Several months ago I spent a morning preparing for company to come in the afternoon, and I found myself standing in the kitchen cutting up many vegetables. The cutting had to happen before they came because many things can go wrong while cutting and so an audience is out of the question. I tried to control my hoststress by replaying what my dear friend, Shauna, says – that the best hostesses don’t worry about whether company feels good about their home or food or throw pillows or what have you.The best hostesses just make sure company feels good about themselves. That seems like the better way.
This reminds me of my friend, Angela, who thought she was twenty pounds overweight, but didn’t care much. She always wore a bikini to our neighborhood pool and one day she said, “Listen. I’m a little fat. I don’t spend a lot of time worrying about that because I’ve got stuff to do. As a matter of fact- with these seven million kids and a husband and a job – I’ve got no time for charity work. So to make the world a better place, I wear this bikini to the pool. You know, so other women who DO worry about their weight will feel awesome in comparison. No skin off my nose. That’s my good deed. Done. Check.”
Do you see what is happening here? Our imperfections are our SERVICE!!! A messy house, a few extra pounds, a complete and total inability to prepare food—IT’S OUR CHARITY WORK! You are WELCOME, world!!!!! We should rest after all this sacrificial and valorous public imperfection. Jeez. We are basically SAINTS.
That is all. I love you. Now go forth and be a little jacked up. IT HEALS.
(Originally posted on Facebook January 2015.)
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