Jun 112015

Craig & Me

Remember when I told you we were going to have this new SYSTEM in which I’d recommend great books to you every single Friday? So the thing is that when I dreamed up this system, what I forgot is that I hate systems’ guts. Systems cramp my style. I feel like systems are always trying to be the boss of me and so I resent them immediately upon their creation. This is how I also feel about all appointments and plans. The IMMEDIATE MOMENT after I make ANY sort of appointment or plan I start plotting how I’m going to cancel it. Actually, I usually reschedule because then whoever’s on the other end of the line will understand that I still care. That I have good intentions. I have been rescheduling one particular dental appointment since the third grade. Tweet: The MOMENT I make any plan I start plotting to cancel it—I've been rescheduling one particular dental appointment since 3rd grade @momastery

It’s possible I’m getting off track here. The point is, since I had no PRESSURE to do this, LOOK WHAT I DID! I asked Craig to tell me what books he’d recommend to other men and why. What followed was a deep, flowing nuanced, scintillating conversation—as you will see below.

Craig’s suggestions to your people and his specific endorsements are as follows:

Momastery Great Books for Dad

Tattoos on the Heart: The Power of Boundless Compassion by Gregory Boyle “Favorite book. This guy’s my hero.”

The Heroic Path by John Sowers “This one made me believe there are other men out there dealing with the same hard stuff I am.”

Just Courage: God’s Great Expedition for the Restless Christian by Gary Haugan “This one hit me in the heart. It forces you to see what’s really important.”

Parenting with Presence: Practices for Raising Conscious, Confident, Caring Kids by Susan Stiffelman “The only parenting book I read. She’s the best.”

What the Mystics Know: Seven Pathways to Your Deeper Self by Richard Rohr “This guy makes sense. I like the way he thinks about God.”

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle “I don’t get this book at all. But when I’m reading it I can tell it’s important.” (Side note from G: this is my favorite book endorsement of my entire life ever)

Food Rules: An Eater’s Manual by Michael Pollan “I’m into food and heath.” (G side note: Proceed with caution. We are swimming in avocados and kale and our tears from lack of sugar. The other day Chase asked Craig what was for dinner and Craig said, “brussels sprouts and quinoa.” And Chase screamed “I JUST WANT A NORMAL LIFE!” There is so much quinoa in my life I am considering renaming myself Quinoa-tifa. I am just saying that I love you and so PROCEED WITH CAUTION.)

The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck “Ten percent of this book pissed me off and the other 90 percent made perfect sense.”

Far From the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity by Andrew Soloman “Still reading this. Fascinating.”

Chasing The Scream: The First and Last Days of the War on Drugs by Johann Hari “I like books about drugs.” (Sidenote from G: Me too.)

Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy by Donald Miller “All the guys gotta read this one.”

Daring Greatly by Brené Brown “Really great book. Helped with work.”

When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chödrön “This book is important to Glennon so I carry it around. She seems to like that. It’s pretty light.”

You may notice (as I did) that my sweet husband forgot to suggest HIS WIFE’S BOOK. When I pointed this out, Craig said, “YES. I have been meaning to read that one. I have heard mixed reviews.”

Carry On, WarriorSo here’s my book, too. In case some other husband would like to read it.

And there you have it. Craig’s Book Picks for the Dads in Your Life! Happy Father’s Day to us all. Tweet: Craig’s Book Picks for the Dads in Your Life! Happy Father's Day to us all. @momastery http://ctt.ec/1fmcg+

Craig, good talk—love you forever.



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Jun 082015

Be Messy And Complicated

This week’s To-Do List: Be Messy, Complicated & Afraid and Show Up Anyway.  Tweet: This week's To-Do List: Be Messy, Complicated & Afraid and Show Up Anyway. @momastery http://ctt.ec/3bf32+

Several months ago I spent a morning preparing for company to come in the afternoon, and I found myself standing in the kitchen cutting up many vegetables. The cutting had to happen before they came because many things can go wrong while cutting and so an audience is out of the question. I tried to control my hoststress by replaying what my dear friend, Shauna, says – that the best hostesses don’t worry about whether company feels good about their home or food or throw pillows or what have you.The best hostesses just make sure company feels good about themselves. That seems like the better way.

This reminds me of my friend, Angela, who thought she was twenty pounds overweight, but didn’t care much. She always wore a bikini to our neighborhood pool and one day she said, “Listen. I’m a little fat. I don’t spend a lot of time worrying about that because I’ve got stuff to do. As a matter of fact- with these seven million kids and a husband and a job – I’ve got no time for charity work. So to make the world a better place, I wear this bikini to the pool. You know, so other women who DO worry about their weight will feel awesome in comparison. No skin off my nose. That’s my good deed. Done. Check.”

Do you see what is happening here? Our imperfections are our SERVICE!!! A messy house, a few extra pounds, a complete and total inability to prepare food—IT’S OUR CHARITY WORK! You are WELCOME, world!!!!! We should rest after all this sacrificial and valorous public imperfection. Jeez. We are basically SAINTS.

That is all. I love you. Now go forth and be a little jacked up. IT HEALS.


(Originally posted on Facebook January 2015.)

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Jun 012015


When Chase was eight, a woman approached us at the grocery store and said, “What a handsome boy! What do you plan to be when you grow up, young man?” Chase looked at her and said, “I plan to be kind and brave, ma’am.”

This was just one of the best moments of my life. Kind and brave has been our family’s battle cry for as long as I can remember. And I’ve always told my kids that your job isn’t who you are. Your character is who you are. So when folks ask my kids what they “want to be,” they think character, not career.

The great thing about this shift is that my kiddos understand that their life doesn’t magically begin when they “grow up.” Anybody still waiting for that to happen? Me too. Not them. They know that their life is NOW. Childhood is not just a dress rehearsal for adulthood. No way. It’s a whole beautiful thing, all on its own. Childhood is just as real as adulthood. Just as important.  Kids can be who they want to be TODAY. They don’t have to wait.

Chase wants to be a human being who is kind and brave and he is already that.  He know that his “success” does not depend upon whether he lands some job or not. He knows he’ll be a success if he continues to practice kindness and courage wherever and with whomever he finds himself. Today he is a kind and brave sixth grader and one day he’ll be a kind a brave high schooler and one day maybe he’ll be a kind and brave teacher or artist or father or carpenter or friend. His roles will change but his character will remain. He is already who he wants to be. So he can just go about being himself forever. Following his curiosity. One Next Right Thing at a time.

You too. You can just go about being yourself. Following your curiosity. One Next Right Thing at a time. Life starts now. There is no “When I” there is only “I am.” And it’s just as simple and hard as that. Tweet: Life starts now. There is no “When I” there is only “I am.”  And it’s just as simple and hard as that. @Momastery http://ctt.ec/n93Aa+

G & C

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