Jun 082010
 



Monkees, Our Heather needs us.

I woke up to this email Friday morning:

Glennon,

You’ve seen my comments periodically about my struggles with God and Faith and Prayer, so I hope you’ll forgive me if I’m being presumptuous. I have been laying here awake since 5 AM terrified and wanting someone to say something to help me feel more calm. I need not to be stressed, but I’m finding it more and more difficult.

You see Wednesday, I went into early labor with my twins. I am only 32 weeks and we need to make it to 36 weeks. I spent several hours at the hospital Wednesday night and they were able to get the contractions to stop by giving me IV fluids and 3 shots of a medication. Thursday morning I went for my regular ultrasound appt and started have contractions again. I was given two more shots to stop them again and a prescription for the medication to take 4 times a day until the babies are born. I was also given the first of two steroid injections to speed up the lung development, in case we don’t make it another month.

I don’t know what to do. The medication makes me jittery and anxious and I can’t sleep. It has potentially terrible side effects for the babies (bleeding on the brain, etc.), so I am trying to weigh the pros and cons of the known issues with delivering so early and the potential issues of side effects. I didn’t want to post in a comment, but I wondered if there were other Monkees who had dealt with bed rest and pre-term labor and all the anxiety that goes along with it. More than anything I am hoping to find someone to give me hope.

Heather M


I wrote this back:


Well, my goodness Heather.

Okay. All is going to be well. I can feel it, I know it. Those babies are going to be just fine. But we need to get you through this.

I was on bed rest and that horrible terbutaline for weeks with two of my babies. Once, I went in for my 26 appt and they told me Amma was coming right then. Actually her name was Tess back then, but that’s not really the point.

They rushed me into ultrasound on a stretcher, and I was all alone…Sister and Craig were at work. When I got to the ultrasound room, the young technician was so kind and calm looking and he said “Hello, my name is Emmanuel.” And of course, I started crying because Emmanuel means God is with us. And so I always wonder if he thought I just hated his name, because i was too blubbery to explain myself. I now think that all ultrasound technicians should introduce themselves as Emmanuel, even if they’re really Fred.


It never ceases to amaze me what is expected of us as mothers, even before those babies arrive. It’s terrifying to love something so much. Nonsensical really, in this risky world. But Emmanuel, Heather.
Absolutely and 100 percent and a million times over. I wish I could sit with you and hold your hand and remind you of that myself. And we could talk about God and what these babies are going to look like and
smell like and also, hopefully, we could talk about Heidi and Spencer from the Hills because I’m quite concerned about some developments there.

Anyway, talk to me. We are going to make it to fourth of july week. I know it.

I’m thinking of you and praying for you and those babies every single hour. I have an H written in marker on my hand so I don’t forget.

You tell me if you want me to do a monkee call, ill do it in a heartbeat.


And Heather wrote back.


I’m sorry I didn’t get a chance to respond to you sooner. I left this morning to go and get the second steroid shot for boosting the babies lung function (just in case) and ended up in the hospital again for a couple of hours with contractions. They were able to stop them again, so they let me come home.

I’m trying so hard not to be stressed, because that is, of course, the worst possible thing for the babies. But, I feel guilty that I’m not able to engage fully with my son (his 2nd birthday was yesterday and his party is tomorrow). I’m having to hand over control of everything to other people
and that is soooo not comfortable for me.

I’m worried about these medications; the steroids and the terbutaline. The terb is AWFUL. I’m jittery and can’t sleep, it makes me anxious, gives me heartburn and makes me want to run in circles like a madwoman, but I have to stay still. Maddening. I’d love to hear about your experience with it; especially the it was horrible, but worth it ones.

I know the saying is we are only given what we can handle, but truly I don’t know how much more I can take. I’m trying to be calm and rational, but it is getting harder and harder.

You offered to make a Monkee call and I’d love that. I’m feeling so isolated and alone, but my husband needs to be with my son. He comes to check on me regularly, but it’s still hard to have to lay up here and listen to all the laughter without me. I just need to be reminded that we can do hard things, because this feels pretty darn hard. Thank you for being there for me and for offering to marshal the Monkees. I feel better just knowing that’s coming in the next few days.


And that brings us to today. I am awed and grateful that Heather came to us when she needed love and hope and support. Isn’t that incredible? It’s real, this Monkee zoo.

We can’t make it all better for Heather. . .but we can do what we were put here to do. We can remind her she’s not alone. Ladies, start your engines.

Love, G





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Jun 072010
 

Dear Ranola, Ken, and Ms. Lamott,

Thank you for letting me borrow your story. I have tried, but I can’t think of any truer way to say this.


“Knocking on Heaven’s Door”


One of our newer (church) members, a man named Ken Nelson, is dying of AIDS, disintegrating right before our very eyes. He came in a year ago with a Jewish woman who comes every week to be with us, although she does not believe in Jesus. Shortly after the man with AIDS started coming, his partner died of the disease. A few weeks later Ken told us that right after Brandon died, Jesus had slid into the hole in his heart that Brandon’s loss left, and had been there since. Ken has a totally lopsided face, ravaged and emaciated, but when he smiles, he is radiant. He says he would gladly pay any price for what he has now, which is Jesus, and us.

There’s a woman in the choir named Ranola who is large and beautiful and jovial and black and as devout as can be, who has been a little stand offish to Ken. She has always looked at him with confusion, when she looks at him at all. Or she looks at him sideways, as if she wouldn’t have to quite see him if she didn’t look at him head on. She was raised in the South by Baptists who taught her that this way of life- that he- was an abomination. It is hard for her to break through this. I think she and a few other women at church are, on the most visceral level, a little afraid of catching the disease. But Kenny has come to church almost every week for the last year and won almost everyone over. He finally missed a couple of Sundays when he got too weak, and then a month ago he was back, weighing almost no pounds, his face even more lopsided, as if he’d had a stroke. Still, during the prayers of the people, he talked joyously of his life and his decline, of grace and redemption, of how safe and happy he feels these days.

So on this one particular Sunday, for the first hymn, the so-called Morning Hymn, we sang “Jacob’s Ladder,” which goes, “Every rung goes higher, higher,” while ironically Kenny couldn’t even stand up. But he sang away sitting down, with the hymnal in his lap. And when it came time for the second hymn, the Fellowship Hymn, we were to sing “His Eye is on the Sparrow.” The pianist was playing and the whole congregation had risen – only Kenny remained seated, holding the hymnal in his lap-and we began to sing, “Why should we be discouraged? Why do the shadows fall?” And Ranola watched Ken rather skeptically for a moment, and then her face began to melt and contort like his, and she went to his side and bent down to lift him up – lifted up this white rag doll, this scarecrow. She held him next to her, draped over and against her like a child while they sang. And it pierced me.

I can’t imagine anything but music that could’ve brought about this alchemy. Maybe it’s because music is about as physical as it gets: your essential rhythm is your heartbeat; your essential sound, the breath. We’re walking temples of noise, and when you add tender hearts to this mix, it somehow lets us meet in places we couldn’t get to any other way.

…On that Sunday, Ranola and Ken, of whom she was so afraid, were trying to sing. He looked like a child who was singing simply because small children sing all the time – they haven’t made the separation between speech and music. Then both Ken and Ranola began to cry. Tears were pouring down their faces, as their noses were running like rivers, as she held him up. She suddenly lay her black weeping face against his feverish white one, put her face right against his and let all those spooky fluids mingle with hers…

This is plenty of miracle for me to rest in now.


-Traveling Mercies, 66-67





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Jun 042010
 


I feel, like many of you, that Momastery has touched my heart. It has changed my life. Momastery has changed the way I see things and people. In the same way, the HCBC book Same Kind of Different As Me CHANGED ME.

This is – in part – what I said at our virtual book club meeting: “I’ve decided that this company is my new calling…now let me tell you, I have my grubby little hands in about 1000 projects –but this company is my new mission. I want to do it well and I want to make a living and I want to make people’s lives better. I feel called to do this because of this BOOK and YOU MONKEES. Over the years I have worked in retail, education, counseling environments, youth ministry, you name it. I thought each one was fulfilling, yet I never really felt called to any one of them. I’m not sure I am called to make handbags either, but what I do know is that I feel called to make a difference and that God put this opportunity right down in my lap and said – “Here, take what I am giving you and do something with it.”’

So let me give just a bit more of the back story and then we’ll get to the giving cool stuff away part. My childhood friend, Tracey, worked as a sales rep for Bun Bun Bags for only a few months when the owners decided to close the doors. Her husband suggested she buy it, my husband suggested we invest and everything since has fallen eerily into place. Every time we turn around – God has said, “Here, let me help you in this undertaking.” The Bun Bun team that naturally fell together seemed hand picked. It was as if God plucked us out one by one and said “You. And You. And You. Go Do This.” Each time we have felt overwhelmed by the challenge of it all, the next right step has become clear.

So now we are on the cusp of really making this work. We have 25 women working with us including a 17 year old home-schooled senior, a retired woman, a bunch of FT/PT working women and moms. Each bag is made by a real person, a woman, working in her home here in the US. Bun Bun is a place where women are supporting themselves, their families, and other women and I am so proud of that.

From the moment we started this journey we have all felt that giving back would be a foundation of our company. Developing a relationship with Dress for Success, Washington DC has been a perfect fit. DFS is an organization that helps women in need of interview skills and clothing so they can feel good and confident walking into an interview. DSF assists these women beyond that first interview through mentorships and continuing education, and Bun Bun gets to partner with this amazing organization. We feel so lucky and inspired. We really want to DO good and to BE good at our core. We are on our way, together.

It’s a bit scary to put everything on the line…to make a financial investment and a time investment and a life investment and, let’s be honest, an investment of the heart. If you are able and interested in supporting Bun Bun Bags, please hop on over to our website (www.bunbunbags.com) or Facebook to find out more info about our company. The Trunk Shows are starting this week and I’d love to see some Monkees, so please just stop by and say hello if you are in Tidewater, Richmond or Northern Virginia! We are hoping to have online ordering in the next few months also. There is also info on the website about the application process if you are interested in details about working for Bun Bun.

Thank you, so much for letting me share about Bun Buns. There are so many exciting opportunities out there. . . I think it’s just a matter of opening our eyes to see the inspiration all around us. Momastery and Glennon and the Monkees inspired me to try hard things and make a difference. Today I’d like to say THANK YOU MONKEES by offering Bun Bun bags to two commenters! Good Luck, Monkees!






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