Living By Your Own Original Music Instead of Crappy Cover Tunes
October 7, 2021
Glennon Doyle:
Well, hello, everybody. Welcome back to We Can Do Hard Things. Thank you for coming back. We’re thrilled every time you do. Hi, Amanda and Abby.
Amanda Doyle:
Hello, Glennon Kishman Doyle. Do people know your middle name? Kishman. Hi, I said it.
Glennon Doyle:
Yeah. My name is Glennon Kishman Doyle.
Abby Wambach:
She looked up. She looked up like she didn’t remember.
AD:
Like it was on a cue card behind her or something.
AW:
Glennon Kishman Doyle. That’s right. That’s right.
GD:
Well, I do have to do that stuff. I can do hard things, but not easy things. Like, remember my full name or what age I am. Abby knows that I have several times Googled how old I am. Because I get so confused. I am 45 and my name is… Right? Is that… It’s right?
AW:
Correct.
GD:
And my name is Glennon Kishman Doyle. My first name, Glennon, is my paternal grandmother’s last name. Ruth-
AW:
Her name’s Ruth?
GD:
Ruth Glennon. And Kishman is my mother’s maiden name. And Doyle is, we are both Doyles.
AD:
We are.
GD:
Amanda, even though we are both married, we are both Doyles. The second time that I got married, I realized I already had a God damned last name, which I somehow didn’t know the first time I got married. So anyway, I just kept my name. Yeah. So and-
AW:
By the way, can I just say we have to have a podcast on that?
GD:
Yeah, it’s interesting. Right?
AW:
Like unbelievable. Continue. Sorry.
GD:
Okay. Yeah. Yeah. It’s really something, I will say a really cool thing that I just saw, that one of your soccery people, Sam Muis?
AW:
Yeah.
GD:
She got engaged, right? Is this Sam Muis?
AW:
Yeah. She’s now married, but yeah.
GD:
Okay. So she’s married and her husband took her last name. That’s right. And you know, that sounds so amazing and awesome and cool. And wow. Until you think like, “Well, why is it a big deal? Because women always are taking their men’s last name and nobody’s like, ‘Oh, that’s so kind of you,'” you know? But I just think it’s cool. Okay. So sister, Abby and I have not talked to you for a few days.
AD:
I know. I miss you.
GD:
We miss you too. I just want our We Can Do Hard Things listeners is to know that the reason we haven’t talked in a few days is because a few days ago I decided, with lots of help from my family, that I needed to, how shall we say, get my shit together? A little bit?
AW:
Process.
GD:
Process maybe. I don’t know. I just, every so often I just start to not be fine. Just not be fine is the best way I can describe it. There was so much, so much going on in the world and Chase left for college and I wasn’t processing any of it. And I was just going and going and going. And the way I usually notice that I’m not fine is when I start saying I’m fine all the time. So when anyone asks me “Hi, I’m, I’m fine. I’m fine. I’m fine. I’m fine.” Do you know what’s so cool? Is I was talking to Dynna. Dynna is our basically family. She helps us run this whole shebang. And she used to work with kids. Okay. Before she came to work with us, she used to work with kids.
Same, same. So she was telling me this thing that I thought was so cool. How every time a kid falls down or hurts theirselve or is sad or cries, what do we say to them?
AW:
You’re fine.
GD:
You’re fine. You’re fine. You’re fine. It’s okay. You’re fine. You’re fine. You’re fine. You’re fine. And we train them, to every time they’re feeling something, to think I’m fine. I’m fine. And then we wonder why adults are constantly saying every time they feel not fine, they say, “I’m fine.”
AD:
It’s so funny. What if we, it’s so true. What if we were like, you’re yellow. You’re yellow. Like it’s equally arbitrary.
GD:
Exactly.
AW:
How are y’all doing? We’re yellow. We’re yellow. How are you?
GD:
It means nothing. It means nothing. Fine. I’m fine. It’s not a feeling. It’s not, but isn’t that wild to think about that? We’re actually trained-
AD:
That’s so funny.
GD:
To say that.
AD:
I know, but I never say that. I never, ever, ever say that.
GD:
You don’t say you’re fine?
AD:
When you said, what do we say to kids? I literally didn’t know what you’re saying. I always say, “Did that hurt you? Or did that scare you?”
GD:
Oh, that’s good.
AW:
That’s good.
AD:
Because half the time they’re just like, “It scared me.”
GD:
It scare me.
AD:
It scare me.
GD:
That’s like when Tish… Oh my God.
AD:
Oh yes.
GD:
When Tish went down on the soccer field once, she went down hard y’all. She went down hard and she was down for a while and everybody was nervous. And the coach went over and talked to her, leaned over her. Then they all go back to the bench. Everybody claps, the coach texts us. Okay. This is not a coach thing to do, but she needed to tell us the story so bad that she texts us on the sideline from the bench, because she says she has leaned over to Tish and said, “What hurts the most?’ Like she’s trying to isolate the pain, right? Like where it is in her body. She goes, “What hurts the most?” And Tish opens her eyes and says, “My dignity.”
That’s kind of like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That’s the story of my life. So anyway, I was saying, “I’m fine,” a lot. And I was feeling overwhelmed by thoughts and feelings. And I realized I need to, I’ve hit like some sort of rock bottom. Okay? And, and my eating was getting weird again. And I feel like I-
AW:
I would say your thoughts about eating.
GD:
Exactly.
AW:
Not your eating.
GD:
Exactly. It’s like I’ve been recovering from an eating disorder since I was 10 or however you want to say that situation. But I still, when things get stressful or weird, I still have unbelievably compulsive thoughts about food and body. I had hit rock bottom again, with thoughts about eating and food. And then I start thinking about things more. And actually I decided I had hit rock bottom with all thinking, like you know what we say when we’re recovering from alcoholism, we decide our life has become unmanageable.
Like I truly got to the point where I was like, “Oh, my thinking has become completely unmanageable. I live with a maniac in my brain.” It’s not just the food, it’s everything. It’s the person in my mind is insufferable. It’s just the person in my mind is upset about everything. And I’m not talking about just the things it should be. Like the things in the world, the things I am actively involved in in activism. I wish I could tell you that the things I’m always upset about are political things. They often are. They’re also everything else in my…
AD:
It’s whatever the opposite of toxic positivity is.
GD:
Yes, yes. Yes.
AD:
It’s like just manic and chronic everything’s intolerable.
GD:
Yes. And if I’m telling you, if this person, sometimes I can think I can listen to the voices in my head. And I can think, if this person came up to me on the street and talked to me the way my head is talking to me right now, I would be so disgusted, appalled. I would be scared. I would assume this person needed help mentally. I would think this person was completely paranoid, was completely like, and yet this is the girl that I live with all the days. And so I started talking to Abby about and, okay, so I had this epiphany and I’m going to say it, and it’s going to sound so ridiculous and simple to you, but that’s like, what they always are to me, I’m like Dory from Nemo. Like I figure things out and then I forget. And then it feels like an epiphany to me when I remember six months later. So I think I’ve spent so much time figuring out, trying to decide how do I get this voice in my head to stop obsessing about food and body?
How do I change my thinking? Okay. And it’s not going to work. I’m just telling you the part of me that’s given up is not wrong. Okay. I’m not giving up becoming more peaceful, but I’m giving up my previous strategy, which was to somehow change or control my thoughts. Okay. Not going to happen. So then I started thinking, “Okay, if I can’t change my thoughts, then I have to freaking do that damn thing that everyone who’s smart is always telling us to do, which is meditate, which I’ve done before in my life.”
And it has fixed me before, but then I forget and stop doing it. And then I lose it again, because meditation is remembering that you actually are not your thoughts. So it’s not trying to control and change them. It’s dropping below them. Like you’re the ocean. And there’s always going to be these crazy waves on the top, which are these thoughts and thoughts and thoughts, but that there’s a place that you can be safe from yourself if you sink below them and just look up and say, “Oh, there are those waves again. But I’m down here.”
AW:
I wouldn’t say that it’s like being safe from yourself. I would say it was just like to be with yourself. Like all of it is same. Like your thoughts are still there. All of it is still you, your body, your consciousness, your physical body. And it’s the same. And honey, I think the realization of what you’re… You are inherently a philosopher. You study, you read, you are conscious. You’re in the world. You are like one of the smartest people I’ve ever met.
And so, and you’ve been affirmed with your thinking mind, you’ve been affirmed with the thoughts that you have in the books that you write, your number one New York times bestseller, with this podcast, and the way that you produce it and create, like, there are so many things in your life that have affirmed the thinking you and the thought you. And I think what we are learning is that there is also suffering that goes into the extraordinary amount that you then think about all the other components to your life. And I think what we’ve learned is we can’t think through some of these things, some of them we can, but we can’t think through all of them.
AD:
It’s at the neglect of, it’s like with so much focus, you are your mind, you are not exclusively your mind. Right? It’s like at it, sometimes living there and never occupying the other things that are just as much inherent to who you are, like your body and your soul and all of that is… It’s important to be all of them.
GD:
Yeah. Yeah. Maybe it’s like, it’s a good time. It’s like a disco party with flashing lights and raging music. And so it’s good to stop in, but not a good, my mind is not a good place to live all the time. So anyway, I’m telling you, I’m just saying it out loud that I am starting the meditation thing again. Okay. And I’m going to try to find a way to just live with a little more peace. That’s my goal. I want to stay engaged in the world and my relationships and be okay with imperfection, but also because we just have this one life and I want to be able to live it with some measure of peace and joy also. So that’s what I’m doing. I just wanted to say it I’m doing the meditation. And so far it’s been a fricking nightmare. Okay. I just sit there. Because it’s like sobriety or something. It’s just really hard at first. And you’re so out of touch with any measure of peace that it’s very hard to start again, but I’m going to stick with it.
AW:
Well, can I just say one thing too? You, you also have created beautiful, beautiful worlds inside of yourself, beautiful worlds that you live among. And sometimes what’s going on inside your head is more interesting and more beautiful than what is actually going on out here. So I think it’s going to be even harder for you because you are this creative artist and philosopher that have this beautiful thing going on inside of you. But I think in order to manage all of that, being able to find some stillness. Look, I don’t think I’ve had one moment of quiet during the five days that we’ve been meditating. Literally. I’m just like thought, thought, thought, thought, thought, oh, there’s a thought, there’s a thought. So I just think it’s admirable. It’s heroic what you’re trying to do because I know how much you value your own inner world. So I just think it’s just really, really cool. And there is a letting go of control here that I know is going to be really tough.
GD:
Oh, thank you. Okay. Let’s jump into our queues from our pod squad. I love hearing from them so much. Do we have a voicemail first?
AD:
We do. We do.
Alexandra:
My name is Alexandra. Hi Glennon and Abby and sister. Glennon was talking about how she almost didn’t go to the event where she ended up meeting Abby and how she called sister and ended up going. And I know in her book she talks a lot about finding your inner knowing and listening to it. How can you tell the difference between anxiety and your intuition and your inner knowing and what you need in your body versus just like anxiety, thoughts? I don’t know. I don’t know whether or not that was anxiety or something else. I don’t mean to project, but it just got me thinking about this question anyway. It felt like a hard question and I thought it was worth calling and asking about. Thanks.
AD:
I also have Alexandra’s questions.
GD:
Yes. I also do.
AD:
Someone please… I mean seriously.
GD:
I’m totally with Alexandra.
AD:
It is all… The voice is so strong.
GD:
I feel like this has something to do with what you were talking about on the last brave episode about the deepest knowing is unexplainable. And can’t be put into words and it’s just almost like a gravity or… For me anxiety, my anxiety voice is always a voice. Okay. It has so many words. My anxiety voice is always words. It’s arguing with me. It’s this, this, this. It’s but, but this, it’s but this, it’s a million fears. It’s a million reasons. It’s defenses. It’s… And my knowing has no words.
And so how do I explain to you in words, something that has no words? I don’t think I have to, because you probably already know what I mean. It’s just the thing below the words that already knows what to do, but your anxious mind’s trying to talk you out of the thing that you know to do and we can just choose to live in our anxiety mind for years and ignore the knowing. And that’s where like all of our problems come, right? Like the Abby and I always talk about all of our life is trying to like shorten the distance between the knowing and the doing.
Because everything between the knowing and the doing is all the anxiety that’s trying to talk us into not doing the thing we know to do. So there’s that. And then there’s this whole other side that I thought of when Alexandra was asking that question, which is this idea of intuition. Like, if we’re always following how we feel, how do we know? Okay. Here’s what I want to, I want to give you this scenario. What about we’re walking down the street, I’m a white woman and I’m walking down the street and two black men in hoodies are walking towards me. Okay. And I feel scared. So they do something human, who knows? They just are walking, being black, maybe. And I feel scared. So I call the police. Right?
What I will say to you and what these, what continues happening is the persons who called the police, the white woman says, “Well, I was afraid. I’m not racist. I was afraid.” And the next question becomes, “Well, what if that fear is racist itself? Yes, you are afraid. But the reason you’re afraid is because we’ve been conditioned in this drenched, in these ideas that black men are dangerous. Like, how do we know what is our real knowing and what is just our conditioning? Like have I been conditioned to be afraid of black men? Why wouldn’t I be afraid of a white? I’ve only been hurt in my life by white men, if I’m going by my experience, the only people who have ever hurt me are white men and white women. So then why am I more afraid? My instinct to be afraid of two black men in hoodies? That’s because of my conditioning. What if our intuition is racist and misogynist? And you know, what if I can’t trust myself sometimes because that woman starts talking and is bold and ambitious. And my first response is I don’t like her.
That is not the self that I want to be trusting. So I guess I’m not sure that I have a perfect answer for that. I just know that I had a friend say to me recently, it took me 45 years to start trusting myself. And now I’ve figured out that myself is racist, and misogynist, and Islamophobic. And there’s another level of examining our reactions, right? Our knee jerk reactions and questioning them. I think we have to keep questioning until we get to the root that is not just conditioned.
AD:
It’s so good. And it’s not just this kind of systemic bias that is through us. It’s also all of our own histories and our traumas and our fears that are some that are so internalized in us, that they sound exactly like our own voice.
GD:
Yes.
AD:
The repeating is definitely coming from you, but is it for you? It’s like for me, I feel like we need to do a trauma episode because there is so much that our body stores literally stores in us in terms of unprocessed stress and memories and these patterns that we keep repeating. And for me, I feel like it’s just like all the time, the voice is screaming at me, but it’s just shitty covers of tired songs. It’s not my original work. Right?
GD:
Yes.
AD:
So I think that is like, “Is that a cover of a song you’ve heard before? Or is that original songwriting from you?” It’s like-
GD:
Oh, I love that.
AW:
I love that so much. I think like, it’s so good. It feels to me, because when I feel myself having to decide between my anxious mind or the mean self, I think, “What would my five year old self sound like down the road?” And that gives me a lot of insight. Right? And also Glennon something that we all, and I think we’ve told the listeners this before, if you’re having like a, trying to figure this out, I would say, get into your body instead of your mind and feel into what feels more warm or cold. That’s something that we actually are teaching our children so that we don’t actually, because then we’re just victims to our mind and who the fuck is that? Who is our mind?
GD:
It’s a mess in there.
AW:
Is it our best self or is it this cover band we talk of?
GD:
Yes. It’s just a bunch of cover sister.
AW:
It’s so good.
GD:
I’m obsessed with that metaphor.
AW:
That’s so good.
GD:
Just a bunch of covers. It’s recently somebody said to us, “I want to embrace the gay community. It just feels wrong to me. Like I can’t get around how much wrong it feels.” Now of course this person was raised in the evangelical church like that’s not God putting that in her. It’s like this cover, that’s playing over and over again from the church. But bless her. She thinks that she was born feeling that.
AD:
And she’s correct that it is in her. Like, that’s the difference. Like you can’t just say everything from inside of you is of you.
GD:
No.
AD:
It’s very, yeah…
GD:
No, there’s work. There’s all kinds of work to be done there. Tragically.
AD:
I just want to ask, because we ended the last episode where you asked everyone as their next right thing to say the bravest thing they’ve ever done, but neither of you told us your bravest thing.
GD:
Well, I, I think my knee jerk would always be about like the second part of my life, the work or the marrying Abby or the publicly divorcing or any of that. But I actually don’t. I think the bravest thing I ever did was in high school. So I was, let’s see, I think I was a senior in high school, which means that I had been severely bulimic at that point for, let’s see, 10, 11, 12, like six years or something, six or seven years. And I was holding a tray, walking into the cafeteria or walking out of the line, remember lunch lines? Like you go through, you get your food. And I was standing there with my tray, my plastic tray, looking out at the cafeteria, the high school cafeteria. Now what you need to know about my high school cafeteria, which sister knows, but it was ginormous.
We, our school had like 6,000 kids in it or something. And so the high school cafeteria was just massive. And I don’t know if there’s anything in the world that scares me more than a high school cafeteria. Like, I just think that it’s the pit of hell to me, it’s all of the horrifying vulnerability, just intertwining, like, “Who are you?” Social stuff. Like, “Who are you going to sit with?” Like, where… Is anyone going to want you at their table? Like the cool kids, the jocks, the whatever, the social drama of it. And then the lights in the cafeteria. It’s just so bright. Like there’s no hiding anything. It’s just all, you’re just standing there and all of your selfness, while everyone just looks at you holding your tray of food, which you’re going to have to, somehow in this insanely vulnerable situation, eventually put in your mouth and chew, which is so human and terrifying.
And it’s just all high school. It’s just, Ugh. So I actually used to often, and my kids feel so sad when I, when I talk about this, but I used to actually sometimes take my tray into the bathroom just because, because just, it was too much just too, just the cafeteria was too much. So I would just take my tray into the bathroom, eat, throw up, whatever. So I’m sitting in the bathroom. No, I never made it to the bathroom that day.
I’m standing in the cafeteria having this moment of hell. And I’m just like, fuck this, I’m a senior in high school. I take my tray. I walk to the guidance counselor’s office. I don’t think I’d ever been there before. I knock on her door. I walk and I put my tray on her desk and I said, “I have a mental problem. And I can’t be here anymore. I need to go somewhere else. Like, I can’t do life like this anymore.” And I remember saying, “I’m not leaving here until somebody helps me. I can’t be at this place anymore.” And I don’t know what chain of events happens happen next. I just remember refusing to leave. And then I remember mom and dad showing up at the school and taking me to the mental hospital.
AD:
That is so fucking brave. I mean, I am not leaving here until I get the help I need. I’m not going to live like this anymore. I mean, you could pretty much put like 90% of the brave things in the world into one of those two camps. Yes. I am not going to live like this anymore. Yes. And I am not leaving here.
AW:
Yeah. That’s good.
AD:
Until I get the help that I need, or if I don’t get the help I need, I’m definitely going to leave here.
GD:
Yes, exactly. That’s exactly it. Right. And, and by the way, this counselor… I’m like I’m 16 or whatever. I don’t freaking know what that help is. That’s your job, right? Parental units and counselors.
AD:
Y’all get paid. There’s three of you between mom, dad, and y’all, you should be able to figure this out. I’m gonna take my milk carton. I’ll be in the other room.
GD:
Exactly. That’s how I felt. And also it was the first big, I cannot emphasize enough the importance of this part of it. So much of my life has been like, “No to this.” It was my first big quit. Like, yes, I am now a senior. I have been doing this thing for a long time. I understand that everyone else seems to think that this is normal, this way of life, this Lord of the Flies high school situation, everyone seems…
AD:
I’ve been playing your reindeer games for a long ass time now.
GD:
Yeah. But just cause it’s common doesn’t mean it’s normal.
AW:
It’s good.
GD:
I think I heard Ashley Ford say that recently. I think it was Ashley Ford. Just because everyone’s doing it doesn’t mean it’s sane or normal. So it was my first, the bravery of it for me was like, “I don’t care if this is working for everyone else. Like that no longer matters to me. What I’m telling you is that it is not working for me.”
AW:
It’s good.
GD:
So like maybe the mental hospital will be better. Like that is that. And PS, it was. Okay, but it was my first big quit of, I’m not doing it the way y’all are doing it anymore. And even those of you who suit, who are pretending to be the boss of me, well that you’re just, I’m sitting here and I’m not leaving.
AD:
Yes. Yes.
GD:
I’m not going to be, make this convenient for you anymore. Like, I’m going to be very inconvenient right now.
AW:
You had your own private sit-in.
GD:
And I don’t know… Yes, I did. It was my sit-in, babe. It was, and it was like, I don’t know. I bet it’s not going to look good for your school. If there’s a 16 year old who keeps yelling that she needs to go the mental hospital here.
AD:
I mean, do you think that’s what it boils down to? Do you think that brave is just acting as if you are the expert of you?
AW:
Yeah.
AD:
That like you, and that’s why it doesn’t have to be, it doesn’t have to look monumental to any damn body else. It’s just like, these can be these little things that are like, even imperceptible to others, but you’re like this, yes to this thing. No, to this thing. I am the expert of me and I know.
AW:
Yes, love it.
GD:
And I’m not going to adjust myself anymore to fit into your way for right now. Y’all going to adjust to what I’m telling you
AD:
Or don’t, but this is what I’m doing.
GD:
Right. But when you’re a child.
AD:
Yes.
GD:
It’s like I had those resources, right? Like I had, I was in a public school that had counselors. I had parents who would show up, like the thing that makes it’s so impossible to be brave when you’re a child, it is that you can be yourself and nobody can freaking adjust and you’re just screwed.
AD:
Well, but that happens to adults all the time.
GD:
Yeah. Yeah.
AD:
How many marriages are sitting around? Like I’m miserable. Surely they’ll notice, like, as many people are listening to this saying, why did it take Glennon to have to go into that counselor’s office and get the help she needed? Why didn’t her parents come help her? Great question. Also how many years have I sat in a marriage going, I’m pretty sure I seem miserable enough. Surely, surely he’s going to notice and start doing the things that need to be done. Surely he’s going to… No, we are the only experts of us. We are the ones responsible for us. We are the ones who require the words to be said, here’s what I need. Here’s what I need no more of. Here’s what I am doing next. You can come this way or not, but here’s what I know about me.
AW:
That’s good.
GD:
Brave is being believing and being that you are the expert of yourself and your own needs and wants.
AW:
That’s amazing.
GD:
Love it.
AW:
Yes.
GD:
Okay. Brave pod squad. It is time to move on to our pod squadder of the week. This is one of our favorite parts. You have to know. We go through so many of your stories and we actually wish we could choose 50 pod squadders of the week, but today’s is our friend Charlene. Babe, can you read Charlene’s letter to us? It’s so fantastic.
AW:
Oh gosh. We love Charlene. All right. Dear Glennon, Amanda and Abby. Hello amazing ladies. I want to thank you for this amazing podcast and the work and love that has gone into creating this community. I listen to your podcast on my drive to work. And sometimes before bed, I realized I missed your episode on queer freedom. And I’m laying in bed, listening to the glorious words and want to share my decision to no longer be a member of my church. Hallelujah to that sister, I have a sister, too, one that I have loved my whole life, but our relationship has never been steady. We have butted heads over the years. And for so long, she seemed distant. We never seemed to be meeting each other where we already were. Then last year things changed. My sister called me to tell me about her girlfriend. I had never heard my sister this happy in my 29 years on this earth.
When I saw them together, it just made sense. This was who my sister was, no hiding, no masks. She had never seemed more comfortable with herself. Her being the bravest cheetah I knew in her being her true, authentic self, brought my sister back to me. So I’m laying here listening to your podcast about how you decided to walk away from your church to make sure your children were not tarnished by their opinions.
My husband and I wanted to have kids in the next few years. And all I can think is, “How can I encourage my future children to be members of a church that would close the door on their amazing aunt?” If I keep staying as a member, I’m sitting and saying nothing and hope something will change. Out of guilt to parents and community I’ve stayed a member, but I realized tonight exactly what you said, Glennon. The church is not God. I am not walking away from God. God is always with me. I am just leaving the building. The building will not define my future or my children’s future. The building no longer has the power to encourage homophobia and hatred in my family. Thank you for the work you do. You inspire so many and all my love to you and your families. Oh my gosh. Charlene.
GD:
Babe, is Charlene your favorite now? Yes.
AW:
Can you call, like I want to just send her my number, be friends.
GD:
Charlene. Okay. That’s so fantastic. And also, I just want to read this one real quick. This is from Becky, dear Glennon, sister, and Abby. I’ve listened to your queer freedom in the church episode no less than 10 times. My husband has listened a few times too. I’ve had all those feelings for so long, but did not know how to articulate them. Thank you for giving me the words. My next right thing was scheduling a meeting with my pastor to ask some tough questions. I asked him to listen to the podcast and we’re going to talk about it. I refuse to be a stone thrower, let poison sink into my child and be in a place that lets homophobia live. We can do hard things.
AW:
Oh!
GD:
I just want to point out the different approaches, but both brave and beautiful from Charlene and Becky. One left the institution. One is challenging the institution from within and both are such brave, beautiful decisions. Love.
AW:
So great.
GD:
Love, love.
AW:
Becky, Charlene. You’re our favorites this week.
GD:
Let us go forth, pod squadders, and be like Becky and be like Charlene and be ourselves. Let’s be brave. Let’s sit in the, what did we call it? Lonely clarity? Let’s live this week as if we are the experts of our own selves and our own lives and thank God, we can do hard things because that will be hard. We love you. We’ll see you next week.