Nov 252014
 

Love Note to the World

Last night, on Facebook –  I posted a prayer for Michael Brown’s mama. Craig and I don’t watch the news often, but last night we felt we should in order to hold space for the announcement alongside our country. So Chase, Craig, and I sat down on the couch to wait together. Chase doesn’t do this often anymore- but as tension mounted on the TV screen -he laid his head on my lap. As I played with his hair I  couldn’t stop thinking about the mama who lost her boy. I thought about my Anna and her Jack, and how once she told me that her whole body just aches to touch him again. Anna and I and Michael’s mama and Chase and Jack and Michael got all mixed together in my heart. I spend a lot of time, every single day, grieving with mothers. That is where I connect quickest and deepest – to hurting mothers. That is often my entry point to people’s pain. That’s the door I open to walk inside and try to feel how things might feel. So that is the prayer I posted.

So many people became so upset. So many felt that my prayer for Michael’s mom meant that I had “taken sides.” At first I was stunned by the reaction, but after staying up until 1am to read stories sent to me by mothers who had lost their police officer sons and daughters to violence, I started to understand. I started to see that if someone had posted a prayer only for the police officers, their only personal entry point to this story, I might have been confused, too. Maybe even angry. I understand. I stayed open and soft and I understand.

There was a woman on the firestorm thread last night who was very angry with me. She called my prayer one-sided. she used many, many exclamation points which made me feel yelled at. I understand about exclamation points now, too. She had a very, very different entry point to Ferguson. And her comment became the catalyst to more anger. I felt angry at her, just as she felt angry at me. Many called her a racist, which was not helpful and hurt her deeply. She stayed open, which was sort of amazing to me. She apologized directly to me even though many told her not to. Then she wrote to me and said that she was sitting in her home reading the horrible thread and crying.

I wrote this back to her on our page:

I’m so sad and near tears, too. In my experience that means something good is about to happen. Let’s ask God to help us make this shit holy. Maybe we start here: I can tell you’re a good woman. I think we both had good intentions but we somehow hurt people. So we are the same, you and I. Question: will you keep the 4.5 minute vigil with me? If you will, we can do it together and I will pray for Officer Wilson for you and you can pray for Michael’s mama for me? 

 She wrote this back:

 Yes, Glennon, I will join you in the vigil. I will pray and pray for the Brown’s and their grieving hearts.

And then I wrote this back:

It’s a deal sister. Let us do it. I’m glad we both left our comments if it ends with this. We had a human, GOOD moment here sister. I love you. I do.

And so during the 4.5 minute vigil, and later in bed, and this morning- I prayed hard for Officer Wilson. I prayed for all the officers and their families. As a result – my heart has opened to all. My heart is a wide, wide door this morning. My entry point is all of us. That is the point of prayer maybe- not only to change the world  but to change our hearts so we have new eyes with which to see the world. We can’t just TALK and DO. We have to be still first and stay open and listen so we know what to say and do.

I think that choosing the “side” you identify with the least, and making them the focus of your prayers is as close to God as we can get.

Don’t just pray for the ones you love easily- pray for the ones you want to love. It works. It works.

Tracy, did it work for you too? I love you, sister. We made peace last night- even if it was just here and in our own hearts.

God Bless Us, Every One.

G

 “Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it
takes to sit down and listen.”
~ Winston Churchill

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May God bless us with discomfort at easy answers, half-truths, and superficial relationships, so that we may live deep within our hearts.

May God bless us with anger at injustice, oppression, and exploitation of people, so that we may work for justice, freedom and peace.

May God bless us with tears to shed for those who suffer from pain, rejection, starvation and war, so that we may reach out our hands to comfort them and turn their pain into joy.

And may God bless us with enough foolishness to believe that we can make a difference in this world, so that we can do what others claim cannot be done.

Amen.

(A Benedictine Blessing)

Open Doors

 



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Nov 242014
 

Let it Go

You guys. It’s Monday morning. Let’s start the week by letting go of something heavy. What’s weighing you down right now and how would your life be different if you Let it Go?

Is it a belief?

I need to produce to be worthy. I need to be perfect to be loved. I need others to be a certain way so that I can be happy. I can’t get started until I’m thinner, healthier, tidier. Life is supposed to be easier. I’m doing it wrong. His behavior is a reflection of me. Everyone else has it better. I’m not good enough. It’s too late.

Those are all lies and they’re weighing you down like a backpack full of rocks. You can’t get your work done because you are carrying burdens not meant for you.

Is it a relationship?

Please remember that often, gentle goodbyes are acts of great courage and kindness.  Holding an unhealthy relationship close is not love. Listen- is it kinder to hold someone close and hate her or let her go so you can love her? We are called to LOVE and the truth is that you will only be able to love some people from a safe distance. Hold space for yourself.

Is it a grudge?

I read a story on Elizabeth Gilbert’s Facebook page recently that I can’t stop thinking about. She was listening to Mark Nepo talk about his pain around his relationship with his father. Nepo spent decades mentally rehashing hurtful memories, reliving times his father had hurt him. One day Nepo realized that he was spending all of his time preparing for a trial that was never going to happen. It was as if he thought that one day, he would have his moment. He would sit down with his father and a judge and be able to plead his case. He needed to have his case thoroughly prepared so he could win. And it stunned and freed him to accept the fact that there would be no trial. He was wasting his time. He let it go. “Forgiveness is giving up all hope of having had a better past.” -St. Anne Lamott

When we let something go that’s been weighing us down, we can feel the relief in our bones. We feel our shoulders unfurl and our lungs expand. We take a deep breath and lift our faces to the clouds. We feel stronger, braver, free-er.

Peel off the backpack. Lay it down and walk away.

And  for goodness sake – “Stand up straight and realize who you are – that you tower over your circumstances. You are a child of God. Stand up straight. ” -Maya Angelou

Love,
G



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Nov 172014
 

We Meltons are generally not known for being AHEAD of the game. EXCEPT IN NOVEMBER. Our family rule is that all Holiday Gift Buying business is done by the end of November. Then we spend the month of December in peace, together, making memories instead of trips to the mall. Our minds are not full of to-do lists, so stress is low. And since we tell the kids that Santa stops taking gift requests at Thanksgiving, they are immune to the marketing onslaught in December. As a family, we have become able to spend the holidays focused on what we HAVE instead of what we WANT. And that, my friends, is the key to joy.

So last week I was doing some online shopping and started with books, books, books because one of my favorite things in the world is to share books I love with people I love. I am a book pusher. No one leaves my house without a book, whether she likes it or not. Can’t help it. Going to a bookstore and buying a beloved book for a beloved friend- it feels like making a sacred introduction. So, I buy books as gifts for my kids, Craig, my parents, sister, friends, the kids’ teachers, myself and everyone, everyone, everyone. Later that day I was telling Amy about my holiday book-buying spree and she said: “The book thing. You should make a Book Pusher’s Dream List for the Monkees so we can shop for our people.”

OKAY, I said. Let’s do it! So I put together a list of my family’s favorite books of the year. And then we added some ideas for other types of gifts as well- amazing products we love from businesses and organizations doing good, the incredible CWS Alternate gift guide, and even some new fun Momastery gear, including, for a limited time, signed copies of Carry On, Warrior.

In other words: HERE YOU GO, FRIENDS! Get your shopping done in your pajamas, and buy things that will widen your people’s minds and remind us that We Belong to Each Other. Scroll down to see our picks, or click here to see the Holiday Gift Guide in full screen and mobile version.

Then call it a year. Make December a time to step back and look at your life and your people and appreciate and marvel and soak it all up. Slooooooow everything down and snuggle up together and wait with great awe and trembling and joy and peace for God to come. In other words: make some room at the Inn.

LOVE YOU.

Some Great Book Picks For You and Your Friends

Great Books for the Guys in Your Life

Craig's Picks

Great Books for Kids & Tweens

Good Gifts

These businesses and organizations are helping people to give well this holiday season, offering products we adore through business models that do good.
Krochet Kids

Krochet Kids Intl. is a non-profit brand empowering women to rise above poverty through jobs, education, and mentorship. Each item they sell is hand-signed by the woman who made it in Uganda or Peru. #KnowWhoMadeIt

Do you guys know that Craig is obsessed with wearing knit hats?? And yes, we do live in Florida. Thanks, Krochet Kids, for the perfect gift for Husband.

Aloetree offers adorable, soft, organic cotton clothing with modern and fun characters for your little ones. 50% percent of Aloetree profits go to fund kids safety education programs in Cambodia.

LOOK AT THAT ZIG-ZAGGED PURPLE ONESIE. Sissssttteer…we know what Alice is getting for Christmas!

Purpose Jewelry

100% of the proceeds from Purpose Jewelry goes to benefit young women rescued from sex trafficking, and their jewelry is handcrafted by trafficking survivors.

Check out the gorgeous Dawn Drop earrings and the Unity bracelet. I die. They even have a key necklace. They are key-droppers. Now we know what I’M getting for Christmas.

Thistle Farms

Thistle Farms is a Nashville, TN non-profit that makes & sells beautiful home and body products from top-quality ingredients. They employ and empower women who have survived lives of addiction and life on the streets.

The Thistle Farms motto is Love Heals. I love this. And we know it is true. These are good gifts, my friends.

Green Kid Crafts

Okay, this one was Amy’s suggestion, so blame her. BUT IF one was going to craft with one’s children (or, more likely, to hoist amazing craft kits on eager nieces and nephews as gifts) these would be the kits to buy.

Green Kid Crafts are award winning, eco-friendly, educational, etc, etc, etc. Whateva. My kids don’t do crafts. But now Bobby does.

The CWS Alternative Best Gift Guide

Okay, we looooove this. CWS has a put together a catalogue of amazing, empowering gifts you can purchase as a new kind of way to recognize the people you love this year. From seeds and tools to blankets, educational toys to birthing kits, this remarkable catalogue lets you purchase life-changing items for people in need in the name of the ones you love. CWS then provides a card for you to give in recognition of each gift you purchase, letting your loved ones know of the amazing work being done in their name. Shop online now or request a catalogue by mail.

CWS Best Gift Guide
CWS Best Gift Guide

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