishly – because you gave me words. Thank you – Love Wins! You can do hard things!
I love you sweetie! Warrior On!
As someone who has been through muddy things, crazy muddy, including divorce, please remember God loves you so. No matter what. I am praying for you and Craig and the family and sending much love…xo
G, my heart is yours, pouring light and live all around you, Craig and the kids, and your whole extended family. I pray that in this light you all find your way through the hard times and that it always brings you back to each other, and to God. You are a beacon if light for us, now it’s our turn to be that beacon. Thank you for being vulnerable, and than K you to your family. Sharing will help so many and you all at the same time. You are my heart animal, from the first time we hugged, to the second. With Light, and Love, E
Lots mental hugs and love headed your way.
My tea would be set down and I would take your hands, and tell you I love you and I am here for you. Thank you for your courage and for your consistent modeling of living your values. You are not just a Love Warrior, you are a REVOLUTIONARY. I have never met you, but I truly do send love your way, and I thank you for sharing your journey – I am inspired and find reassurance in your story – knowing that a path can look boldly loving, and one that is different than what you expected or had hoped and fought for. Love and light to you, Glennon – and so much gratitude that you are who you are and share your story with us. XO <3
Glennon. We are here. We are all here for you. You’ve given so much to your readers, your sisters and brothers in this huge scary world. All of us broken, some more than others, are here for you, for Craig, for the kids. Love wins. You’ve taught us well. We’ll be here to listen when you’re ready to talk.
We got you.
I have been there and I understand the courage it takes to leave a marriage. Courage. Not cowardice.
Courage.
You are dearly loved and a warrior for truth and honesty.
❤️
Sending you tons of LOVE <3 you are so brave!
Lots of love, love, love!
xox
Glennon, sending love, light and positive energy to you, Craig and your kids during this hard time.
Thinking of you as you navigate this, Glennon, You’re such a warrior, truth teller and I love that!
I love you, my sister/daughter/friend/warrior. I will be holding space for you, Craig, and the kids. We can do hard things!
OH GLENNON!
I love you. I cannot even fathom how difficult this has been for you. Difficult is an absurd understatement. But thank you for being faithful to yourself and being so loving to your family and always sharing this stuff with us.
I will hold you and your family in my heart. Wow you are so brave. Thank you for your courage.
Your people will ALWAYS be with you.
Sending you big hugs,
Betsy
I am living this currently. My divorce was final in June and people do not understand how we are still so happy as friends and in each other’s lives. I WISH I would have been able to explain it this eloquently to my family and friends. We are absolutely with you and adore you and your family. In fact, bravo to you for being honest with yourself and doing the right, brave thing in choosing authenticity and truth in your marriage. Thank you so much for sharing this with all of us.
Thank you for your strength and honesty. You are inspiring and loved. I cannot wait to get my book. All our love and prayers to you and your family.
Just a big hug for your honest, loving, fierce little self.
Every last bit of love I have sent to you. And all my support. And holding space, love!
G-
YOU are so courageous. Know that now, and always, we have your back. You are so loved. Your honesty, compassion, and willingness to be brave has taught me so, so much about myself and I can never thank you enough for that.
My parents divorced when I was in middle school. They (like you and Craig) love and respect each other and let me tell you…though it was hard at first it all worked out. I know you worry about those beautiful kiddos. They will be stronger than you can imagine. And when they can’t be, you and Craig will be there. And we will all be here.
Thank you for leading the way in vulnerability. We love you.
Love and hugs, G. Love wins, even if it looks a little different than you originally imaged or planned. Thank you for sharing your journey with us and continuing to show up and be you – the brutiful Love Warrior.
You will never know how much this post touched my heart. I am going through the same thing right now and you put words to exactly how I am feeling . There is nothing more difficult than listening to that inner whisper, telling you something is no longer right for you, and having the courage to answer. Sending you so much love, Glennon. If this is possible, I love youeven more.
THANK YOU! Your bravery is so helpful. THANK YOU. You are helping me see hope.
I simply and fully and humbly love you. I’ll love your babies, and Craig, and your puppy too. Just love to you, dear Glennon. <3 <3 <3
Reading this, one of my favorite quotes seems so appropriate:
“Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in.”
Leonard Cohen
Your brokenness is a ray of light.
Love you, G, and thanks for sharing. Going through so much in my own life and marriage right now, and your honesty helps me so much. And I hope, one day, you might be able to share a glimpse into the whole “what about the children?” aspect, because, honestly, isn’t that the hardest??? So while I totally understand keeping that to yourself right now, just know that if there is some bit of wisdom you do feel comfortable sharing that we will treat it with the greatest respect possible because how sacred and precious and valuable a thing to learn. Love to all of you!
I could have written this comment. I also hope you share that piece one day. Lots of love!
Glennon-
Your words hit home and are so beautiful. I too finally let out that little voice in the back of my head that I tried so hard to ignore…my truth. It became so important to me that I tattooed “truth” on my right forearm as a reminder every day to not ignore it. Just over a year ago I split from my husband. I ended up in a place I thought I never would. But we got through it, the kids got through it and everyday I’m learning about myself which is such a blessing. You are incredibly brave and so inspiring. Thank you for sharing yourself with the world. Love and light to all of you!
These words struck me like no other – “…I am going to be so busted up and broken that the light is going to pour out of me like stained glass.” Your pain is going to create something beautiful. Being true to yourself and who you’ve become is going to create something beautiful. I am a product of divorced parents, and I, too, went through a divorce of my own at age 35. Neither situation provided the love and support you and Craig are able to show to each other, and I still came out on the other side better, smarter, and stronger. I cannot express to you in words how much I appreciate and respect your truth-telling. I hope someday I have the honor of meeting you and giving you a hug. You are a true Warrior. Love to you and your entire family.
As a child of divorce, I’m so so so in love with how you and your family are handling this. My parents’ divorce came when my sister and I were at very challenging ages (16 and 12), and it was messy and angry and filled with pettiness and hate and resentment. It turned my sister and I against each parent at different times, and it turned us against each other many times. It was so hard, and even now, 18 years later, I’m not sure my parents ever truly recovered. But, my sister and I are now best friends and can move on from the mess we were dealt as a family and be better for our own families. Your intentionality in staying a family and remaining kind and loving to each other will have such a huge impact on your children. An impact you may never fully understand, but know that they do and will continue to appreciate it for the rest of their lives. I can only hope to learn from your compassion and use it in my life today and every day. I’ll be lifting you up during this very very difficult time for your family.
The truth is still the truth even if it’s not what you expected to say. Thanks for being committed to your truth, to help all of us be brave enough to speak ours as well.
Lots of love!
Glennon, I know you may never see this through the hundreds of responses you’ll likely receive here but if you do, go to YouTube and listen to Carrie Newcomer singing “You can do this hard thing…” and know it is my love and gratitude song of support from my heart to yours and to your family’s hearts too.
I love you. You will be okay. Everyone’s gonna be okay.
Sending much love to you G. Much much love. My only wish for you is that writing this was as freeing for you as it was for us to read it. Sending you so much love sister warrior.
Lots and lots of love to you all. Thank you for your postscript, too; that’s hugely important. I’m seven years out from my divorce, happily remarried, and have been so inspired by your words as I continue to rebuild my life, little by little, one right action after the next.
I really wish I were as brave as you. Reading your description of how you feel after putting all the pieces of yourself and your marriage back after a trauma echoes my own heart so much it brought me to tears. I’ve been trying to force the round peg that I am, into the square hole that is my marriage. It just doesn’t work. I’m working up the courage to do what you are but just don’t find myself there…yet. Thank you for your candidness. Prayers for you and your family.
As usual, I’m awed by your wisdom, your strength of character and of your convictions, and your simple clarity of thought and speech-I can never hope to express myself as well as you do, and I’m constantly amazed at your openness.
You may recall from earlier comments of mine (over these last 8 years or so) that I have no Faith, so I can’t offer prayers for you & Craig & the kids. Well, I CAN pray, but my prayers might be taken as insincere, and backfire, so I think maybe I should just offer thoughts of strength.
My family is in two houses too, since we separated in 2008. Until yesterday (literally), we lived 2-1/2 miles apart, and it’s been perfect. Now, my girls’ mom has just moved into a new house with her boyfriend. I can’t afford it yet, but I’ll be moving soon, too-to some place in the same school district, so my kids can get off the bus at my house.
Sometimes life just feels like one long series of leaps from a cliff, or like every day is spent riding a surfboard on a giant wave-and every day is the first time you’ve ever been on a surfboard.
You’ll all be great, and you’ll all be okay. <3
We love you. You can do this.
Thank you for being honest, straight-forward and true to your sisters. You are, once again, leading by example and showing us how to live real. The Love Warrior stays, the Love Warrior leaves, the Love Warrior makes peace with her reality and deals. We love you, Glennon!!! Carry on, Warrior – we are here!!
I love your new family mission statement! What made you do one in the first place?
Glennon,
Thank you. I am sorry you find yourselves at this crossroads, and yet grateful that you chose to share with us today. ‘Happiness is staying in my peace’…yes, yes, yes. I needed the simplicity of that today.
Much love,
Casey
Love you always, Glennon.
I can’t express how much I admire you and your family (in whatever form you finally land)! I have been through a very similar journey and have nothing but respect and love for you, and the thoughtful and courageous way that you have shared with the rest of us. You and your family are an inspiration, and the messiness and so very human experiences that you have openly shared are precious pearls. Thank you!
My husband died 6 years ago and we were married almost 40 years and I often think I should not have stayed for either of our souls or our children’s. Warrior on!
Thank you for sharing your heart. You are loved and you are strong. Thinking of you and praying for peace for your precious family.
Still beautiful <3
Much Much Love to you G….with you in spirit, and about your timing,”this is bad timing”,
there never is the right or good time ,but being able to breathe I feel is more important.
Again Much Love to you ,dear,.
I’m sad for you and the changes you and your family will encounter, but that’s
called living and growing.
Change is the only real constant of life.
Again remember to breathe, deep breaths,G.
stan
“Love is not a victory march. It’s a cold and it’s a broken hallelujah.” This resonates so with me. My husband and I (27 years this month) are in our own season of challenge – being more raw and real with one another than ever. Recurring patterns and persistence to try to break them. I appreciate the honor and integrity with which you speak of Craig. I feel similarly (I don’t know how similar our stories are) about my husband. We are learning to love one another in truth. The truth is it takes as much courage to stay as it does to leave – depending on each person’s journey and what they feel is right to choose. Thank you for being true to who you are. Your obedience and willingness to share your journey (the whole messy, brutiful journey) is a great encouragement to me as I navigate mine. Peace to your house – your personal house, your family house(s), and your community house. <3
close. I am so close. you are enveloped in unconditional love, immense awe, relentless support, and a world of arms so big you will always be held up.
Thank you for lighting my way.
Glennon,
Your honesty and bravery is inspiring. We are with you in and supporting you and sending love to you and your family. Carry on warrior, and thank you for being courageous enough to share your truth. ❤️
Sending big love from Pennsylvania. Sister on.
THANK YOU doesn’t even begin to cover it. THANK YOU for being real, being vulnerable and shinning your light so that others are empowered to share theirs as well. I just pre-ordered your book. Don’t you worry about sales. Those of us who want to heal and get through this life in a more loving, truly God-centered way will buy your book.
Love and hugs, Glennon. You are amazingly strong throughout this, as in everything!
Rock on, love warrior! Your honesty is inspiring. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your truth. There will always be someone out there who needs to hear it. I needed this, today.
Brave. Fierce. Love. You are one of us and we are part of you.
So sorry for your pain. God is with you, love is with you, we are with you. Hugs.