One of my greatest gifts of 2016 is a new friendship.
My favorite thing about writing is that it helps me gather my tribe. I wrote a love letter to the world called Love Warrior and sent it out into the abyss. Life is a tunnel and we writers call our truth out loud and then we get really quiet and wait and listen. The waiting is a little scary, but then the echo comes. Our tribe calls back… I hear you. Me too. Me too.
So this new friend read my love letter—she heard my call—and then she called and asked me to come talk about it with her. We sat in her backyard and we talked for a while about God and hope and love and betrayal and service and redemption and miracles. Sometimes, when she was speaking to me I felt a little bit stunned. YES, I’d think. YES, that. Please keep talking. Lord have mercy. You are saying all the things in my heart. We talked for a long time. We talked about the mistake of placing our identity solely inside roles that can change or be taken from us—and how we don’t do that anymore. I told her the only identity I claim these days is Child of God. That’s the name I came in with and that’s the name I’ll go out with. That’s the only role nobody can take from me. That’s the only solid ground I’ve got. Her eyes opened wide and she said: Since I was little I’ve called myself God’s Girl. That’s my name: God’s Girl. I was so sure I was God’s daughter that I always assumed Jesus was my brother.
We didn’t want our talk to end so we walked around her yard for a while and I played with her dogs. And then we sat on her back porch and laughed ‘till we cried. We sat down for dinner together with four of her daughters and several people who live with her that she treats like honored family. She asked me to say grace and I was nervous. We held hands and I worried because my hands were sweaty. We prayed together. Then we talked about the best moments of our lives. She talked about a project she did to bring children in South Africa Christmas gifts. She said that she spent a month ordering every black doll in America and examining each one, making sure it was beautiful enough to give to a child. She told us how there were thousands of kids who received gifts and her team researched the communities where they lived to make sure that every child had his or her name on their gift. That was the best part, she said, saying each of their names. This isn’t just a gift, she’d say: This is a gift for you. For YOU. And then she would look in each child’s eyes and say her name. Names are so important, God’s Girl said to me. Yes. Yes they are, I said.
After dinner she invited me into her office and walked me over to some pretty bookshelves. She pointed at two white frames with ledgers inside of them. They were ledgers from slave auctions. On them were handwritten names with numbers next to each—corresponding to their age and how much each was sold for. Ruby, 12 years old, $5. My friend got quiet and then she said: Sometimes I come here early in the morning and I just say their names aloud. Just to hear them.
Names are so important.
I nod. Yes, I said. Yes.
After that day, we started corresponding a bit. I address her emails: Dear God’s Girl, and I sign them: Love, God’s Girl. We make each other laugh and we remind each other that life is really hard and really beautiful and that sisterhood is just one of the best parts of the whole damn thing. When we don’t know what to say she tells me something Dr. Angelou would have said.
Names are so important. My new friend’s name is Oprah. Oprah is one of us. She is a truth teller and a hope spreader and a Love Warrior. Oprah was one of us long before we were us. She is us.
And here is the interesting thing about how I feel introducing her to you here, about bringing my new beloved friend to this space. I feel nervous. I feel so protective of her. Because sometimes it feels like we have guidelines for how we respect each other but we throw them right out the window when it comes to celebrities. I love my new friend. She is truly one of the most loving, giving, beautiful souls I have ever met in my entire little life. I want my friend to be safe here with us just like you are safe here with us.
Sister Oprah, meet my people. My people, meet Sister Oprah. Please welcome her to our fold with all the love we’ve got.
ALSO: In case you want to watch our backyard conversation, it’s going to be ON THE TV! APPARENTLY THE REVOLUTION WILL BE TELEVISED!! You guys: If you’d like to, please tune into Super Soul Sunday on OWN on September 11.
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I saw Super Sunday with you first then I just finished the book on audio. I am in complete and utter awe. You told my story so vividly. I could relate on so many levels.
Just thank you. It’s time to accept life’s imviation to stop being small, pretty and quiet. I’m still finding my voice, but it’s starting to roar inside of me. I can barely stand to send my representative out anymore. I appreciate your words, your honest, your openness, your rawness. I’ve been in recovery for 4 years now. So much pain and growing (AFGO! I love that!) I feel like this book was put in my path at just this precise time. I’m on the midst of big changes. Finally standing up for myself (professionally) but I’m scared and excited at the same time. I needed your words. I’m so tired. So tired of the act. I just want to be true, and free, and me. Thank you.
The new trifecta of sisters Glennon, Oprah and Brene is truly blowing my mind and rocking my world. Of course these truth tellers would connect, at their base they are love. I feel so inspired to write my own story after reading Love Warrior. Oprah taught me I was worthy when I felt horrible about myself. She taught me the importance of showing up, like she did, for all of those years she was on the air. My kids thought we were close friends because of my insistence they were quiet during The Oprah Show. I have been a fan of Brene since the TED talk was just available, not viral. She taught me to stop thinking about what other people’s opinions of me are. Glennon put into words concepts that are universal and true and tough.
I have the utmost respect for the way these women handle themselves, in public, and what they keep to their hearts. They give so much to their followers and fans but I’m impressed with the fact Glennon in particular is true to herself. Yes, save your soul, sister. I, for one, can see your truth and it’s a beacon for us all.
Oprah, Welcome. Of course, come in.
O & G, is there a way for those of us without a subscription to the O Network to see the conversation? I would be happy to pay for a copy, if that is ever a possibility.
Super soul tv on the Internet ! It’s free 🙂 that’s how I watch super soul Sunday every Sunday. It’s such a good episode and you can see their band forming as they talk <3
Go to supersoul website it’s there.
Funny, but I feel exactly the same way when I watch Oprah on supersoul. She always gets me closer to God, step by step. I Love this new religion 😀
Dear Love Warrior,
I just finished your book over the weekend. I don’t know how I was able to do that but I was carrying the book around everywhere I went like it was my infant child.
I hear you. Your story resonates with me. I’m not bolemic, alcoholic or have ever been a drug addict. But I am a very lonely person and nobody knows it but me. Anyone that knows me would never ever guess. My representative is strong and well and loved and …..I’m not.
I want to be a warrior too, but I’m so scared. I’ve lived my life identifying the exact rules I must abide by and following them to a T. Did I ever deviate from the rules? 3 times in my whole life and no one in the world knows about them. I’m afraid. I am afraid that if ever I become a warrior I’ll not only be alone inside (like I already am) but also my representative will be alone too. What would I do then? What would my children think of me?
I will try to follow your advise. One thing at a time. Perhaps a slow smooth transition is key. In the meantime I’ll be soaking up the pain instead of hiding it under a rug (I’ve got plenty of those) and may the higher power help me on this journey.
Thank you. You inspire me. You encourage me.
Thank you
I finished Love Warrior today, and then I watched Super Soul Sunday. I am so thankful for you and for your voice, Sister G, and I am so happy for you. I see you standing in your truth, in your strength, in your Self.
I have held hands with pain and grief, for almost a year now. I’m starting to feel moments of joy and peace. I’m learning to breathe, to stay with myself, in this moment, to only be concerned with what needs to be done today – as we learn in the rooms, the next right thing — and let tomorrow take care of itself.
I’m hoping that I too can learn to listen to my body, and to give it words in the moment, to give it a voice.
with much love and gratitude –
tamara
I just finished watching you on Super Soul Sunday. You spoke to my soul. I found myself crying at the lies I tell everyone because I am afraid to tell them how I really feel. I come from a family that can be very judgmental and all that I share with people goes through the filter of “What would my family say/think?” I have been running away from pain with sex, alcohol, buried in a computer and just ignoring it causing stress. I had cancer and I didn’t tell anyone in my family.
I am slowly opening up and sharing more with people who are fully accepting and love unconditionally but I have a long way to go. Your words that pain is not a hot potato, but a travelling professor who we should invite in really spoke to me. I grew tremendously when my marriage failed and I intend to now feel my pain and learn from it instead of denying it.
Thank you for sharing with me and allowing me to follow your journey. I intend to learn so much more from you on your website and in your books.
Thank you.
Hi Glennon. I just finished Love Warrior and I’m trying to find the words to express how I feel. I wish I had your gift for writing and speaking. I don’t – so here goes. My husband and I haven’t had sex in more than 3 years and then probably only 5 times in the 6 years before that. Your descriptions about how you felt about sex were spot on with my feelings. I was abused as a teen and followed the same path you did in college with men and de-valuing myself. I book-marked your book to death and want to start on the journey to connect my body back to my mind and spirit. I want to be whole again. I am ready. Thank you for giving me the inspiration to start my path towards wholeness.
I can’t even begin to tell you how much I can relate to you !!
I just got your book on audible I can’t wait to start it everything about you resonates with me !!
I’ve lost a sister to the disease of alcoholism .
I’ve lost a dad to the disease of alcoholism .
I lost a brother to the disease of alcoholism .
I too am going through a divorce
I too am a recovering alcoholic of 11 years
I too have children
“My bathroom floor days” look like Laying in bed with the covers over my head curled up in a ball !!
but like you I realize that those days are the beginnings of my best days ahead
I realize also that I give the power away when I lay in bed with the covers over my head !!
you have given me such inspiration to know that I can walk through whatever I need to walk through Because I have I love warrior like you every step of the way good luck with your book I look forward to reading it !!
Just finished reading Love Warrior and loved seeing God’s Girl in the acknowledgements.
For being the world’s love warrior.
I fully agree!
<3
Thank you is really all I can say! Your story and you are beautiful!
Wait, Oprah has daughters?!
Her daughters are her girls at the school she built in Africa.
Just here to say, the Love Warrior army is here and behind you and sending love!
All these major news articles are terrifying to me (and bringing out trolls and grumps and mean people in the comments), so I can’t imagine your rollercoaster right now. But we see your goodness and truth and hope–and for every cynic, there is a Monkee, who you inspire to release the cynicism in favor of grace and hope. You belong to us and we’re with you!
Glennon,
This is the first time, and most likely the last, that I have ever commented publicly on anything, I am extremely private. I have been inspired by you, your spirit, your truth and your humble nature. My daughter and I share in your inspiration and fire. Many years ago when my daughter was very young she wanted a subscription to Oprah’s magazine. I was delighted to get it for her because we watched her often and I was proud that my daughter valued the character that Oprah displayed. My heart sank as year after year Oprah was displayed on the front of the magazine, looking beautiful and so very rich. It has never stopped, all these years later, it is Oprah. There are amazing women all over the world that she could highlight, but she chooses to highlight herself month after month, year after year, I have to turn away when I see them. I have given up on Oprah, I know that she is giving, but I think there is a problem deep inside. Glennon please do not become this way, it is not a way to connect with people, please remain real, that is what brought us to you, Peace
If you had read or heard why she didn’t use others it would make sense. There’s nothing wrong with wealth. She earned it, just like you earn your pay. The help she has given to others is staggering. She put over 500 men through Morehouse, started a school for girls in South Africa which now has college students and graduates all over the world. If her money is an issue for you, the problem is not her.
You are right on Del. I don’t know Oprah but she seems like a good person. I’m sure G is like me in that she believes that it must be difficult for anyone who has so much material wealth , (not just Oprah )to stay strong in a world where there is so much value placed on material things. Hopefully we all recognize our true wealth is not in the bank but in our love for one another irrespective of our bank accounts. Sometimes I find myself judging others harshly and that is when I know that I need to do a soul check on myself. Glennon, Oprah, Del and G,..,,keep shining that powerful lady light and we”ll all get through this life okay! Let’s keep praying for all of us to shine on. Much love and peace.
Sister,
The magazine is called O for Oprah. It is not like her talk show where she brought other people in to have conversations with the world about their lives or causes. She is inviting us into an intimate conversation with her life, thoughts, causes and beliefs. Either way, you can’t judge a book (or a magazine) by its cover. The content (inside) is more important than the outside. 🙂
Glad to meet you. I’m getting married next month, and though excited, I am also afraid to fail. I am looking forward to learn from your experiences. I hope your book is available here in the Philippines. God bless you.
I have just discovered your blog. I am getting thru the posts from the beginning and stayed up way too late reading. How can I be a monkee. I want to be one of you all. Lilbets
Wow. This is the first time I’ve ever read anything by you. I just read the article about you in The Post and it sent me to your blog. Again… wow. Love you, and now I wonder where the hell I’ve been. Clearly I’ve spent too much time under a rock or struggling to keep my family in order (good days are barely > bad days). Free time (what is “free time”? I’ve heard of it…) is filled with running or reading books that make me long for another life that I don’t really want, if that makes sense. I’m happy, except when I’m not. One of these days I say I’ll write a book. I hope its a kids’ book filled with color and humor and love, but maybe it won’t be.
I’m so grateful I found you.
Lizzy, my words exactly!
I happen to come across this article, this site, this woman, this community as I sit holding back tears at my desk. My on and off again first love and I have been through so much. mostly, his infidelity and my refusal to give up on him. I am currently trying to wrap my head around him being addicted to online relationships and how I am supposed to be OK with it because its not in person. This does not make it any less heartbreaking and I feel shattered all over again.
Ironically the bookstores in my area are SOLD OUT of your books and I must wait a week to get one. Until then I will remain resilient and strong knowing that I am not alone. Knowing that my truth will set me free one way or another.
I look forward to reading your words and finding some healing within them.
Namaste
Krissy, you can also get the audiobook read by G right now on Audible – it’s excellent. Sending you a hug. <3
Krissy,
I feel your pain; I was diagnosed with breast cancer last year, and , just as I was finishing up with treatment and at a point where I should’ve been celebrating, I found out my husband had been unfaithful to me. It shattered my heart and my world, but I am learning to SLOWLY rebuild trust and confidence in myself. In our case, and fortunately, it has brought us closer together in some ways. In others, it has made me stronger as an individual.
Keep you head up and work on yourself before you figure out what you are going to do. And regardless of what you decide, remember that IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! (I have to tell myself this every day) I have forgiven, but I will never forget. He is still my best friend, my rock, my heart and soul. He made a crappy decision that he must live with. And I have chosen to pick my head up and move on with life as well, with him and on my terms.
Love and hugs, and much peace to you!
Thank You so much! You are so strong to have made it through emotional distress as well as physical.
I appreciate your kind words very much. I plan to focus on me and let him focus on him. We did not live together so we are in different spaces so its “easy” but man alive there is nothing easy about it lol If we are meant to be we will come back together in peace if he ever decides he can let go of his internet girls then we can begin to rebuild.
Continued love and blessings
xo
Oh my goodness. Thanks for that. I got G’s book 2 weeks ago and read it that first day. I appreciated the insight into things I thought I would never experience. Then this Monday I got “the news” about my husband that I never thought would happen to me. Dealing with that now. I see a light at the end of the tunnel and honestly think we will come out of this with a stronger relationship than before. But damn, it is sooo hard right now…
I just finished reading Love Warrior. I found my eyes becoming moist about 30% through and put all things in hold to finish reading. At about 80% through I had to stop for a few minutes reading to let the tears flow. By the end I was laughing and crying.
It is the most amazing book/ story ever written to me . At age 61 and 9 months my life finally makes sense. The reasons of why I have kept almost getting what I want and need but failing to claim the prize is now clear. The reason for being betrayed over and over is now clear. The reason I am taken advantage of in all my relationships is now clear.
I now understand being authentic and speaking my own truth. It actually seems simple now that I fully walked through your experience.
It is the most wonderful gift to me.
Thank You!
I’m not familiar with this blog, but came to it because of a link on MSN.
I was floored after I read your story. I am fascinated by your truth about life and marriage. My husband and I had the same issues in our marriage. My husband cheated on with 5 other women. I was pregnant during most of it. I was devastated and hurt. I can honestly say for 2 years afterwards I was walking in a fog that was my life. How did this happen to me, to us, to our kids?
I wanted to hear from women who stayed and women who left. But no one was available. What I found after many years is that so many marriages have dealt with this same issue. Some stay and hide it(like I did) and some left citing other “acceptable” and less embarrassing reasons why their marriage dissolved. I was taught as a young child to never show what is really going on, keep your feelings to yourself. At birthday parties, play dates, family gatherings, I had to hold back the urge from screaming at the top of my lungs”HE CHEATED ON ME.” If one more person told me that I was “lucky” to have a husband like him, I would have died…right there from spontaneous combustion.
So many women deal with this issue and they are too afraid to speak up. I wish I had someone to talk to while healing, someone I did not have to smile at and say”everything is great” when they asked how I was doing. I wish I had someone who I could call when I couldn’t get out of the bed to fix breakfast, someone who would listen and understand my pain. I dealt with it all by myself because our culture says that we should be ashamed when our spouse cheated. That some how it’s my fault that he fell into another woman’s vagina.
Moving forward, I am happy to say that after many long years, countless therapy sessions, and PRAYER, my husband and I are still together. It is very interesting that during one our most brutal therapy sessions, he stated that I always glossed over everything that I never appeared to be True, in thought , in feelings, in anything. And you know what he was right. I never spoke up if I was hurt or angry in public, I just smiled and said “i’m great.” It’s ironic that what I needed most, I could not be, or never was, even in my marriage.
I have worked hard to change that about myself, first committing to Truth. I am so grateful to have found out about your blog. It is truly refreshing and we need more Truth in this world. I also made a point to never hide the pain that I went through. Recently my coworker came to me, in tears, telling me of how her husband cheated on her(multiple times). Instead of saying “i’m sorry to hear that” I said, “Yeah, my husband cheated on me too, I know how you feel.” In that moment I felt so much power! I am not afraid anymore of the truth, even if it hurts!
God Bless You and Good Luck!
I am so proud of you love warrier!!!!
Love can bring us change!!!
Jen
YOUR A FEATURED STORY ON MSN WEBSITE G!! So proud of all you are and all you do.
Dear G,
firstly I need to thank you for your honestly. Since you value it so much I believe it is fair of me that I am honest to you too. Before I share my thoughts I need to express kudos to you woman. I wish I could be so revealing and honest with my thoughts as you are. Wow really wow … what a courage!!! That really is pure bravery and I really respect that.
I’m sure a lot of people may not agree with me but I will write it anyway. So far I read 50% of your book. It wasn’t an easy read as your life wasn’t an easy journey for you. I could relate to a lot of things such as wanting to fit, being very sensitive and wanting to numb your feelings … Luckily I never got this far as drinking but I need a lot of solitude time to get back on track from over-stimulation of the environment.
What I didn’t agree with in the book was the saying that you felt you loved your family more than they loved you. Sorry but that just can’t be true. I understand you didn’t felt as good, valued etc as them and you also wrote you felt empty inside and basically was drowning your feelings and didn’t much care for others. How can this be an act of love? Isn’t love the most powerful thing we have? We say actions mean more than words but hey, you couldn’t even love yourself, you clearly didn’t express any act of love towards anyone. Love had been berried deep in your soul but you didn’t feel it at that time and you were just selfish. Not intentionally, I don’t claim that, but you didn’t care about anyone, including yourself. So claiming big thoughts like you loved people more than they loved you … well your actions didn’t show that and that isn’t a fair statement.
The reason why that hit my nerves was because my dad has been depressive a long time now. At some point I really struggled and wanted to let him know I cared but at the end I was fed up with everything. I gave up on being a parent for both of my parents … it was enough. I understand he is hurt and probably feels no one is accepting him as he is but he is selfish and he doesn’t love anyone, probably including himself. If he did I’m sure it would have been different. And in your book you never really considered how it was being on the other side, being ignored and forgotten … that isn’t love.
What I also didn’t like about the book so far was so many judgment towards others, your husband included. No one is perfect of course but putting you in a role of victim and others just not golden/mature/perfect … I just couldn’t relate to that. I don’t want to be judgmental, really not, because I know the world can turn around immediately. But what I didn’t get it was first, you weren’t honest with your husband from the start about youself being unable to feel anything during sex. I think that is something one needs to address from the start because the part of being married or having a boyfriend which distinguishes us from friends is having sex. If you don’t like that, be open and honest about it … I think everyone deserves to know what kind of sexual desires/needs/troubles their partner has. Since you didn’t get any conversation “food” for your soul from him you wrote that if you had a poet you would have tender love after your passionate fight. Why would you write that since you know that you weren’t connected in sex even with your previous men. Why would now feel any different?
Lastly you put conversation on the top of every relationship and I agree that has a key role everywhere. But what I didn’t sense was you not being open to having an honest conversation and expressing your feelings. You gave orders (put this out of my home) but never cared to explain how that made you feel. I don’t know but that just isn’t open relationship and since you knew you were more comfortable with putting words on paper (I am too), why didn’t you use that media to interact with him? I can understand that after some time you had so much anger from all your unmet expectations that you couldn’t start or were too angry to be the first one who always has to start. I do get that.
I hope I’m not jumping the gun since I haven’t read the whole book yet. I honestly don’t know if I will. As I said I admire you for being open, brave and being able to overcome so much but yeah, I just can’t connect with your sorrow on your level and lack of empathy for others in the process.
Thank you again for your honesty, I admire you deeply and wishing you all the love you need … let love heal us all. Good luck.
You are jumping the gun….
Glennon, I need to personally thank you for this work of love you published. To say that I am living what you went through with your marriage is an understatement. The similarities are uncanny — our wedding song, was the same one as yours and Craig’s (chills). I have three young kids. I discovered the same things you did, and my world crumbled. I always thought that while the past few years of my marriage while strained and confusing, that we were on solid ground. And I was wrong. We are fighting through it in the hopes of staying together. So much of what you wrote spoke to me in such personal ways, but I need to tell you that in the past 2 days, while dealing with my own “stuff” during my trial separation, my husband has been exceptionally needy with hugs and kisses. Your description about needing space from Craig while he was showing you the same affection helped me finally tell my husband today that I need the space to feel what I’m feeling. I had been so torn on how to approach that subject, because after all, I know it’s coming from a place of love, but I also know it was coming from a place of his neediness and reassurance, of which I just can’t give at the moment. So THANK YOU. I read your book in less than 1 day and when I finished today, I found the courage to speak to him honestly about that exact topic.
You might never fully understand how your rawness and honesty has touched many lives. But I can tell you that you are the angel I needed during this exceptionally hard time. So from the bottom of my heart, I thank you!
G, I stayed up until midnight last night in order to finish Love Warrior. Sorry it took so long, a day’s work got in the way 😉
Anyway, after I finished it, I had a conversation with my husband about sex. And it was uncomfortable, as conversations about sex often are. Anyway, I wanted you to know that reading your book gave me the strength to do that. Because, as usual, it felt like you were speaking directly to me. That’s the thing about you, G. You’re just saying what everybody else is already thinking. Thanks for what you do. Can’t wait to see you speak in Denver next month.
Glennon,
I have been waiting not so patiently for this book ever since I first learned of it a few months ago. My husband dropped a bombshell on my last Novemeber when he told me after 14 years of marriage that he is an alcoholic. Then, in January I found out he also has a gambling addiction and had put us in major debt.
It is the worst thing and the best thing that ever happened in my life. For a while I thought that this was actually going to save our marriage and make it into something beautiful. But after 8 months of therapy it is not looking so good for us. I have changed into a different person and have realized that I now have too much self-worth to stay.
I read your book yesterday and cried and laughed. Through the whole thing. Even though I wanted to read it months ago I think it came at the perfect time for me. THANK YOU for your honesty. For the love and the pain. I think half of my book is highlighted already!
I am filing for a separation today. Not because of your book! The timing just worked out that way.
Much love!
Well, I read the announcement for Love Warrior and preordered it THAT DAY. You see, that day, I was in the depths. The shock phase. The fractured into two women phase. I was dying on the inside with all of the things I’d just learned about my husband and my marriage, yet I had to drive carpool and go to PTA meetings and swim meets and pretend to be fine. I wrote you that day and said I’d been praying for a book that told the truth of how this feels. A book that doesn’t wrap up infidelity and porn and lies into a Hollywood story of divorce or happily ever after, but tells the truth of how it feels to learn the truth about the person you thought was your person. I prayed and raged and screamed, and God kept telling me to wait. Wait to tell everyone until I’d calmed down and thought it through. Wait to decide what to do. Wait for the dust to settle, the shock to wear off. Then your book announcement – another wait. Well today I read your book. Cover to cover. Im glad I waited. I needed time to process my story before I read yours. I needed the rage to dull a bit so I could hear your words, and know that we are all worthy of grace, even our husbands who broke their vows.
Sadly, my marriage story is a close parallel to yours. The words were the way to me, the body was the way to him. We never met in the middle. I thought I was loving him, but I also thought I was unworthy. I used to say I felt like I was living in a mason jar. Like a bug a child collected outside. Holes poked in the lid so I could breath, and everyone could see me, but no one could hear me. No one could hear my words. After I learned the truth – an eerily similar truth to your story, Glennon, I’ve had to go back and rethink everything. Who am I? Why is this my story? How will I go on? How will my children be better than me, better than my husband? How do I own the truth of this story of mine, this life that isn’t even remotely the life I thought I had, the life I thought I was living. And the trauma of it all! Some days I fake it pretty well, others I pat myself on the back for getting everyone to school and then collapse on the couch for hours.
I guess I’m trying to say thank you for sharing your story. It’s raw and real and scary, but for the first time, I’ve read something that’s hopeful in a real way – not a Hollywood way, or a “stand by your man” way, but in a way that makes me feel like there’s hope for me. There’s hope for all of us.
Throughout my process of understanding my husband, the infidelity, all of this, I’ve said to him “my God can’t be your God right now. I need my God to hold me up, and it can’t be the same God that’s giving you grace”. But I think I understand now, that it has to be the same God. We both need grace. And my grace is only possible if he gets grace also.
Anyway. Thank you, Glennon. Thank you for sharing the story so many of us are afraid to share. Thank you for being brave enough for the rest of us. You are beauty-full. I hope some day I am too. ❤️❤️
Some days I fake it pretty well, others I pat myself on the back for getting everyone to school and then collapse on the couch for hours. You have just described my past few weeks in one sentence.
It’s been 25 days since I learned that nothing I thought was real or true is. I’ve learned that I am capable of incredible rage and overwhelming pain. I have also learned to speak my mind and heart without concern for how it will be received.
I received my signed copy of Love Warrior today and have read it cover to cover. For the first time since learning about my husbamd’s infidelity I see just an actual glimmer of hope. Whatever happens with our marriage, the possibilities for rebuilding myself in my own truth are limitless. Thank you, G for sharing your truth. You are beautiful.
Oh Erin. A sisterhood none of us wanted to be a part of. Take care of yourself first. it doesn’t get easier, but time moves forward. I’m so glad to have this book full of grace and hope and warrior possibilities. ❤️❤️
Thank you, Jen. It isn’t a sisterhood any of us want to be a part of but we’re here, so let’s sister up. I am learning to take care of me. Like most women I’ve spent years putting everyone else first but times are changing. “Boo full of grace and hope and warrior possibilities” – couldn’t agree with you more. Warrior on, sister. (And I will try to do the same!)
G?
Where did I tell you that I read your book? Here? Are you going to read this?
I READ YOUR BOOK!!!!!
I SEE YOU!!!
I’ve been reading your words FOREVER and always loved you and admired you, and now I think maybe for the first time ISEEEYOUUUUUU!!!!!
Please take this the right way??
You finally make sense to me!
I’ve always believed every word about your past and your feelings and the Things, but it always felt like I was reading separate puzzle pieces. Now, I feel like I’m seeing The Big Picture. I get it! And you are totally not crazy! I Love Crazy Glennon, I do, I love you, but when you put it like THAT it all makes sense to me!
I don’t know what the purpose of your book was– to you– there are so many purposes it serves, from the “me too” ladies you’re helping so much, or the, “hmmm… never thought about it that way” ladies you’re enlightening… so so many reasons, but I wonder what YOUR reason was. I’m wondering if you had to write it because you had to write it, and publishing was an afterthought… no matter what the reason, can I tell you my favorite things?
1. I love that you figured out Craig so I don’t hate him. (because I wasn’t going to figure that out on my own!)
2. I LOVE SISTER!
3. Your parents… God bless them Glennon, holy hell you put them through that wringer and I’m so glad you’re still good with them!
4. You’re an even more beauty-FULL person than I knew
5. I wonder about all the stuff that you DIDN’T write. (I like that about true books.)
xoxoxoxxoxxoxoxxoxxoo
Thanks for signing my book in FIRE RED
love!
I just received “Love Warrior” and it’s killing me that I can’t sit down and read it all right now!! I have a 5-year-old to give love and attention to all day. But soon…… it will be my Love Warrior time!
Started listening the the audiobook today – love, love, love! Thanks G!
and welcome Oprah! <3
I don’t know if I’m more excited about the fact that your now besties with Oprah or the fact that Oprah is friends with NATE BERKUS!
My mother’s family has record books from the 1840s until the Civil War recording the physical condition, health, well-being and education (yes, they were taught to read and to write) of each of their 229 slaves. Copies have been archived in several museums and the originals are now with my family. I read through them and think of the care and attention given to these people. They were not treated as people bought and sold but as human beings who needed care and attention. I wonder if the Oprah you worship treats her employees this way. According to the contracts they sign, I don’t think so. This isn’t a speech on slavery, but on the sadness I felt when I read what Glennon wrote and when I finally accepted that she has indeed become a sell-out. Glennon: $5. No more visits to this website full of false idols for this mom from Beverly Hills although my prayers will continue for her children as their parents divorce. Their sadness must be overwhelming.
Glennon, don’t let the Slavery Apologists Haters get you down. You are a beloved child of God.
Is this comment a joke? I actually laughed out loud. This must be some sort of twisted satire. “[e]ach of their 229 slaves….were not treated as people bought and sold” even though they were people bought and sold.
Are you serious?
“No more visits to this website full of false idols for this mom from Beverly Hills…!” Alright, really. This has got to be fake. The IRONY!
Such an atrocity! I am dumbfounded by her post. Families torn apart, rape, beatings. The mere fact that the people of one race truly believed that they were in any way superior to another, and could do what they did and think it’s OK totally astounds me! It’s shameful and it saddened me when I read about Oprahs ledger. I don’t know that I could look at the ledger every day. We have to make sure this never ever happens again.
“People bought and sold.” Those four words negate care, attention, health, well-being, education, museums . . .
If your mother’s family didn’t buy these people and then immediately free them the healthcare, education, and attention they gave their slaves were merely an investment in property akin to putting a new roof on a house or painting the walls. Employees enter a contract willingly. No one has to work for anyone in this country anymore.
Are you for real? I’m sure that people, robbed of their families, heritage and culture were oh so appreciative of this fine record keeping. Never mind that they were people, owned by someone else.
one word: Fruitloop
So happy to have you as a fellow LOVE WARRIOR & God’s Daughter, Ms. Oprah. I agree with so very many of the sentiments already made that I’ll just say: DITTO to ALL of them!! You’ve already shown the world so much love, warmth & compassion through the years. It only makes sense that you & Glennon would find your way to one another!!
Warrior On, my loves… Warrior On
~~ deirdre.
Thank you, Oprah, for your years of taking on the challenging and exhausting work of loving the world…even though the work is so often painful and frustrating. You give me hope that I can, too. Living with a broken heart for all the things we cannot change all too often makes me want to quit. What you have accomplished on such a large scale encourages me to continue my small part.
Glennon Oprah Brene …. Drop. The. Mic!!!!
Since I was a little girl, names have been important to me. And our identity is wrapped in our name. Even then I would ask, “What is your name? And what does it mean?” It is only more important the older I get: identity. And yes, what I know is this: everything can change. But I remain “Daughter of the High King of Heaven” I am, as you are, God’s Girl.
I remember thinking how “cool” the way Oprah was named “Oprah.” A human may have misplaced a couple of letters, but God named her. And so, Dear Sister, may you continue to know even more deeply all that your Father says about you. Welcome.
Love that.:”but God named her”.
I just felt the Earth tilt, because Yes and Of
Course!! Miss Oprah is an original Love Warrior, Hope Bringer and Joy Spreader. So excited and happy she is a part of our tribe!
Reading this made me so happy. I love you both and always new Oprah was a special soul. God bless and I so look forward to connecting our lives in sisterhood.
With love and light,
Karina
Welcome, Oprah! <3
What I know for sure is that you are two of the most inspiring women out there and I thank the Universe for that! Warrior on!
Btw, I just received your book in the mail a few hours ago and I have only 3 Chapters to go. I’ve laughed and cried and have such gratitude that you have shared your brutiful truths with us. Thank you for reminding us we not alone out here! XX
Oprah has been my best friend for awhile now and she doesn’t even know it! xoxox
How wonderful. I agree that names are so important. Everyday I pray for healing for the babies with cancer that I have connected with thru facebook and I say each of their names…to myself or out loud. Each name is its own prayer!
As a mama of one of those babies, thank you. Her name is Kate , and she’s a 2 1/2 year survivor of a bad kind of leukemia. Keep praying for all of us.
I’ve been waiting for you two to come together. I remember during one of our love flash mobs it was getting down to the wire and I suggested you let Oprah know! I knew it was just a matter of time. Do you remember this??
Dear God’s Girl, It’s such a JOY and honor to have you with us. Dearest God’s Girl Glennon, I’m humbled to be a part of something larger than me, larger than all the hate, anger and fear that’s out there. I’m grateful that God led me here, this is Holy. And Beauty, and LOVE.
Here’s my note I put on FB, I’m so wriggly like a little pup with the awe of it all.
I literally was telling my husband all about #WeStandWithLove and how i KNOW it’s going to be huge and how i am so humbled to be a part of this and how you and Momastery and your books and my sisters in love have changed me and held me and made me laugh and cry and now THIS. SWEET HEAVEN THIS.
I swear i can hear angels sing at the beauty of all the people who hear you and read you and say I’M IN. Because we are all in and loved. Can I be a little bit honest? I LOVED her latest series, Belief (oh please, God’s Girl, do another season! It should be mandatory viewing for schools).
But I’d probably be quite shy, and very polite and hope my hand wasn’t sweaty while shaking hands with her while hugging and laughing and crying with you!!! You are my Maya Angelou, my spiritual guide that God makes sure I’m paying attention to, my sister in love.
Of course we will be gentle and kind to your new friend. She is full of so much that is good and loving and wise and I’m glad you have a new friend. Making a new friend is a beautiful thing. I already set my dvr!!!! Love to both of God’s Girls!
THIS IS AMAZING!!! I’ve been hoping that you and Oprah would meet ever since I joined the Monkees back in the day of Carpe Kairos. Then, BAM, there you are sitting in Oprah’s yard together!!! I love you both a little too much. Now if Bono shows up that will be the trifecta 🙂
Oh my gosh me too!!!!!!! I have told my husband this very thing before.
Welcome Oprah!
Ha! Perfect!
Welcome God’s daughter. It’s so good to have you. It’s a delight to meet another sister. All that matters here is your sisterhood & your story. You are one of us. So feel loved, feel st leave, take off your shoes & enjoy the tribe.
Dear Oprah- Before I had my Guru Glennon (or “God’s Girl” – I’ll just call her G.G.!), I had you each weekday sending messages of love and inspiration and growth. I understand why you had to slow down, but I still appreciate everything you put out into the world through your show. I could not be happier that the two of you have connected!! GG represents so much of what you have been telling us for years. You always said – “everyone just wants to feel HEARD”- GG does that for so very many of us. She has created a special, loving, funny, warm, sacred space of connection where we all belong and feel heard. OF COURSE you should and would become a part of that!!! Welcome, fellow Love Warrior! And thank you to you both for giving so much of yourselves to so many.
WOW! This is amazing!
I’ve read your writings over the years and it’s made me want community and sisterhood so badly. So very badly. I’m lost right now so I’m not sure how I get to what I want but I have a few friends that have become good sister-like people over the last year. I’m on a good path I know but I still feel so lonely and lost. I ache for all the sisterhood you have created. I have good days and bad days. I’m learning more and more that I’m a child of God.
Oh Kelly, I understand so much. I’m disabled, home/bed bound so it’s quite lonely. My husband works two days from home and I still have one child here–in HS. The dog sleeps on the bed. I’m lucky to have my family don’t get me wrong. And I have incredible friends online, they are a blessing.
But when I was diagnosed 21 yrs ago, I started losing friends. Then I had church members shun me….and t the worse i got well….I keep wishing for a best friend that I can just chill out with,v who understands my limitations. My husband is my best friend but now that my daughter is away at college for one more year then she’s going out of state for grad school. I miss having a female to talk to beside our dog lol.
I keep dreaming of winning the lottery and having a great big place built so all my friends could come and visit or stay lol. A Momastery needs a commune right? 🙂
Love to you dear!!!
WOW! My first time commenting here, and it’s on Oprah’s first day. How special is that?!
Glennon, thank you, thank you, thank you for opening up your heart, pouring it into your writing, and being so very brave and sharing it with the world! I started following on Instagram a few months back and thought maybe I’d click over to read momastery once in a while, but WOW! I instead found myself clicking over to read every time (because this is such important, inspiring and real stuff). I’ve gone back in the archives to read every brutiful word from the beginning, while still popping back to read the current stuff (I expect to be all caught up sometime in 2017!). The honesty, depth, integrity and humor in the writing here is like a deep breath of fresh air when I’ve been feeling rather breathless out there in the big, scary peoply world. Thank you so much!
Vicki L
Love it! I’ve loved Oprah all these years. I loved her even more when Rob Bell was on her show. I love how she is a truth-teller and a giver and she spreads love wherever she goes!
Love,
the tribe of God’s Girls
You two daughters of God were destined to join forces in your quest to spread the Love among all of God’s children. My birthdate is shared with Oprah, and I’ve always felt that kinship, perhaps because we both breathed our first breaths on the same day. When I count my blessings, I count the two of you.
Glennon, you bring us into relationship over and over. Thank you for being smart about how we can get a bit funny about people who are famous. My prayer is that our circles of influence grow bigger and bigger as we build the love revolution.
love,
Susan
Dear God’s Girl,
We could not be happier to have you here with us!! Of course you and G (short for God’s Girl Glennon) found each other! You are soul sisters doing the same love spreading work!
I told her the only identity I claim these days is Child of God. That’s the name I came in with and that’s the name I’ll go out with. That’s the only role nobody can take from me. That’s the only solid ground I’ve got.
I love this!! Because at the end of the day, all that matters is that I am successful in my Fathers eyes! xo
Welcome Oprah!!
Welcome, Oprah. Two beautiful women and souls meeting. So wonderful. I love this community and have been waiting for this connection for years now. So glad to have more inspiration. Love to you both!
And I love that Oprah said she is “God’s girl.” I am amazed at her ability to own that truth and keep it. I’m going to say that now about myself. Thank you, Oprah, and, G, for your loving kindness and spreading it around for us all.
This is perfect. Keep spreading the word.
This is pretty spectacular.
This is wonderful!! And it is the first time I’ve posted here or on the internet in general! A bit scared (a bit sweaty lol!) but worth it! I am so glad Glennon that you too feel SO protective over your friends. I don’t feel like such a freak now haha!
Love,
Another one of God’s Girls
You go, Yvonne!! You and your sweaty little hand type and be heard!! Love you, sister!
-God’s Girl
Awww thanks Heather! You made my day! Love you too Sister!
I can’t help but think of the power all of this connecting is ushering in. All these people with all these spectacular, wonderful gifts who are out on the front lines spreading a message of love and inclusion. And then including all of us who long to have an impact and join together. It’s going to be like a psunami of love and grace and power and oh how we need it all across the world right now.
Welcome Oprah. We are happy to have you as part of our wonderful group. There is so much love, kindness and support here. It is truly a wonderful place ❤️
I have always thought of Oprah as a friend I haven’t met and you describe exactly what I’ve always believed it would be like to be friends with her. She is indeed a beautiful soul.
“We make each other laugh and we remind each other that life is really hard and really beautiful and that sisterhood is just one of the best parts of the whole damn thing.” This is my favorite sentence in what you wrote. Sisterhood is what gets me out of bed in the morning and keeps me whole.
Such a beautiful introduction from one amazing woman for another amazing woman! Welcome Oprah!
Oh this makes me so happy! Welcome!
Love is all around!
Powerful love does powerful good.
Welcome Oprah to this beautiful Sisterhood!
Wow. I feel fierce and weepy and love and energy. Welcome to the sisterhood. Your name belongs here. ❤️ You belong here.
This is beautiful. Thank you.
Welcome, Oprah (God’s Girl), we’ve been waiting for you!
Ever since I came to Momastery and met Glennon, I knew that you two had to meet, and so this… THIS… is everything!
The world is in good hands now. Love Warrior Army has begun to bang the drums.
We are here. We are going to be the change.
I love you both immeasurably.
Love,
God’s (other) Girl,
Arwen
<3
Welcome, sister warrior! Maybe I’m just weepy today, but the 33 comments I just read made me tear up. So glad to be a part of this community. So glad to have you all!
*Hugs*
Melissa
I love everything about this!! Two of my all time favorites and SHEro’s in one place – it is almost too good to be true!
Woo Hoo!! How wonderful!
Welcome sister!
BIG LOVE! x
Yay! This makes me so happy. We already love you because we already love all the sisters. Not just because your name is **OPRAH** but because it is Oprah, God’s girl. We can’t wait to see what messages of love you will add to our chorus.
❤️Laura
Welcome, God’s Girl!!! You are beautiful and amazing just like each of us! We are so glad you are here!! Thank you for coming to take your place in our circle! We missed you!!! Oh how we longed to love you!! Thank you for giving us the gift of loving you!! In fact, I scream out to every single Monkee here, you all belong here!! You’ve come home!!! Oh how we missed you!!!
Welcome, Sister Oprah! You are safe and welcome here as your true self.
G, so excited for next week and the launch of Love Warrior! Thank you for continuing to show up with everything you have. I have butterflies in my stomach for you!!! Xoxo can’t wait!
Welcome to Sister Oprah! We are so glad you’re here. We have loved you from afar all these years; now come here and feel our love close up.
❤Oprah❤
I have to ask: special guest at the conference in Chicago????
Please, please let this be true?? I can only imagine the energy in this room! I’m crying just thinking of it.
I knew it was just a matter of time before my two favorite women became friends!!!! Love this!!!!
I knew Oprah was a Love Warrior when I was a little girl and my mom watched her show in our living room. Even as a little girl, I wanted to be close to Oprah, I could feel her good energy and love. It had nothing to do with her celebrity, but the feeling that she sincerely cared. I grew up loving and admiring Oprah and now that this is “official” I kind of have to wonder, “what took so long?!” 🙂 It feels right. Welcome, Oprah.
This pack of women here, these generous people who love so fiercely feel like my closest friends, feel like home.
Oh, goodness, how lovely. How wonderful to get to peek behind the curtain and see the real person. And I know that this is true, because Glennon isn’t afraid of the truth. So, if Glennon will tell me ugly truth, I can believe her when she tell me beautiful truth.
Welcome, Oprah. This is an amazing place.
Welcome, Oprah!
Such tears of joy for both of you! Ah this is so awesome. How could Oprah NOT belong. How. There’s no way. She’s been holding a light on my path for longer than I can remember. Best role model of how to be a woman ever. <3
As a devoted Monkee and SuperSouler I say: Well it’s about time. Welcome, beloved Oprah. So much love to you both.
Welcome to the fold, sweet Oprah! You will love it here, just as we all do. Thank you for joining us.
Did you feel the earth shift a little when you both embraced for the first time? Because I did! Holy Batman! Look out world – G and Oprah and Liz G and Brene are all hanging out! It’s on! Viva la Love Revolution! Happy dance!
Welcome to the Sisterhood Optah! I watched your show every day when I was in my early teens and going through some dark days and nights and you made me believe it could and would be better. My journey towards love and light began with you do I am so happy that you are here, helping me continue my journey. Much love.
And finally you meet. How did it take so long when it sounds as though y’all have been speaking the same language for years. Welcome Sister Oprah
Oh. My. Lanta. Oprah’s here. I can’t breathe.
Love this… made me laugh. I may steal it from you.
Welcome, Oprah!
<3
I truly love Oprah. I’m a devoted super soul-er, she’s been a constant, comforting presence. I feel enriched and educated by everything she puts out into the universe. Pretty much exactly how I feel about you Glennon! It’s a match made in heaven!
Welcome, God’s Girl. I call myself Loved One. This is a big, beautiful space we’ve created here with G, and now you’ve made it bigger and more beautiful. Welcome.
Dear Oprah,
I’ve known you were a love warrior for a very long time.
Welcome to the sisterhood. It is sacred and wonderful and you will fit right in.
Love always,
D
Dear God’s Girls,
I look forward to all the love and unity that this world desperately needs and that the combined energy, honesty and wisdom the two of you can continue to spread. We love you Oprah! We love you Glennon!
Welcome to a little piece of life where the light shines bright. BIG LOVE TO HAVE, Sister!
Welcome, Oprah. Honored to have you here with us.
I’m crying because this makes me so happy!
Two of my most favorite people in this world. Open, honest humble, broken and put back together love.
I pray for both of you.
I pray. For all of us to carry on, and love.
You give me hope. You remind me that we are all God’s girls.
Warrior on!
❤️ Another child of God
Celebrity, non-celebrity, popular, unpopular…. We may wear different cloths, we may live in different ways but we are all human…we are all sisters. Welcome to our sisterhood Oprah. You were apart of it even before Glennon announced it.
Your sister,
Paige
What an amazing thing for you Gennon, Thank you for sharing.
I can’t wait too see the show on the 11th. Setting my dvr now!
Blessings & love sent
Jane
Hi Oprah, Welcome home dear friend. Sisterhood is something that connects us all, you have been my soul sister for over 20 years. YOU were the first to stir my heart with your wonderful ways and your bravery. I feel like it is full circle now, to find you here. My heart is happy. Again, welcome home.
Feel the love,
Sheri
I love this so so so so much! Thank you, God’s Girls, for being who you are and sharing your love with our sisterhood.
God’s girl. I love that. And praise God that we are all in this together. Together we do hard things. Love you all. Big famous, little famous or no famous at all, we are all here for each other and I am so grateful for this place.
Welcome Oprah! Welcome to this Sisterhood where we are all here living this brutiful life one day at a time. My name is Nikki and it’s nice to meet you, my fellow Love Warrior.
Hi Oprah,
It is so nice to meet you.
Thank you for living your life so openly and honestly.
You are a Love Warrior.
You are so loved. So cared about. So dear to us.
Welcome to the Momastery Sisterhood.
All the Love,
Bridget
Also, now that I’ve had coffee and time to think about all of this
I just remembered and
I need to tell you
I have always had my own special name for you, too.
I call you Hope – rah❤️
No other woman I know of
has given so many other women
such HOPE