Feb 222012
 

Here I am, in a quiet house, with time to write. Aaaah. It’s just Theo and me this morning. This is where he sits while I write. On top of me, basically. It makes typing a little tricky, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. God, I love my dog.

 

 

I have this free time because after three years of writing before six am, we’re finally hiring some help with the kids. We’re hiring a nanny, which seems so fancy and freeing I could die of happiness.  She will come just a few hours a week, but still: Joy. The thing is that it’s been harder than I thought it would be to find a nanny who’s a good fit for us. The kids keep saying they want “someone more like you, mom,” which is shocking to me on many levels. Okay, I said. So I’ve been looking for someone who spends most of her time on Facebook and smiles manically all day until she just loses it and yells. YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME. YOU’RE KIDDING ME WITH THIS, RIGHT?

But with standards this high, good help has been hard to find. We have a new friend here today. She seems lovely but quite  peaceful and patient, which might be too foreign and scary to my little ones. We’ll see.

Today I’d like to write about something that’s gnawing at me.

Lately, I’ve been receiving comments and emails that go like this…

You’re so heavy lately. Momastery used to be funny. Now you talk about God all the time. I don’t like it. You should go back to funny.

Yes, really and truly. I’ve read this criticism/advice twenty times in the last week. To put that in perspective, that’s less than one percent of the total messages I read last week, but I’d like to address it because it strikes me as important as Momastery moves forward.

This place, Momastery, is where I share my soul. At the risk of sounding grandiose – I consider myself a writer, an artist. And when I receive these comments, they feel a little like someone is walking through my art gallery, putting sticky notes on my artwork saying – “I don’t like this. Can you create something different?” And then maybe writing down my name, finding my address, and sending me a note saying, “I saw your piece today. You should do your art differently. It’s too dramatic. Lighten up. You should be a different kind of artist, a different kind of person.”

I mean, okay. Fair, I guess. But still a little strange. It’s not that I can’t handle criticism. Trust me. I have been discussed in VERY public forums as a bad mother and as someone who is going “straight to hell with a millstone around her neck.” And more and different and worse than that.  I have learned to either take it in and learn from it or try to keep it out and move on. But this particular type of criticism- my own readers telling me they don’t like how I’m feeling that day, they don’t like what I write about, making requests like I’m a DJ, asking for better or different entertainment…it hurts my feelings in a different kind of way –  and I thought you should know.

I named this place Momastery.  Rhymes with monastery.  There will be God talk here. Writing to me and telling me that there is too much God talk and that you don’t like it is a little like calling ESPN and telling them that there is too much sports talk there and you don’t like sports. I don’t watch ESPN, but I don’t feel the need to ask them to broadcast differently. They are what they are, and they put SPORTS right there in their name. They’re not trying to trick me into watching, they’re just being themselves. Luckily for me, there are hundreds of other stations to watch. And you know what, even though I don’t fancy myself a sports fanatic – when I do force myself to sit and watch ESPN with Craig I often catch a particular story about the thrill of victory or the agony of defeat that transcends all categories and makes me think for days. That reminds me that sometimes, in order to grow, I need to step outside of my comfort zone and keep my mind open. More often, I just need Craig to switch back to HGTV.

I think some of us might be a little confused about what I mean when I say that everyone is invited to Momastery. Everyone is invited here, but I’m hosting the party – and I can only be who I am. I built this place by being myself every day, by not hiding or playing to the crowd or pretending to be anyone other than who I am. I’m certainly not going to change that now. You must remember- Momastery is not a panel of people discussing each morning how to strike the perfect balance between witty and touching and reverent and irreverent and Jesus and agnostic and mommy and sans kids and etc etc etc. Momastery is ME. In my yoga pants. With a chronic disease and a book to write and a husband and three children. Volunteering six hours a day for the past three years to this place, to you, to us. It’s just me…reflecting on life as it sails by and occasionally smacks me in the face.

And here’s the thing. Yeah, I’m funny. I’ll probably always be funny because I’m not sure how you can run into so many things and fall down constantly and lose your car and mind so often and NOT at least TRY to make it funny. I mean, otherwise, it’d be kind of sad.

But those things are my outer life. All the stuff we usually talk about with friends or read on blogs…the dressing and the schooling and the sports and the housework and the career are all the outer life. But to me, the inner life is just as fascinating and important as the outer life. That’s why I’m obsessed with monks and monasteries, because they dedicate much of their times to the inner life. To the heart and the brain and the soul, and all that happens there. And how the things that happen THERE are what determine what we do in our outer life. In that way- our inner life is what determines what the entire world becomes.  I don’t think we talk about that enough. Or give ourselves quiet time to think about it, even.  I like to take time to think about those things, and here is where I do that.

As a wife and mother I am bombarded every day with one million gazillion ways to become a better mama…it seems like all people talk to me about is being a mama. But I’m a woman too. I’m a human being – a spiritual being – and I have other things to talk about than motherhood, other ways of becoming better and more whole. I want to spend time developing other parts of myself. I want to talk about important things like love and life and death and this “God” we have so much trouble discussing. I want to talk about peace and how to make it. That’s just me.

I found this poem last night in my baby book. I wrote it in fourth grade. It’s a little blurry, sorry.

 

That’s just me.

And here’s what you should know. If this stuff is too heavy for you, I am going to continue to disappoint you. Because I can feel myself being pulled more strongly toward the God stuff- toward the deep stuff. As a matter of fact- I plan to spend the next year asking myself…Why am I a Christian, anyway? I think it’s a good question, and I’m not afraid to ask it, publicly. I think God can handle that question. So right now I am asking some of you to invite me to your faith celebrations. I want to go to mosques and synagogues and ashrams and wherever atheists meet to discuss atheisty things. Starbucks? Poetry readings? See?? I don’t even know. But I want to. I want to learn from different people. I want to learn everything. While serving at my church and spending my evenings in bed with my kiddos teaching them everything I sort of know about Jesus. That’s what I’m going to do.

The day after I decide NO ADS, and said God will provide, I spent the day wondering if that was the stupidest decision ever made in the history of the world.  I wondered how the helI I was going to make a difference and help people in need with no income. The next day, an extremely well respected international aid group invited me to take trip to Tanzania to see the relief work happening there and write to you about it. Kay.

I was scared, since going to Costco is a huge, exhausting journey for me, and I didn’t know where Tanzania was, but I was fairly certain it was way further than Costco. At first I hoped I’d misheard the nice man on the phone and that he was actually asking me to see the relief work being done in Tennessee-ah. But, no. Africa for sure. So I asked God for a sign. Then I started making dinner. Here was the first turkey cutlet I pulled out of the bag.

 

 

So I’ll probably drag my Lymie self to Africa soon and then write about it. (BUBBA AND TISHA- BREATHE IN AND OUT DEEPLY. I’LL CALL YOU SOON TO EXPLAIN) I imagine my trip to Africa won’t all be funny. It’ll probably get heavy. Life gets heavy. Art reflects life.

This place is going to change. It already is changing. Soon – there will be fewer stories about my family here – those stories will be in my books. Books! Plural! Yes! That part is happening! My children are getting older and they deserve their privacy. There is a thin but NEON line there, and I need to walk it carefully. This blog is also one of the five thousand most popular websites in the country now – which for a personal blog- is a ridiculous amount of exposure.  Craig and I have some serious internet safety issues with which to deal, and we’ve been in discussions with wise and concerned police about that. There is more going on over here than whipping up the next funny story.

Momastery will change. Because I’m changing and you’re changing and the world’s changing, thank God.

Serve – but to thine own self be true.

Love You,

GDo

 



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  13. Glennon,

    I’m a 32 year old bachelor. I usually read blogs on sports, music, or picking up girls. After my sister in law posted about 18 million of your articles to her facebook wall, I figured I would check out the site that she kept raving about.

    I spent the next four hours on this site reading post after post. Why did I do that? Why would a single man spend four hours voraciously consuming mommy blog posts when he should have been spending that time doing work so that he would have time to go out after work, put on the always-effective mischievious smirk, and maybe meet a girl that would one day give him a much better reason to peruse a mommy blog?

    Simple: because you are an excellent writer.

    Keep writing. Don’t worry for a single second about the way in which your writing will be received by others. You can’t please everybody. You’ll never please everybody. So don’t every worry about pleasing anybody (with your writing). Writing is a lonely endeavour. I know this. You sit down and whatever is swirling around inside your brain comes out onto the paper. And, for you, it comes out quite beautifully. It might be dark one day; funny the next; super introspective the next next; manically ambitious the next next next, etc. Whatever it is: it’s good. And you can’t change the whatever it is part because you can’t just tell the stuff swirling around in your brain to go away. At least I can’t tell my brain that.

    So keep doing what you’re doing. Just keep writing. People will keep reading because you’re very good at doing what you’re doing.

  14. Kudos to you! Keep on Keepin on…

  15. Hi Glennon,

    I just had to comment because I can’t believe you’re coming to Tanzania. I read your blog, and I live in Tanzania. I heard about your blog from a friend and colleague of mine who also lives in Tanzania. I imagine whatever organization is bringing you out here will take great care of you and keep you super busy during your trip, but most people have lots of questions when they come to Africa for the first time, so on the off chance that you would like to, feel free to use my email address and ask any questions you might have. Like, about what to expect, or what to bring, or whatever. Also, because we Americans are all one big family over here in TZ, you’re incredibly welcome to stop by my house if you happen to be in the area. Just…not because I think that’s likely to happen, but just in case, you know. I live in a village with my husband and two kids and we’re doing Bible translation for a minority language group.

  16. Glennon, you are really and truly fabulous, and don’t let anyone tell you differently. When I feel like I’ll get a a D- in MOM this semester, I read your thoughts and I feel better. I’m an English professor at a college, and I’ve started using the words “critique with love” and that makes my students feel better. You are sending amazing, spiritual beauty across the world in waves. Remember that.

  17. Glennon, God has led me to your site a few times over the past month. I am honored to be your sister in Christ, and I encourage you to continue to go “deeper.” I believe it is where God is calling you to go so that you may increase His Kingdom. You have been blessed with an infectious spirit, and I’m so thankful you are intertwining that with your love for Jesus! I will be praying for you…Katie Dunn @ redeemedandredirected.com

  18. As always, I am just glad you write, so I can read it!! You have been blessed with an amazing gift. I am always amazed at all of the positive comments you get from athiests, etc. Not because I think they are incapable of saying nice things, I just always assumed that they were all angry with Christians because of how some of us treat people. But I think we all know what they say about assuming! I am so glad that I and apparently a gazillion others found your blog.And as a Tennessee- ah- an, you are welcome to visit anytime!!

  19. I am new to your blog. I love your statement of who you are is what we get. I am so impressed with what you are doing. Keep going. :)

  20. Hi! I’ve been following Momastery for a couple of months or so now. I enjoy it b/c your posts are funny and poignant and deep and meaningful and full of hope and comapssion. Sometimes you write something in a way which causes me to pause, thinking, wow – I tought Iwas the only one . . . Or wait, not everyone is like that? Am I more different than I knew?
    I’m not a religous person, and honestly, that is unlikely to change. however, i love your faith. and it has caused me to reflect on my own faith and spriruality. I have realized that i have faith in us, in the resiliency of the human spirit, and in the kindness of strangers.
    I have not read all 400+ comments that have come before me, but I am sure that much of the world will still embrace you and momastery whatever road your journey takes you down, as long as you stay true to yourself.
    Much Love -

  21. I know I’m not saying much new here but you’re awesome. Please keep being yourself and doing what you’re doing. For every person who doesn’t like the deep stuff there is another person like me who loves it and would be SO disappointed if you weren’t writing from your own heart with all your humor and insight and honesty.

  22. I came across Momastery on Jan 4, 2012.

    A day in my life that could have been described as “She’s come undone” when referencing it. Honestly. I was sobbing and broken, without a clue in the world which way I should progress in order to get through the next few seconds of my life. And then I saw it. On Facebook. A share of “Carpe Diem” from one of my besties. Quite frankly, your blog has been a life-changing gift for me. The funny, the heavy, the silly, the outrageous….ALL OF IT. You sharing your experiences, your thoughts and your heart is just brilliant, and I treasure this sacred place. Please don’t ever change being you. Because even though we are Monkees and “everybody’s in” and we Sister On all day long……at the beginning it was just YOU. Being you :-)

    God Bless you and your family, Glennon.
    You are truly a light and force of nature!

  23. I beg of you, be nothing but yourself!! You and only you is what keeps me coming back to your writing!!

  24. Glennon, thank you for being real and true to yourself. Your blog is amazing and though I am new to this blog it only inspires me as a mom, wife and woman to be true to myself and that is why I am so drawn to your blog. So confused by the people posting negative comments..if they don’t like what you are writing then maybe they should exit. Your blog is your blog, You are you. If they had a friend that changed in a way they didn’t like wouldn’t they possibly step away..I would if I were true to myself. The people that don’t like change will themselves stay the same and oh how very boring that would be. They want to change you, but maybe they should look at themselves. You are gifted Glennon:)

  25. I am late to this post but want to say “You go, girl!” Keep on being who you are. Safequard & respect your family, as you see fit. I don’t just want the funny stuff, as great as it it. I ponder the other stuff & find myself blessed.

  26. I’m new to this place but here’s my best thought on why I’m loving Momastery. You being you helps me be me. thank you:)

  27. hey G, I love you, love your blog, just the way it is. Thanks for being soooo funny, and thanks for looking up, and thanks for including God. It’s awesome to read about what’s going on with YOU, as a person, as a child of God….so be YOU. I will still read. I’m excited to see what God will be doing in your life, and how you share that with the rest of us!
    love from a newer Monkee, Julie

  28. Glennon… God meets us exactly where we are. I think he’s meeting a lot of people here. keep doing what you’re doing – it means a lot.

    I tell people about this blog constantly, and cry. Sometimes to strangers (which is
    weird)

  29. I just want to say that I totally believe in you. And that in this day it is hard to find someone who just truly believes in what they are doing and doesn’t need to be different to do that. I started a blog a few months back when I got married, moved to a different county, and had a baby within 6 months. (whew!) Recently, I got an email criticizing the same kind of thing. It read something along the lines of I haven’t read your stuff in a while because I thought you got boring but these last few have been good again. While I like to know people’s real thoughts, I thought boring? BORING? In one of my blogs I actually say I hope of all things my daughter turns out to be, I hope boring is not on the menu. so I started thinking why boring? Was i writing too much about my daughter and her milestones or including too many pictures? In all honesty, I’m not one to listen too much to what other people say but this one, like you said, hurt my feelings. Like, this is what I do. This is my art and you think it’s boring? And then I realized that I too was very honest about that blog. If it turns out to be something bigger than great, but my sole purpose for it was to keep my family and friends (particularly my mom) updated with my daughter’s milestones, her pictures, and our life in Dominican Republic. And that is what I plan to continue to do. so there.

    Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for sharing this specific piece because it really hit home… then again your voice usually does.

  30. I am a little late to this post. Have to say …AMEN SISTER! Staying the same is not growing. Still watching from the background, but always showing up when needed.

    Sue Ann

  31. I repeat the BRAVO from a commenter below. I applaud your bravery in saying your piece. I’m also thrilled about your Africa trip and will pray for your peace about it. My husband has been totally transformed by annual trips to Zimbabwe. I will continue to appreciate your art. Godspeed to you, Glennon.

  32. I gotta tell you, this blog is amazing! Im probably the weirdest person here, im a 7th grade girl and im jewish, but really, you help me get thru the annoying school day. adorable family! keep writing!

    thanks soooo much for this blog,
    leah

  33. Someone posted a link to your blog on their facebook. I was curious and stalked your posts a bit and I’m glad I did. Your candidness and honesty are so refreshing. Your words are like a fine meal, indulgent and deliciously satisfying.

    After reading this and so many of your posts, I was reminded of a biblical verse:
    Luke 11:9 “And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you”

    After years AND years of catholic school, it’s maybe the only thing that stuck. Not that I go around quoting bible verses regularly, but it’s the one mantra I can actually live by. I guess the really important part is asking, seeking, knocking….

    I love that you unabashedly approach your life, asking for what you need, seeking answers to all life’s questions and knocking on (or down) all those doors to different worlds, different paths, different experiences. For someone that has at once hidden from the world, I find you to be an immensly courageous individual.

    And speaking of doors, how fitting that while one seems to be closing, another one is just beginning to open. With your influential talents, I don’t doubt that with your new endeavor in Tanzania that you will reach a new audience and your words will have an even more profound impact than they already do. It seems to me you are a historian of sorts, someone meant to document the realities of life, whether mundane, humerous, dramatic or otherwise…Please keep doing what you do, in any way shape or form that feels most appropriate for you in your journey.

  34. You are wonderful just how you are. dont change for anyone

  35. You are just the most classy wonderful person! Everything I read of yours leaves me in happy tears!

  36. BEST blog you’ve ever written. PERIOD.

  37. I’m not going to lie, I am slightly disappointed. As a long term “monkee,” things have drastically changed here, and not too long ago you spoke of not withholding various aspects of your life because “agents” were informing you it would help you sell more books. I used to love your funny take on motherhood, as well as your religious insight. I am confused as to why there isn’t room for both here anymore. You say you want to keep your children “seperate,” and that is fine if you truly were to do that, but putting them in a book is anything but, except you’ll be getting paid for it.

    • I am offended and hurt by what is being insinuated here.

      Love,
      G

      • I truly am sorry that I have hurt you by my comment, but I also just “don’t get it.” I guess I would understand if you left your family out all together (although I would be sad to miss the funny stories), but that is not what you had stated in this post. Maybe I am reading it wrong…maybe I’m not…

        • I am going to try to be careful and gentle here, but I am NOT AT ALL sure I can pull all that off.  So fasten your seatbelts, folks, ’cause the Monkee who can’t shut up is stepping into the place he, of all people, should not be allowed to go.  If you’re lucky, you won’t see just how vicious one can be with words-my childhood trained me well in the use of my dark side to commit serious injury with nothing but words, so I apologize now if I’m about to show a side of me that you won’t probably enjoy seeing:

          Jenna: you’re being judgmental.  Don’t you see that?  As a Monkee, have you not yet learned how mean and selfish and impotent such behavior ALWAYS proves to be?  Never mind ‘as a Monkee’-as a human who’s evolved to the point of reading such things as G writes!  How can you EVER have recognized the beauty she brings to the world, yet failed to learn that?!  Or is it that you recognize her beauty and talent, but can’t see the way you’re mistreating that beauty, and that talent, and mistreating her, and all of us?  And worst: youre mistreating yourself-for I cannot believe that the mindset you have allowed yourself to indulge in is an example of you being your best person.

          You don’t trust her instincts now.  You have liked what she has written, up to now, but you’re shaken by the changes that have come to pass since the whole rest of humanity suddenly seems to have noticed, too.  Well, I bet you ain’t half as shaken as Glennon is by all this.  Do you think she hasn’t already considered your worries about her kids’ role in all this?  Do you think she, who has turned down THOUSANDS of dollars in online advertising, is exploiting her children to make a buck?!  For that implication alone, I am ashamed to admit how VERY angry I am with you.  I’m not ashamed that I AM angry with you, make no mistake-I am quite sure that my anger is well-placed-I am ashamed (and truly surprised) at the intensity and coldness of my fury at your seemingly wilfull judgment and condescension.  

          You say you simply, “don’t get it”-what do you need help understanding?  She has been very clear about everything.  What you don’t realize is that the thing you “don’t get” is YOU.  You’ve allowed yourself to believe that your ideas of how to manage one’s life are better than her ideas.  They aren’t.  They may be on a par (although it’s probable that your ideas of anything are inferior to most others’ ideas, since you’re obviously not thinking clearly lately) with hers, but they are not superior to hers, or to anyone’s.  They are simply different.

          You need to think some more, Jenna.  Because your misconceptions, and your reluctance to face changes in the world around you, are hurting you and causing you to be hurtful to others.  And that is unacceptable behaviour.  I know I’ve been a bit shocking here, and I’m going to regret some of that tomorrow, when I re-read what I’ve said here. I should save this and send it in 24 hours, after I’ve had a chance to think about all this, but I won’t wait.  Because if my 7-year-old were to act as you’ve acted here, I wouldn’t be able to wait a day before dealing with her-I’d have to do my best to temper my feelings with wisdom and launch her ass to her room as gently as she deserves (but no moreso than that), and it has to be right away, so she (and you) understands that such treatment of loved ones is never okay.

          Momma: twice, recently, I’ve recommended Richard Bach’s book, “Illusions.”  I wish I could find my copy of that, now.  There’s a point in it where the messiah asks Richard how he’d handle it if people don’t like his strange message, which contradicts some deeply-held beliefs.  He replies that he’d basically tell them, “if you don’t like it, fine!  There’s the door.”

          You let us try to understand you, and we love you for that.  But we won’t all pull it off.  We try to be adaptable, but not all of us are that flexible.  Don’t expect us all to remain fans.  Some people just won’t like you.  You have to accept that, even if you can’t comprehend it.  Let those go, and walk on.

          Paul Johanson

          • Yowza. This is craziness. Do you know each other? Wow.

            Jenna..now worries, babe. You’re human an entitled to your own opinion.

            Sheesh!

          • This particular comment thread is not doing very well at being gentle and kind. Please, Monkees, when we attack each other, we fail each other.

            Jenna, I can see where you were coming from. Your thought process is logical. I do think you came to the wrong conclusion, though. I don’t think Glennon was saying that she’s going to save all the funny kid stories for her books so that they sell better. Her primary concern was privacy and safety. Due to the publishing process, any stories in her books won’t come out for at least a few years, after which her children will be older and better able to cope with any effects that the book may cause.

            Paul, you are a valued member of this community. I understand your desire to defend Glennon, but you came off WAY harsh. Jenna was sharing her feelings, which she is allowed to do. She may have come to the wrong conclusion, but that does not merit her being attacked so viciously.

            Please be careful with each other, friends. We belong to each other.

            .love.

          • Rachael, beautifully and perfectly said.

    • I’ve been torn up inside since I wrote what I said here before. This is not fun, for me-it’s very saddening. When I was a kid, I was actually proud of this ‘talent’ of mine-this ability to shred another’s thoughts and feelings. I needed it then; it was all I had to fight back with. But, years ago, I saw it for the ugly thing that it is. It’s stil here, though. It’s part of my character, and sometimes it’s the only way I know how to communicate my thoughts.

      I won’t retract anything I’ve said-I said some nasty things; I won’t try to pretend I’m not really nasty now. Neither will I defend any of it.

      I do apologize to all of you-especially to Jenna and Glennon!- for its presence here.

      Laura, Rachael and Zoey: I completely agree with all three of you.

      PJ

  38. Glennon,
    I totally get what you’re saying! I turned 40 this year and finally found the strength to be me. It’s liberating, but sometimes lonely. My family (parents, sisters) are threatened by this new me (which I’ve always been but am me- now more amplified). In turn, we’ve had a lot of quarrels about how things should be: how I should raise my kids, what my marriage should look like, questions about the recent process I underwent to become a part of the Catholic church, and on and on. What I figured out through this whole process is that I must be true to myself because that is where God resides- in the center of me. So to tell you or anyone else what to write about or how entertaining you should be is ludicrous to me. You are who you are and that’s never wrong. I’ve also learned that the decisions I make only have to be “approved” by my beloved Father/Son/Holy Spirit and no one else. Whether my decisions in life are popular with the masses or not doesn’t matter like it did when I was the quieter version of myself. What matters is that I have peace when I do what is right for my husband, my children, and me. God Bless you and yours.

    • I just had to comment about your new found strength Janet. WAIT until you turn 50 gurrrrrrrrrl!!! you will find “muscles” you never knew you had! Good for you for excercising your strength! Those who matter won’t mind and those who don’t matter, oh crud how does that go? Girl, I’m 50 and 3 months and the older/wiser you get, the more you realize who and what are important and if you don’t mind me saying, the more you don’t give a rat’s bottom about the jerks that may lurk around you. My fault is I like to point them out usually and that is unpopular, but hey. I never was popular since I always stood out and away from the crowd.

      And I agree with you about Gdog. I will soak in all she has to offer. Her gifts and her writing. Not mine to change.

  39. Amen Sister!! Continue talking about God and what he does in your life!!!

  40. Amen Sister!!! Please continue to talk about God !

  41. It was not Africa i saw ; )

    Live your life for you for your family write your blog for you.

    “If you write it they will come” just a small side step from the original quote, But you write people come and read you touch their heart’s and mind’s. How many people have you saved from a a bad decision, A wrong choice, May be, Just may be some have turned back to God. You will never know how many.

    I am sure a lot of people like me don’t usually reply on blog’s. (No one will read it any way is my reason) keep writing for you, for your sanity, For our sanity. we all make the choice to read and follow or not BUT what should be kept in mind is this is your blog we are invited to come and share not tear you down or apart.

    I suppose that comes from familiarity and a feeling of being your friend, as you share your story. This does not make it OK to not filter words written to you.

    May be you should employ a letter opener some one to scan your mail, email for negative and handle it before it gets to you : )

    With fame comes a price.. Your cross to bear may be thickening your skin to people jealous of your success and wanting to bring you down.

    I wish you every luck and success you have worked hard to get to this point. God bless you and your family (xx Just in case you do read this)

    • Acctually, Rachel, I think Glennon does read all of her comments, and I know that lots and lots of monkees read the comments too! In fact, I come back to read the comments! i think you are a wonderful, beautiful person and I hope that you are blessed!

  42. Reading your blog is a lift for my life as a mother. I feel so much kinship to other mothers because people like you are able to capture it. Thank you for the time, the heart, and the commitment! You are doing something wonderful. Bless you!

  43. I just wanted to thank you for your honest sharing of your life and journey. I’ve been reading for about a month or maybe two and am also in the middle of a life mindset adjustment, if you will, haha. Reading this blog is something positive and supportive for me during this first big step turning the corner. Thank you.

  44. You got heavy when I needed heavy, so UP WITH HEAVY, I say.

    Also, I wanted to tell you that a reporter called me, somewhat randomly, to talk about motherhood. And I was very changed, having been Momastery-izing for the last month or so. And I told her about giving up on perfection, about following our children’s lead sometimes, and most of all, not judging yourself or others harshly when things aren’t exactly as you thought they’d be (i.e., working moms vs. stay-at-home moms).

    I was inspired by your and Craig’s willingness to go public with your imperfections.

  45. I think I’ve already commented on this, but I’m going to again. You are beautiful, wise, encouraging, and you’re prompting me to explore and journey on. I’m thankful for the “heaviness,” since I am broken, imperfect. Laughter is beautiful, but I can’t joke away my foibles.

    Thank you, for you. For being an image of healing, the process of healing.

  46. Stay true to yourself, because that amazing person is, well…AMAZING…Love you dear…

  47. I too am a writer, a wife, the mom of three kids, and a chronic illness patient, and I try to laugh instead of cry, because really, why would you choose otherwise? I had the most surprising and illuminating experience this week–and I encourage you to follow your heart. I think it’s ever so easy to lose sight of your own self-ness inside all these other daily roles, dear as they are to one’s heart. Thank you for sharing your writing.

  48. You have hit chords closer than you could ever know all the way here in woodstock,Ga.
    I admire your strengths and even more your determined weaknesses.I relate to your stories your spiritual path and your dealings more than most I know..I pray for complete guidance and Gods provision…Your rare funny and I looked forward to your inspiration..

  49. I love you even more…I walk alongside of you more than you could ever know from woodstock georgia….Your thoughts are mine out loud…Confirming my thoughts visions and spiritual growth…..your priority is in those four walls respecting their privacy and all the while still living out your passions to write and touch others…God will provide!

  50. I admire your clarity and determination to stay in your own skin.

  51. Love love this post! I feel like we’re on the same journey w/ very similar circumstances, sort of.
    I started blogging because a co-worker and a cop who pulled me over asked me why i wasn’t crying… and instead laughing? Well, i told him and then it became my motto, that if i am laughing I won’t be crying.. and my god, the last thing i want to do, is cry over stuff that happen w/ me, (i don’t say “to” me)

    God has presented himself to me in a very strong, sort of hit me over the head kind of way over the past year. I’m w/ ya!

    Please be your self, as there’s no one else you can truly be and be happy.
    ~Jenn

  52. Thank you for being YOU Glennon and for allowing us all at your party. One day at a time girl. Sometimes, one minute at a time.

  53. Bravo! and Amen. And here’s a book I think you would like: http://www.amazon.com/Spiral-Staircase-Climb-Out-Darkness/dp/0385721277

  54. Brutiful~

  55. Your blog is awesome. And your family is beautiful!

  56. There will always be people ready to tear some one apart when they start doing well. At the end of the day it’s your Blog if people don’t like it they have a choice simply don’t read it any more. They should not criticize and say they don’t like it It really is that simple. If the shoe was on the other foot would they like some one telling them they hate the one thing they love about their life.

  57. GDo,
    I really love your writing and if there are days that are too filled with God or whatever, I still read, and I think and, of course, I just come back later.

    Keep doing what you do so well!
    xoxo
    Andie

  58. I love reading your blog, light or heavy. Keep digging deep!

    I am what you would call an atheist. I shy away from the term, however, since there are a lot of negative assumptions that go along with it. If you are really interested in talking to people who don’t believe in a deity with whom you will probably make a stronger connection, try looking up your local Secular Humanist society.
    Here’s a website that might help. http://www.secularhumanism.org/

    -Linda

  59. A favorite book of mine is Too Soon Old Too Late Smart but you have me thinking – how did she get so wise so young? Being you is the perfect person for you to be. May we all take that in for ourselves.

  60. AMEN! I LOVE your funny…however, I get what you are saying. I think your funny has allowed many of us to laugh at “our” funny. It has given so many of us permission to laugh at life when before many of us felt so overwhelmed we wanted to cry. I am laughing so much more at my own funny. You and this place have helped me do this because I don’t feel so alone anymore.

    I also love that you are evolving. That is all as humans we can ask for right? To do the best we can and continue growing into better versions of ourselves. I love it. I cannot wait to see this evolution.

    Also- I have a book(s) that I think you would be interested in regarding spreading your mission of crossing faiths. I would LOVE to send it/them to you. Maybe I will start with one, as I know we are alike- we want to soak up the info and buy everything and then everything just sits on the bookshelf because it is too overwhelming to read ALL of it. I do have one book in mind that I think is so appropriate for your new love mission! Do you have a PO Box to send things with the new security system? :) Let me know! I want to send it to you. It is inspiring and crosses every faith system…..and I think it helps us all find our corner of spirituality, but at the same time honor others their corner too….all the while finding that we are searching and working towards the same goal!

    • Veronica – click on “Contact” at the top of the page and G’s post office box is listed in that section. I know she loves getting mail!

      .love.

      • Rachael – are you okay? I don’t even know if you’ll see this… but I’ve noticed you haven’t commented on a post in a long time… just checking in…

        Kristin

  61. You go girl! Don’t filter a thing and keep talking God. I came upon your blog about a month ago and it is a modern chicken soup for the soul. I love it!!

  62. I’m one of the new readers who hopped on the viral post bandwagon, but I’m still here because of the quality of your writing. I’ll keep coming back because you write well… unless you start writing exclusively about sports. I don’t believe in God, but I find the “God stuff” on your blog thought-provoking nonetheless. As a vegetarian I could do without the raw meat photos… just sayin’.

  63. When I first saw the name of your blog I thought it was pronounced Mom Mastery, then I searched and the results were: monastery=lightbulb then your explanation here. Huh. That you are so true to You makes me want to keep coming back.

  64. Glennon, you say the things most of us are too chicken to admit, and that is so brave. You make us chickens feel less guilty about those ugly thoughts and feelings we have. I love your honesty. Here is a verse that I thought of while reading your post:

    Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. ~Proverbs 4:23 (King James version)

  65. G,
    I’ve learned in life…you can’t possibly please everyone…so you might as well do what YOU think, and feel and believe in because that’s all you can do. I should point out that you do it with a huge amount of awesomeness =)

  66. If you write it, they will come… I found your blog a few weeks ago and I have laughed and cried at some of your posts, but this is my first comment. Some things I may not have always agreed with, but it’s not my page to criticize. I love your honesty – the great and the not. I know it’s easy for me to say, but worry less about the naysayers as there will always be people to find fault in no matter what you do/say. Keep being you, G! That’s why everyone loves you! :-)

  67. Just want to let you know I just “found” you and I am completely in love. You are freakin’ amazing. Someday, I am going to go back to the beginning and read everyone of your blogs, but for now, this one is just perfect, perfect in who you are, and perfect for me to read right now. I so relate to the inner life being more important than the outer life, and that you can create the balance between growing that inner life AND sharing it with the world is astounding to me. Thank you!

  68. Dearest G,

    The funny can’t exist without the heartbreak. You remind me of this every dsy.

    With love, and great thanks for your beautiful words,
    Brett Mentuck

  69. I just came across your blog in the past week and LOVE your writing! Thank you for being real, for being honest, and for asking the tough questions about faith and life in general. You’ve got yourself another faithful follower and also planning to send some love your way on my next blog post. The thoughts you’ve written need to be shared! I look forward to following your journey!

  70. G:
    Write on sister, write on…One of the many things I love about you and your writing is your love for God, the world, and your vulnerablitly. Read in the book, “Leaving Church” “The message of the gospel of Christ is this-You have what it takes to be fully human.” Being human and being real is really all there is to living an authenic life and why live anything else? Most critics of “heavy writing” mean this: “I can’t think about that stuff it scares me and makes me sad and deep down I think I am not worthy because I don’t like to think of that stuff.” Well, life is hard. Life is deep. Life is also alot of fun. Life is sad and it is joyous all in the same 1 hour period. Life is funny and serious. If we never experience the sad, the deep, the heavy -then we can never truly recognize joy when it slaps us in the face, we can never recognize true love when we walk over it barefooted and we really don’t grow all that much. So thank you for being you, for writing about you, for not being anything else but you. Truthfully there just aren’t any better options. And you have one (me) very grateful reader who is glad to know someone else struggles like me, looses her car on a regular basis, hates ESPN but lives with sons, husband who love it, can’t beleive they want to eat dinner everyday and loves Jesus and really struggles minute by minute to live up to that whole Love your neighbor thing and is a recovering Fundamentalist. I struggle particularly when my neighbor cut in front of me at Starbucks, said mean things about me behind my back, snapped at me at work and sometimes is my sister in law who can get on my nerves. As Richard Foster said in the Celebration of Discipline: The world doesn’t need more spiritual people, it needs more deep people. Thank you for writing what only you can write and what we all need to hear.

    Kathleen

  71. I had a similar run-in with haters recently after I published a guest blog post on a technique that I use professionally. It ruined my day. My week. My month. Then I got a grip. I found this link yesterday: it’s Tim Ferris, on the topic of “How To Deal With Haters.” The video helped me and I think you’ll like it, too

    http://bit.ly/zfo2cr

    • I hate hearing that people were upset by the unkindness of strangers who bully others from the anonymity of their computer keyboards. It’s easy to be bold and speak your mind when you know that you will never be held accountable for your words. Blow off the haters – easier said than done, I know….but Glennon’s words have been helpful to and enjoyed by so many readers, and no doubt the same can be said for yours. Keep on writing, and ignore the mean people :)

  72. I’m new here. I forget how I got here a week or so ago, but I read your post titled “Fifteen” and instantly knew I would love this blog. I love that you are willing to share your joy and your pain, your searching and your silliness. This is what life is. Thank you for allowing us a peek into yours and enabling us to see through new eyes.
    I can’t begin to tell you how enlightening that first post I read was. It helped me understand something I’ve always found difficult to understand. It even helped me understand some of the struggles my youngest son has had with those things pulling at him. He’s not an addict or an alcoholic, but he is an artist and a sensitive soul. I see now why those things might whisper to him and he might feel pulled to try them even while knowing he shouldn’t and fighting with himself not to. He’s winning, but I must admit that I was upset it would be a struggle for him at all and wondered how I had failed. That little bit of understanding is such a gift, and I hope I can help him and others with it. Thank you.

  73. Would they tell Maya these things about her writing or Stevie this about his songs?? Please continue to write about whatever moves you at the time and we can “tune in” as we wish. Those who are no longer interested can “change the channel” if they feel the need!

  74. Thank you for sharing it all, the heavy and the light. If you didn’t share the heavy, I’m not sure we could be friends :) Because it’s real and tricky and rough, and beautiful and glorious and full of joy, all at once.

    I love this song, btw.

  75. As if you need one more…..this is my FIRST response after reading you like crazy for the past month when I found you. Go girl. I am LOVING this direction. I too have had similar responses and all I can say is, “FOLLOW YOU, not the appeals. You are loving and kind to all so do not feel that sharing your heart is narrow minded. Be true.

  76. I love this. Thanks for sharing so much – the heavy and the light.
    This song is one of my favorites.

    Love to you and yours!

  77. LOVE LOVE LOVE this post! G, I love you when you’re funny and I love you when you’re serious. You have a beautiful way with words and even on the (very rare) occasions that I disagree with your opinion, I still love hearing it. Like you, I want to know more about others. I love knowing what makes people tick. I love that when I read your blog I know I’m not the only one who yells at my kids, forgets where I park, and sometimes feels overwhelmed by this crazy journey called life! Keep bringing your own art to your gallery. It’s beautiful and should never be changed to fit someone else.

    And I love that you ended with “to thine own self be true” because I was thinking that throughout the post :)

  78. […] Momastery on talking honestly about God and life […]

  79. Be prepared. Tanzania will change your life. I went to Guatemala in January of 2011 to work for a week at a malnutrician center. I did not want to go, but my teenaged son having just returned from Haiti told me that they didn’t need stuff, but “moms to rock the babies.” I ended up in Guatemala in obedience to God but was scared silly. I don’t like to travel, don’t like to fly, don’t like going places that might have germs. But, I came back changed. Will take my third trip in a little over a year to see my babies in Guatemala next week and then, am considering going to India. But, I did have to say to God, “Really? India? Can’t I keep going to Guatemala?” God has a funny sense of humor. Give us laughs when you can, make us cry when you need to, and keep us thinking all the time. It is your blog. Write what you are called to write.

  80. You are an artist! Drawing so many people in to your world with writing is deliberate and not simple– it takes thought, story, conviction, and lots of dreaming — and you do this all exponentially well. Thanks for sticking to your passions. I’ve never been to Africa, please take great notes. Lisa

  81. Glennon, I am IN LOVE WITH the direction you are taking this blog. Like you, I am feeling pulled more strongly toward the God-stuff. Actually, it may well be more accurate to say ‘BECAUSE OF YOU I am feeling pulled more strongly toward the God-stuff.’ I consider you to be one of my primary spiritual teachers. I am finding this pull to God intense, and a bit scary, and Momastery IS a sacred space for me and a safe harbor. I feel God speaking both to you and through you, and I am grateful. You and your writing are a gift from God, and I am excited to continue to follow you wherever the path leads.

  82. That said, I have to be honest that I’m a bit concerned. I feel like this community is being too hard on the funny-lovers. G, maybe I’ve completely misunderstood, but I feel like you have a long history of encouraging feedback from your readers – wanting to know what we want to hear more of, wanting to know what resonates and what doesn’t, whether people want more or less love projects, etc. I don’t think it is outside the norms of this community for readers to send you their thoughts about the direction of Momastery.

    I completely understand why such suggestions might hurt your feelings as an artist and certainly think you have a right to explain this to us. And I completely understand why other Monkees might feel the desire to leap to your defense. But I feel that the general consensus of ‘How dare they???’ in response to these readers is really not fair, and is not really consistent with the values of this community.

    I learned from you that love wins and so we must be careful with each other, in particular with how we correct each other when our feelings are hurt. If I were one of the folks who’d asked for more funny, I would be feeling completely rejected by you and by the Monkees, and I would be heart-broken to feel on the outside of a community that had once welcomed me . . . just as I was. No. This doesn’t feel right to me. It very much reminds me of the ‘turn the other cheek’ situation a few months back.

    My basic point is that I think we should all remember that these readers were very likely not intending any kind of harm. These readers are our Monkees too, and actually are likely to be long-time Monkees who have been with the blog long enough to remember the olden-days when Momastery was more funny and less spiritual. Glennon DOES set the direction of Momastery, but I believe that it should be left up to these Monkees whether they are up for evolving with Momastery. They shouldn’t be pushed out or made to feel unwelcome for expressing a preference.

    • I too feel like mixed messages have been sent. Glennon’s writing is art, certainly, but it takes the form of a web log. Discussion of her art is inherent in this setting. Momastery is not a painting or a song, it’s a community. We pray for eachother, think about eachother and such. I’m guessing Glennon doesn’t want to shut down discussion, but was feeling a bit like a court jester.

    • Erika,
      Thank you! As a long time monkee that thinks momastery has gotten “religious” I appreciate your comments. I have also been thinking it’s like the “turn the other cheek” situation.

      I am not religious. I love G’s version of Jesus and how accessible she makes religion seem. However, I’m taken aback when almost every comment starts with “praise Jesus!” or “god is good!” It makes me uncomfortable. And I don’t like feeling that people are praying for my wayward, lost soul. And I have been feeling rejected, excluded and a bit heartbroken because of it.

      For the record, I am NOT a hater. I feel misunderstood and not heard. And I appreciate you sticking up for me (us).

      • Monkees!!!
        I am so sorry that you feel hurt and misunderstood! I hate that you don’t feel like you belong, or that religion has been pushed at you! I don’t want you to go away! I don’t want you to change. I don’t want you to feel left out or lonely. I understand what you mean when Sarah’s comment below explained “What if ESPN started showing soap operas?” That makes perfect sense. If there seemed to be no warning to the change and no explination of where you can go to still watch what you’re there for. I hope that none of you will leave. Please, if you can or want to, can you look at it instead as if there are just blanks in the comments? See, I’m one of thoes “Praise God” people but I sure as heck don’t want you to feel like anyone is telling you that you’re not ok just as you are. I think the unfortunate issue is you should be welcome and loved and accepted as you are….and I should be welcome and loved and accepted as I am. And an agnostic or hindu, or buddist, or christian, or atheist, or muslim or any other line of thought, should be welcome, loved, embraced, and cared for but it is so scary sometimes to open up and show our insides. So, I beg you Monkees, don’t go. We need you here just as you are.

    • Couldn’t agree more! Yes, it seems like momastery is changing and becoming more religious. But the funny-lovers shouldn’t be made to feel guilty for wondering what happened to the types of stories that used to appear on this blog. The ESPN analogy doesn’t really resonate because when people show up to watch ESPN, they know what to expect. A more appropriate analogy might be if suddenly ESPN started broadcasting soap operas. Would the fans begin to wonder what was up and ask some questions? You betcha. And I think there is a difference between asking questions and criticism….I think the funny-lovers are just asking, “Hey, what’s going on with this new programming? Are we going to see more of the sports shows that we had become used to again?”

    • I think Glennon’s reaction stems from her desire to be true to the purpose of this blog. It was never intended to be a source of entertainment. It’s about creating a community of people who believe in love and peace. Glennon’s purpose when she started this blog was responding to a calling she felt on her life to use her gift of unashamed truth-telling to love other people. In that respect, I don’t think this blog has strayed much. Of course, as with anything organic, it has grown and changed, but it’s still serving the purpose for which it was created.

    • Thank you Erika Grace. You put into words what I was thinking.

  83. I’ve been blogging for a month, and already got a random email to tell me to get over the depressing stuff, already, more cute mommy stories, pleez. Like that. Pleez.

    Yes, dear stranger, for you I will rearrange my heart and get over everything I want to write about because cute rules all. Or, pardon, should I say, cute rulez.

  84. Glennon, my daughter and I were reading your post together (she’s 12, and she’s totally into Mommy blogs :). I just love your perspective, and you have such a fun sense of humor. We were laughing over the ESPN part.

    And as I read your quote about how you’re “a woman too . . . and . . . have other things to talk about than motherhood, other ways of becoming better and more whole. I want to spend time developing other parts of myself,” I thought that would be SUCH a wonderful podcast topic at The Power of Moms.

    I know you’ve got a lot of writing to do right now, and I’m on my way to Australia for our first Power of Moms international Retreat, but maybe we could take 30 minutes in April to record a podcast? I’ll get in touch with you later!

    Much love,
    April

  85. God bless you and your family… and even the yuck slimy turkey picture :)

  86. I believe you’ve become my second favorite artist. My daughter is my favorite. :o)
    Being who you want to be in the world we’re placed in is an admirable work of art. I do love how people think they can actually have a say in a person’s personal blog. However, nothing surprises me, really.

    Be who God has created you to be. He will welcome your questions and explorations as you answer the Why Am I A Christian question. There is no doubt in my mind He is extremely proud of you, his child, his image, and many times, his reflection.

    Be strong and when you can’t, trust Him to be for you. Thank you for sharing the gift He gave you. And I love dogs, too….sometimes, okay many times, more than I love people!

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