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It’s storming here in Naples. Weird, for December. I usually love an excuse to stay inside and hibernate, but not so much this morning. I’m kind of stormy inside today, too, and that’s too much storm.

I’m feeling down. Yep, even though kids are starving all over the world and I am in my comfortable home surrounded by material and spiritual blessings, I’m down. It’s okay.  Suffering is a part of life. Everyone’s life. We can let it come. When we add guilt about suffering on top of regular suffering things become too heavy. So we just let suffering come and ask the bastard to at least teach us something while he outstays his welcome.

I’m not sure what else I’m supposed to do when I’m down, other than breathe and stay mindful that this too shall pass.  Sometimes it helps to remember what I love and do those things. So I try to think of myself as my best friend and I say…“What does Glennon love? What will remind her of who she is?” and then I make sure she has those things. Like we’d do for our sister or our best friend. Love others as yourself.  That doesn’t mean much unless we love ourselves well, right? If you love yourself crappy, nobody wants you going around loving others like you love yourself.

Kay, self. Here’s what I love:  I love women. I love books. I love pajamas and I love, love love Random Acts of Kindness. I actually don’t think they’re random at all. I think they make perfect sense.

*I love Twizzlers, M&Ms, and TV too, but I already spent the day with them yesterday and all I have to show for it is a sugar/Bravo channel hangover.  So today we’ll try the books, pajamas, women and Acts of Kindness.

Here is what it looks like under my tree right now.

 

 

Molly, a new Momastery reader and devoted Brene Brown fan read this post and decided to send fifty Daring Greatlys to me.  Molly often feels deeply blessed, and Brene’s work has helped her develop this gratitude. So Molly wanted to thank Brene and help spread her message on to you. I love Molly. She speaks of the kingdom of God like a poet and swears like an Osbourne. She is a scholar and a farmer. She is my kind of peeps. Most are, though, lately.

Listen. Last time I screwed up the Daring Greatly thing. Sometimes we just have to say we screwed up and start over. I was full of energy and passion and love when I posted and then immediately after posting I got tired. So, I didn’t send out my five copies and I didn’t keep track of your emails that day. Forgive me, and let us start again.

If you’d like a copy of this book but can’t afford it this month, please send me an email with-

Your name and address in the SUBJECT line of the email. Those are the only emails that will go on my Daring Greatly spread sheet. I know. I make spread sheets now. That’s how much I love you.

I’m going to take the first hundred emails that fly in to me at [email protected]. Fifty will receive the book first, and after finishing they’ll send it along to the address written by me inside the front cover.

If you can afford this book, please buy it. Brene has poured years of her life into this book and we should pay her for her brilliant work. The truth is that this book helped me at least as much as two years of therapy, pounds of psychotropic drugs and hundreds of retail therapy trips did. It’s a REALLY GOOD buy compared to other types of intervention, trust me. But if you can’t squeeze it into the budget- email me.

I want to spend my down day on my living room floor addressing Brene’s books to you. One at a time, with a smooth, flowy pen. Holding books that you will hold. Saying little prayers for every recipient. Sending gratitude to Brene and all artists and teachers whose Daring helps me breathe easier.

Pretty good use of a down day, I think.

 

G

 

PS. I’ve received several emails from other Monkees who would like to donate Brene’s books. I can’t organize that- but please, please go for it! Find a copy of your favorite book, post it on facebook and send it to a responding friend or a stranger.  Someone very smart once said that the most revolutionary thing one can do is introduce people to each other.  Passing delicious books on is a wonderful way to make important introductions. So much and hope and the sun will come out tomorrows to you.

 

 



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  38. What a timely post! In this season of merriment, sometimes you feel completely alone when just feeling down one day. I love the notion of talking to yourself like a best friend and treating yourself to something that can lift your spirits and help you realize that you are more than your mood. Thank you!!

  39. I’ve heard it said that Christianity is revolutionary because it embraces suffering. It seems crazy to embrace the hardest part of your life, but I guess that is what Jesus did. He’s the first one who told us that the hard parts of our life are worth it because suffering will redeem us. My struggles have worth. And so do yours. Carry on, Warrior. Carry that cross on.

    • Love this, LIz. It’s amazing to me how G’s blogs and these beautiful comments often coincide with how I’m feeling or what I’m going through in my own life. It’s been a bad week for me. Worries, anxieties, and sickness have seemed to get the better of me and my family this week. Then I read this and know I’m not alone.

      I just read this verse, John 16:33 “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” Most definitely, carry that cross on because in the end, we win.

  40. Saying someone can’t be sad because someone else might have it worse, is like saying someone can’t be happy because someone else might have it better. We are entitled to days of misery, depression, or just feeling down. Hoping your hibernation is very temporary!

  41. And don’t forget the MUSIC!!

    Dear Glennon,
    I have recently developed a special kinship to the little drummer boy. After really listening to his song a few years ago, I starting thinking a lot about that little guy- so courageous and bold. And now, I just adore him. To me, he was the wisest of the all the men, and if I could choose- it is the little boy drumming I would like to meet. I would give him a high five and a hug, I would hold him if he’d let me. I would thank him for being wise and thoughtful and brave. I would thank him for sharing his gift- I would thank him for his song.

    Music brings life, it sheds light. It inspires and moves our heavy feet- for me music is one of life’s greatest gifts. But the brilliance of my tiny drumming friend goes far beyond the music itself; it represents the secret you have also talked about, the secret that will change the world- sharing what you’ve got.

    Dear sweet Glennon, thank you for sharing what you’ve got- for your gift! Thank you for your song and for creating space for people to share theirs. I would like to give you a hug and a high five, I would like to shower you with m&m’s and homemade cookies, but you are away so far! So, until we meet, I will share with you the other best thing I’ve got- really good music! I made you this playlist, a very special collection of songs- songs that have helped me get out bed, (I too am a mother of three- and currently my heart, my marriage and my life seem to be both breaking and healing…) dance, believe and see the light. Sending you all the love in the world!

    Love,
    Corrin

    p.s. if you dig them, I would recommend both Mumford and Sons (both albums inspire!) and Edward Sharpe and The Magnetic Zeros- both bands offered a lot of healing for me :)

    http://open.spotify.com/user/1237493580/playlist/1OXL75T5CYpVhKz7sa2aBX

    The Lumineers – Ho Hey – we belong to each other :)
    Mumford & Sons – The Cave – this was MY song, was on repeat- really good lyrics, you should google them!
    Ingrid Michaelson – Sort Of
    Mumford & Sons – Awake My Soul
    Eddie Vedder – Rise
    Pearl Jam – Just Breathe
    Noah And The Whale – Blue Skies
    Patty Griffin – 10 Million Miles
    Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros – All Wash Out
    Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros – Man On Fire
    Mumford & Sons – Little Lion Man- anger can be healing…
    Mumford & Sons – For Those Below (Bonus Track)
    Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros – Child
    Mumford & Sons – Feel the Tide
    Ingrid Michaelson – Keep Breathing
    Mumford & Sons – Ghosts That We Knew
    Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros – Home- home!

  42. You know, there doesn’t need to be a reason to be blah. My reason to be blah may “seem” like less or more of a reason than your reason today or any other day. We all have those times. Sometimes I can balance a million things and others something tiny and insignificant will just push me over the edge.

    My daughter recently started wearing a back brace, it’s just at night and it’s a completely managable thing, she is going to be fine, she isn’t going to get sicker and sicker, I don’t have to lay awake at night wondering if she’s going to be ok. SHE IS FINE. But it’s a lot for us right now. We haven’t slept well from the first day she got it and it’s really starting to wear on me. I keep trying to remind myself SHE IS FINE but I’m starting to feel like I’m not going to make it.

    Thanks for the post to remind me we all have these times and we’ll all get through them somehow.

  43. Yesterday my sister and I were both having trouble “getting started” on our long lists of things to do/stuff we were dreading to do. I remembered that “fly lady” said the first thing you need to do in the morning is to put on your running shoes. Over the phone we agreed that at least we would do that much. We agreed showers and makeup were things not required. It did get us off the couch and out of my bathrobe. I ran a ton of errands and called her to see how she was doing. She was tickled that she had accomplished a bunch of stuff–though still in her robe! Over the car phone I gave her a high-five and she gave one back to me. Turned out to be a completely different day! Love you Monkees. Put your shoes on!

  44. I love how honest you are….very refreshing. I will have to go see if that book is on Kindle.

  45. i would love the book. thanks

  46. One revelation that has happened for me is when my doctor said, “Wow, that sucks, you should feel bad.” I was shocked, but he followed with. “You have every right and reason to feel upset, down, (enter emotion) because your pain sucks. Let yourself feel it.” Then we move on. I like the phrase, “Feel it so that you can move through it”. Nothing like a good cry too. If I pretend that it doesn’t bother me, then it’s actually worse. Yes, I love my house, my husband and my kids but we can still have a bad day here and there. I too bought 2 of her books and cannot wait to know that it’s no just me and how to live daring greatly. I want to be more authentic and know that I am enough. Knowing you are having a bad day is truly living authentically. Don’t cha think? How do we continue to keep moving through it? That’s my great dilemma. Where do I find the endurance to keep going?

    • Shelley, that is actually something I tell my 3yo son – Yep, I understand that makes you mad(or whatever) and that is ok, but it is not ok to growl at your mother – well usually something like that :) I think it is important to teach him his emotions are great – whatever they are. As adults we don’t give ourselves that grace. Whatever we feel is right, because it’s how we feel. It’s the moving through it that and the not beating ourselves up in the process that is harder. I love G and her reminders that we are all ok – wherever we are <3

  47. I am sorry you are having a bad day! Sometimes the ‘there are other people worse off than me”pulls me out of my funk, sometimes it just adds on the guilt like you said.

    I haven’t read this book you have been talking about, but I just don’t put too much stock into self help books.

    I do, however put stock into The Book. I would love to see you share about the life changing properties of the Word of God! Sometimes I find myself pushing other worldly helpful things, too, but always need to remind myself of what people REALLY need!

  48. Ah G~

    The Blahs suck hot hairy monkey balls, don’t they? Find one thing that makes your heart smile~whatever it is, I don’t care if it is all glowy and soft focused or absurd or totally inappropriate~ ANYTHING that makes your heart smile. Hold on to that. Laugh out loud. Then flip a double bird to The Blahs.

    Sister~you do hard things every freakin day. Sometimes, you just gotta embrace the easy and let the hard take a day off and sulk.
    Put on some Frank Sinatra Christmas music, light a fire in the fireplace, bird the storm, and write in your books.
    Good day.
    Hot cocoa with a little cinnamon, the original Natalie Wood version of Miracle on 34th Street, a cozy blanket on the couch.
    Good Night.

    Love you, Sis. Wish we could cozy on the couch together and reminisce about how beautiful women used to be in 1940’s Hollywood.

    • KathyT…just the phrase , “The Blahs suck hot hairy monkey balls” was enough to get me laughing really hard!!! Now that is stuck in my head and I am still laughing about it hours after first reading it. Thank you for your humor! God Bless!

  49. And you have the BEST handwriting, so it’s definitely time well-spent. Every time I find something you hand wrote (Xmas ornaments come to mind) it makes me smile. :)

    Love,
    MK

  50. Sending love- hope the inside storminess eases soon for you. Bug hugs.

    Glad your remembering to be kind to yourself- not always easy at the best of times & harder on down days.

  51. Thank you for this today, G – I needed it. I find loving myself one of the hardest things to figure out…. I feel like I should know what I want, but when you get right down to the bottom of it I dont, I just want love…. hard to explain, especially when you don’t feel worthy. Working on being worthy of my own love, and carrying on….

    • Knowing what I want is the most difficult thing for me ! Sometimes easier to know what I DON’T want, it is a good first step, in this sense bad experiences lead us to know better what we don’t want anymore… Believe me, you deserve happiness just like each and every one of us. Maybe you can just start trying to be nice to yourself and treating yourself with gentleness, it feels good. And if you are not nice to yourself, who else will ? Set the example ;-)

      Caro, with a loving thought for you

    • You are already worthy of love! What is Glennon’s great line, which I’m going to mess up? Everyone is worthy of more than they deserve? Love yourself, regardless of your ‘worth.’

  52. Hi G,
    This message really helped me out when I was in a similar spot (you and I have a lot of similarities in life). I can only direct you to the link and then you’ll have to search for it…but I think the search is worth it. A pastor of a very successful church standing up in front of the congregation and talking about not feeling the way he “should”, or getting excited the way he “should.” Legit!
    go here: http://cornerstonesimi.com/special/media_player.html
    It’s a sermon by Francis Chan, called “Even Francis has a Bad Day.” It was preached on 02/08/09.
    Hope you are encouraged by it :)

  53. Glennon –
    Wanted to add a random act of kindness my 6 yr.old twins and I did this Christmas season.
    We went to the $ store and created a “Christmas in a Box” for a local young bachelor that doesn’t believe in decorating his house for Christmas because he’s just dating.

    We purchased the following:
    Large plastic tote
    4′ artificial tree
    Strings of lights
    Christmas ornaments & hooks
    Tree Skirt
    An Angel for the top
    And a stocking we glitter-glued his name on.

    I had them sign the card from Secret Santa, and we placed it on his front stoop when we knew he wasn’t home.
    We circled the block a few times, and happened to be able to watch him come up on it with his girlfriend in hand. We are hoping the two of them enjoyed putting the tree up creating a memory for them as well.
    We have vowed to keep it a secret and the kids loved that we were bringing Joy to someone else.

    Anyway… long post later, just thought I’d share this fun idea in hopes that someone else will have fun paying this type of Joy forward all the while teaching their kids to enjoy giving…

    Signed – Funk-be-gone… Mary

  54. Love to have the book

  55. I love the image of a “flowy pen.” Such careful details so carefully expressed express your love. Thanks!

  56. We moved a week ago, and I am surrounded by boxes full of things that need to find their place, just so this house begins to look like a home instead of a dumping ground for wayward stuff. I’ve basically had to do the move myself…The Man wasn’t much help and well….The Beans (i.e. my daughters)….are better disorganizers than organizers because they are kids. Anyway, it caught up with me yesterday and I was down, and I decided to just let things be for a day, and…. rest. Then I remembered the picture of you in your Fire Daughter shirt that said “She is clothed in Strength and Dignity”. So I found my way to the Etsy store, and ordered one for myself. I also ordered one of the “Divine Spark” shirts from Momastery. It’s been a long time since I bought ANYTHING for myself. So I will continue this trend with one more purchase….Daring Greatly…and I promise to pass it along once I’m done reading it. Because if you recommend it…..it HAS to be good :-)
    Sister On, G!!

  57. G,

    Thanks for your post today. I’m in one helluva funk where something is gobbling up all the indications that people like me, before reality can get to my brain. So basically I feel like no one in the world besides my wife REALLY likes me. Maybe people don’t mind me or even kinda enjoy me in small doses, but in my brain right now even my closest friends don’t REALLY like me.

    I can tell objectively that this is totally stupid and highly unlikely, but that’s what it feels like so with that clogged filter, that’s what reality looks like. I am hoping this “like” gobbling monster moves his sorry ass out of my brain soon. In the meantime I will try not to freak out, afraid that I’ll feel like this forever.

    Also, I don’t love myself very nicely a lot of the time. I’m kind of a hardass. So maybe I’ll work on that.

    *sigh*

    • /hugs Jaime … we all have those days!

    • If it means anything from across the virtual world (and the whole continent), I’ve been liking you, Jaime, for about a year. There are five or so people whose comments I search for under every one of G’s posts, and yours are among those few. You’re sweet, and smart, and fun.

      I get this feeling a lot myself, having been chronically depressed since childhood. Another woman I know calls it her “black dog.” He wanders into the room occasionally. We acknowledge him, but we try not to feed him snacks.

      Anyway, I know how you feel. And I “REALLY like you.”

      • Paul,

        Thank you for your sweet, sweet comment. I LOVE thinking about you searching for my comments :-) Sometimes I feel like i spout off too much, so that is particularly sweet to hear.

        Yes, it’s totally like this separate creature! I think of it kind of like a troll that lives under a bridge or something, but it is totally like a sneaky dog that steals the good stuff when you’re not looking :-)

        Big hugs

        • ah yes. i am mostly troll. i think of my ego as my troll. she’s getting quieter though. progress is slow and circular, but that’s okay. i’m glad im in such good company.

          jaime,
          i love my book. you are so special. and that wife of yours. love. im glad you’re in such good company, too.

          • I’m so glad you like your book and thank you for YOUR sweet words. :-) I’ll tell Laura you’re hitting on her. She’ll love that.

          • Wait, Glennon is hitting on me?! Best end to a sucky day ever!!!! I do like ‘em pretty. And yes, Jaime Jenett is quite likeable, easily lovable, and one of the most spectacular human beings. Dreamy even.

    • We tend to forget that this is not exclusively a women-blog, and your comment reminds me of the fact that men can feel hurt by all this Sister-stuff (even if I love the Sister-stuff myself) and might think themselves as excluded. That’s not true, Jaime, we love PERSONS, and I can see there’s at least two plus your wife who like you enough to tap on your shoulder and say “hey Dude,*I* like you and I’m there for you if you need” :-) Well, three now… ;-)

      • French,

        I love that there are male Monkees! I’m not actually one of them though. I like to be “duded” even though I’m a super femme lesbian, so bring it.

        Hugs

        Jaime

        • Good! I can stop biting my tongue now. I wanted SOOO badly to explain that you aren’t a man, but it wouldn’t be my place to ‘out’ you.

          It’s tempting to call you “Dude” from now on, but I think I’ll refrain-you definitely don’t seem like the dude type to me. ;)

          Big hugs back at ya. I like them, even though they’re electronic ones.

          • Paul,

            OMG, I’m so a 12-year old boy at heart. Ask my friends. It’s a little confusing for people when this feminine, clearly raised upper-middle class white girl belches like a trucker and adds “that’s what she said” at the end of any possible double-entendre. I just like to keep ‘em guessing. You can call me whatever you like as long as you don’t call me late for dinner because I eat like a 12 year old boy too.

          • It’s true. She’s the leaner of the two of us but packs it away like she has a hollow leg. Definitely not a man though. It’s the spelling of the name that gets most people. It causes great confusion since I (Laura) am the one that often gets mistaken for a man/12 year old boy in person :-)

        • Oops. Was not sure, while writing I asked myself and than decided to just “take the risk” of being wrong. Had half a chance to be right, did’nt I ? ;-) Hope you are better tonight, and I like you anyway ;-)

    • Aw Jamie, we’ve “talked” here before, and I happen to thing you’re amazing, truly inspirational. I wish to be more like you…so keep being your beautiful self, so I can keep learning. OK?

    • Jamie, I can relate to days like that! I only know you from here and your blog, but I like you!

    • So this morning I decided to let one of my friends in on my little secret pity party. She has a hard time having feelings too and is uber over achiever like me. Since I told her she’s been showering me with adoration in an uncharacteristically warm and totally genuine way. Like, she’s overtly stated that if I’d have her, she’d want to be my best friend. It’s such a silly thing in some ways, adults declaring BFF claims, but it’s also kinda the sweetest thing ever.

      We’ve been friends for over 10 years, but have always had our stiff, trying-to-be-shiny-and-just-fine-thank-you-but-I’m-really-wounded guards up on some level. I think letting her in on my stuff is helping her put her stuff down and I think we’re going to get to be even closer. It freaking terrifies me.

      My “Judgy” brain is coming up with all the reasons why she might not be the PERFECT bff, just like it tells me all the reasons why I’m not just fine the way I am. I think the Judgy troll that lives under the bridge in my brain needs to get a new hobby and I need to just keep walking over the bridge to what is real. And what is real is love. My friend loves me and she wants to love me and I think I need to just go for that instead of making excuses to keep her at arm’s length. Who knew friendship could be so terrifying? I bet it’s b/c we’re so similar. Loving her is really kinda loving myself. The things she struggles with are the same things I struggle with. Tricky, tricky universe putting us in each other’s paths.

      Thanks for all the sweetness, y’all.

      • I’m so happy to hear about this developing friendship! And I can so, so relate to the “I don’t want to join any club that would have me” feelings. (I.e., someone who wants to be my friend is probably not that great.) Maybe it’s good that, as you start to open up your heart to her, you are not all dewy-eyed and thinking it’s going to be perfect. It’s not going to be perfect! But a good friend is truly a treasure.

      • I think you should show this friend what you’ve written here.

    • Jaime,

      I’m with Paul. Ever since I found Momastery, I’ve loved what you have to say. Keep speaking up, sister! And please share your pain with your friends. We think our friends don’t want to know our pains, only our joys, but I’ve found it’s only when we share those pains that our friendships truly deepen to something special and full of light.

      Much love to you my dear! Hope your sun is out today and your black dog ran off scared when he saw your inner power.

  58. I am you neighbor up here in Bonita Springs! I woke up feeling down, cranky and just BLEH today. When I saw the clouds outside I said to them, “REALLY? No please, not today, I need sunshine today.” I then called my therapist and cancelled because I just do not have the energy to face anything today. It’s kinda nice to not feel alone in my blahs right now….and the sun is starting to creep out, thats definitely helping! I really, really love reading your blog. I happened to find it when I was in the middle of my divorce and in a very low place. Your words helped me so much and I just think you are pretty damn awesome.

    • Leslie. I always cancel therapy when I’m really down. It occurs to me, just now, maybe we could rethink that strategy.

      Also, I have gone the wrong way on the highway from Target TWICE and ended up in Bonita Springs. LOVELY!!!!
      Love,
      G

      • Hum, maybe you two should go take a coffee together one of these days when you are feeling BLEH ? ;-) Always helps not being the onely one, in my experience. And, Glennon : I just want to say “I love you” tonight. Because even when you are down, you have the skill to make me laugh with your words, and make me want to tap your head and say “Oh my, you are just awesome, Girl !” When I grow up, I want to be just like you. Wait, I’m grown up already ! Dammit…!

  59. I was once sharing with Sister about a period of suffering and challenge. I kept interjecting, “But really, it’s nothing compared to what you’ve gone through….”. She finally shut me up and said, “It’s YOUR tragedy. It’s real to YOU. YOU have to deal with it.”
    I’ve come to realize that, if we are to ever move on and let go, we first need to fully hold these things. They need to be grasped, named, recognized. Only then do we hold the permission and awareness to let them go.
    We can’t let go what we haven’t owned. Feel it fully so you can fully be free.

  60. Already read the book from my library (another great source for free books, although you can’t pass them on to friends as directly!) but just wanted to say, “good job!” I don’t think I’ve EVER used a “down” day to bless someone else. I don’t think it’s ever even occurred to me. So you did double-duty today, using your down day to bless others (with the perk of getting to use a flow-y pen, always nice) AND to inspire me to use my next down day well.

    Also. I am learning (v-e-r-r-r-r-y slowly) to love myself well. I grew up in a home where martyrdom was taught by example, so this idea of loving yourself took a long time to accept, and is taking even longer to learn to do. Thank you for blazing the trail.

  61. A poem I wrote and posted today, based on Ephesians 2:10. Hope it is encouraging!

    We are God’s masterpiece.
    His great work.
    A work of art.

    Me, with all my anxiety and fear.
    With my insecurities and imperfections.
    I am His masterpiece.

    My son, his obsessions and rules.
    With his interests and strengths.
    He is God’s masterpiece.

    My girls, with opinions and moods.
    With their gifts and talents.
    They are His masterpiece.

    My husband.
    With his leadership and creativity.
    He is God’s masterpiece, too.

    We are God’s masterpiece.
    His great work.
    Holy and dearly loved.

  62. Daring Greatly is exactly what our family needed, exactly when we needed it. Thank you for spreading the word.

  63. I love your honesty. Thank you!
    I just bought the book. Am going to share it after I read it.
    Also, I preordered Carry On Warrior…cannot wait to read it!

  64. So excited about this book… I often keep books in my wish list on Amazon and then when I need a bit more money spent to get free shipping I give myself a gift. It feels way better to pay for a book (even if it’s more than the shipping) then to pay for shipping. At least, that’s my rationale. So it arrived with a couple of Christmas presents!!! I just finished the Language of Flowers (amazing) and am looking forward to starting this one.

  65. I did a double take when I read the first line. I am in Naples, Italy right now, and also stuck in a funk with cold, rainy weather. Thanks for being honest with us; it helps us to be honest with ourselves.

  66. Hey Glennon,
    Oh those kind of days are tough…sometimes it’s just one step at a time; counting your blessings and taking care of you is soooo good! Loud, fun music also helps me when the drearies come.
    Bless you, love you,
    theresa

  67. Glennon,
    What would I do without you? I’m at work which I am grateful about (having a job and all that) and it gets boring and then I read your blog and feel like I just had a convo with a girlfriend. I get a pep! I love a pep! I need a pep! Thanks, man.
    Shannon

  68. Oh! How I ♥ smooth, flowy pens! Having one, and having good things to write with it is one of life’s finest pleasures!

  69. Love you!!!

  70. Bought Brene’s book at our neighborhood independent bookstore last week. We’re in the midst of final exams, so I haven’t had a chance to read it yet (but if there’s a chapter in there called “Talking Frantic Students Who Don’t Think They Can Write A Synthesis Paper About ‘Little House On the Prairie’ Off The Ledge,” then for the love of God, someone please reply pronto!).

    If the book resonates with me, and I expect that it will, I will send copies to my dearest friends and request that they pass the book along when they’re done. Community rocks, and I’m delighted to be part of this one.

  71. Naples, as in Naples Florida??? :-) I am in Naples also and it certainly is a dreary day today, and the thunderstorm this early a.m. was something weird indeed for December. Thank you so much for your honest writing, it is so appreciated.

  72. Next time spend the day with the Hallmark channel and its super sappy Christmas movies. Perks me up (along with the M&M’s we share a common love of!)! But for today, send out books (bought mine), listen to Christmas music and love whomever you can for just today and worry about the rest tomorrow.

    Buddy: Sounds like somebody needs to sing a Christmas Carol.
    Jovie: No way.
    Buddy: The best way to spread Christmas Cheer, is singing loud for all to hear.
    Jovie: Thanks, but I don’t sing.
    Buddy: Oh, well, it’s just like talking, except longer and louder, and you move your voice up and down.
    Jovie: I *can* sing, I just choose *not* to sing. Especially in front of other people.
    Buddy: If you can sing alone, you sing in front of other people. There’s no difference.
    Jovie: Actually, there’s a BIG difference.
    Buddy: No there’s not. Wait…
    [Starts singing loud and off-key]
    Buddy: I’m singing/I’m in a store/and I’m siiiiiingiiiiing!/I’m in a store/and I’m siiiiiingiiiiing!
    Gimbel’s Manager: HEY! There’s no singin’ in the North Pole!
    Buddy: Yes there is!
    Gimbel’s Manager: No there’s not!
    Buddy: We sing all the time!
    Gimbel’s Manager: No you don’t!
    Buddy: Especially when we build toys!
    [Back to Jovie]
    Buddy: See?

  73. I just had to share that for me, you did an awesome thing for me by posting about Daring Greatly. It prompted me to buy the book and read it. Which then prompted me to find Brene Brown’s website to see if she was speaking anywhere close to where I live. I found she was a keynote at the Massachusetts Conference for Women in Boston the next week and I registered to attend. It was with 8,000 women with speakers like Adrianna Huffington, Deepak Chopra, Charlotte Beers, Kristen Chenoweth, Barbara Bradley (cofounder of Vera Bradley), Delia Ephron and many other inspiring women with the focus on “IMAGINE – find your purpose and make a difference”. A very monkey-like event! The environment was about women helping women and it was an awesome experience for me as someone who is trying to make a major career change. I wanted to thank you for introducing me to Brene Brown’s work and leading me to this conference. Your writing has made a difference for me in many ways and although I feel a little silly posting this, I am trying to take Dr. Brown’s advice and be a little more vulnerable. Thank you again!

    • Sarah, thank you for this post – you helped me learn what the conference for women is about, and I live in Boston so plan to go next year. I am just really sad I missed it this year! We should have a Boston Monkee Gathering!

  74. Amaze-balls as you would say Glennon. Although it felt like a total indulgence, I did go out to a book store and PAID FULL PRICE for Brene’s book because I wanted that day. I NEVER do that for myself and then I got really busy and it sat there for two weeks and then I found a copy at the library, and I thought, I should take it back and order it on Amazon, or hope Santa brings it to me on Christmas (even though I am Santa), but then I thought about how much Brene put into this book and how she deserved to have many, many people buy it at full price, so I kept it.
    I love it.
    I thank you.

  75. Hang in there G! Weather’s been kind of gloomy around my parts (Louisville, KY) lately too! You’re right though, as my mother loves to say “This too shall pass”!

  76. G,
    I hope you are able to find some peace in the next few weeks and that the storm inside your heart calms and leaves you with the feeling of a beautiful rainbow of God’s promises. I love you and hope you have a good day. I hope you know how much you are loved.

  77. Love your tree-you can not be down for long-you are so inspiring-just think of my seventh graders who raised 600 dollars to feed the hungry and are planning more fund raisers and you inspire me to keep them inspired…

  78. G – Right again as always! Best way to feel better when you are down, is to give to others. Works every time. Have fun addressing all those envelopes full of books!

  79. You are amazing. And amazing women sometimes have to say STOP! And eat Twizzlers and watch Bravo. And drink more Diet Coke or beverage of choice then we should and then we reach deep inside and say ” I CAN DO THIS!” Wishing you an I CAN DO THIS kind of day! Off to buy Brene’s book for my niece who just got a divorce. She’s amazing too.

    New words to live by I just heard….Someone is thankful for less than what you have.

  80. Thank you for getting me excited about this! I had it on my library list for a while, but didn’t want to go out and buy it. But when you consider that it is equal to “two years of therapy, pounds of psychotropic drugs and hundreds of retail therapy trips” then it seems like a pretty stellar investment :)

  81. Wishing you a day where that heaviness leaves your heart. You are AMAZING (pretend you hear me singing that last word).

    ps I recently found a book called ‘When did I get like this, the screamer, worrier, dinosaur chicken nugget buyer, and all the other mothers I swore I’d never be’ by Amy Wilson (or some title close to that). Light hearted and funny, So honest and refreshing.

    I can NOT WAIT to buy your book next April!!!

  82. i’m having a down day too… thx for your transparency. On your down day please KNOW that you are a gift and a treasure. Your voice is the voice of many. Your sparkle shines even when you feel dark. On your down day take care of yourself… stay in your jammies, drink a cup of tea, surround yourself with all the love your fellow monkees have for you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE

  83. Love you, G, even on those days that you dont feel lovable, we love you! :)

  84. Girlfriend, I love that you just flat out and honestly say: “I can’t organize that.” LOVE LOVE LOVE you for that. We should all remember that sometimes NO is a more honest answer than YES. And about getting tired and not sending out your five books…sometimes it is the energy, passion, and love that is more important than the actual idea. XXOO

  85. Always a shock when I am one if the first to read your post! Great use of a down day!

  86. I’m just up north of you sharing the same dreary day in Florida … don’t worry this is very atypical weather for us and it will pass in a few days. At least our gardens will be happy! If it helps with your down day, please know that your posts the past two days have been so powerful for me and my friends. You are an angel to us and a gift from God. And when Advent seems hard remember we are journeying to the birth of that beautiful baby.

    • If you are just north of G, I will be spending Christmas in your area :) … heading (from near Toronto, ON) to Venice, FL in 5 days … for 2 glorious (hopefully sun-filled) weeks! Have a Merry Christma!

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