May 232010

Thank you for giving us the time we needed to find our storyline again and pick it up where we left off.

During the excitement of telling our story and getting the response we did from you, we somehow forgot everything we had just learned. That doing hard things, things of consequence, is never done on our terms and schedule.

Instead we set off to make getting involved easy, to make it just one-click to making a difference. We wanted to make sure that you got to see the results quickly, received your tax deduction, weren’t offended by the core mission of the orphanage, weren’t distrustful of those collecting money, while at the same time helping GSF in a way that was actually helpful. We were exhausted before we even got started.

Because helping in a way that is actually helpful is often hard, uncomfortable, illogical, and never quick.

Please forgive us for getting caught up in the excitement and not thinking it through, for underestimating the effort and for forgetting that making hard things easy is a stinkin full time job, and we both have full time jobs and some kids that need us to cross the “T”s and dot the “I”s to get them home.

So we need to step out of the orchestration business and ask you to use the processes already put in place by

Email us ([email protected]) to get our address if you have materials already collected and we’ll get it there. Thanks for those that have already done so.

We want to thank all of you for your understanding and grace as we’ve sorted this out behind the scenes. It has been an extremely hard and humbling decision to make but one we feel good about. If you’ll still have us, we’d love to introduce you to our kids when the time is right.

-Mike and Megan


Monkees, G here.

So. To be clear, there will be no official partnership between Momastery and GSF, but you are welcome to donate individually and send what you’ve already collected to M &M. And Mike and Megan, we will still have you, absolutely. Everything you wrote was true. We love you two. You’re right, this is hard stuff.

Monkees- I have spent much of the past month trying to prepare this service project for you. I have cried, lost sleep and prayed exasperated prayers. I have run into wall after wall, and like Ms. Pac Man, I’ve turned around and chomped full bore in a different direction. I’ve flailed about. That’s what I do, I flail about. I stress, I worry, I panic. Even though I encourage you all not to. Because I believe in service, and I believe in you. Because I cherish your enthusiasm and courage and generosity and confidence in me. Because I really, really don’t want to let any of my dancing partners down. And mostly because I always forget that I am Not In Charge.

I always expect that when I jump up and say HERE I AM, God will respond: Oh YAY! There you are! How wonderful of you! You look so CUTE! Come right on in and help!”

But He doesn’t. Ever. Instead He says in a million different ways: “Are you sure? Are you really sure?”

Ask anyone who’s tried to start a non-profit. Or tried to adopt. Or tried to teach. Or answered the call to serve others in any capacity. Ask Mary, who must’ve been thinking…A DONKEY, REALLY? NO ROOM AT THE INN? Are you KIDDING ME? I don’t know why it’s so hard to do what He asks us to do, it just is.

It seems especially hard when you’re trying to work with children. I think maybe He loves those little ones so much that He doesn’t let anyone near them until He’s positive that her heart is in the right place. Until she’s ready. Until she’s been tested. And I think He might be telling me that my heart has some more preparing to do.

Don’t get me wrong, Monkees. I’m not giving up. Quite the contrary. I am mind-numbingly stubborn. But this journey requires some serious humility. And it appears that right now I’ve got a hell of a lot more learning than teaching to do. I have been schooled this past few weeks. And I’ve got a hunch I’ve only just begun my education. I’m like in service preschool. I keep thinking of U2’s line….If you wanna kiss the sky, better learn how to kneel…..

The good news is, I know a few things I didn’t know a month ago.

I know that my heart is in Rwanda, with my Sister. Rwanda is where my service project is. That’s where my partner is. I’m not taking another step unless it leads there. So that’s good information.

But this time around I’m taking a much different approach.

I’m going to take my own advice and step back, slow down, and focus up. I’m going to stop worrying and planning. God willing, I am going to visit Rwanda, squeeze my Sister, and meet her new friends. I am going to slowly learn from Sister, who is there now and is a willing partner. And I am going to make you no promises and offer no time-line. I am going to be patient and listen for God and try to elongate my five minute Western attention span. I am going to relax and keep my heart open and get on with life and love the ones in front of me and see what happens.

And I am going to encourage you to do the same. If your heart is on fire to do some good, then do it. Find it. No need to wait for me. There are Calcuttas and Ugandas and Rwandas all around us. God has a place for each of us. Ask Him to clear a path for you and then follow the bread crumbs.

And if your heart is telling you to wait on Sister and Rwanda and me, well I think that’s wonderful too. I am confident that when the time is right, He’ll gather the people He wants working with us. Whether it’s a hundred Monkees or five, the right people will show up. When it’s Time. And When it’s Time, nothing will be done publicly.

And here’s what I really want to do now.

I just want to keep telling you my little stories. I want to keep introducing you to each other, making you laugh and sharing my thoughts about hope and love and faith and big old human hearts. Also, if it’s okay, I’d like to keep writing about my zits and bangs because they’re on my mind a lot, too. And they’ve gotten much, much worse. Just terrible.

I have so much news for you. Not big world changing news, just little family news. I’d like to get back to that for awhile. That’s about all I can do, that’s what I love to do.

I hope that works for you.



P.S. This is Monday’s post, it’s just up early. Catcha back here on Tuesday. With some funnies.

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  22 Responses to “Apology, It’s About Time…A Guest Post from Mike and Megan”

  1. MK! Flip flops are so WONDERFUL for old lady heel! (I've had that dang plantar faciatis or whatchmacallit in my heel and THAT hurts too). I have neuropathy in my feet and they are the only thing I can wear comfortably – flip flops. I miss all my sexy pumps dagnabit. My husband said "screw them" (excuse my french) that I should have left my flip flops on for work! LOL.


  2. Oh my goodness, don't apologize, Mike and Megan. Sounds like you absolutely made the right decision. I can't wait to meet your kids!!

    G, what can I say besides thank you again for your writing and your love? I hope you are feeling better.


  3. Good job Glennon. I'm so looking forward to some good stories about the simple and the everyday and the lovely.

    My heart and my time and energy are in several things. Top of the list right now is the Harrisonburg Children's Museum. It's been years in the making but tomorrow will be the groundbreaking for our new, permanent location. There are people who've donated a box of crayons, others an annual gift, others $100,000, others their time to volunteer at the museum. I've been involved with this org and have seen the big picture and can tell you ALL of it makes a difference. Everything you do small or big, when added to everyone else's everything will always create something bigger than you can ever imagine. Our slogan is Building the Dream – and that's exactly what we're going to do!

  4. Ever since I saw this post, I've been thinking, thinking and praying, "What can I do???" After several days of surviving my own life, I got nothing beyond giving a donation. Thank you for posting that link! Thank you for motivating me to do something, even if what I can handle right now isn't something huge.

    I've enjoyed every post on this site, Glennon and guest. My sincere thanks to you all and I look forward to future posts!

  5. Wonderful words from all of you! But PLEASE don't apologize. I am so excited by how excited everyone is getting and that excitement is just going to keep bubbling and spilling all over the place. And that is great news for Uganda and Rwanda and Calcutta and Peru and all the places where there is work to be done.

    My heart is in Camp Meeker, California right now. It's the Episcopal Camp for the Diocese of California and it's where I send my kids to camp. I've been on the Board there for several years and am proud of all that we do. I'm especially proud of the two weeks every summer that we provide a no-cost camp to children with critical illnesses.

    The reason I mention all this is because I have found myself getting obsessed with the woman who founded this camp in 1901. She was 39 and had lost her daughter Dorothy the year before (and a baby several years before that). She (her name is Nellie) started a camp to take indigent children away from the pollution of the city and into the fresh healing air of the countryside. She ran that camp for 45 years, getting people to give her money so that she never had to charge those families. I was up at the camp, which she named St. Dorothy's Rest, and sat up Friday night reading all about her. I also have a book she wrote and I'm looking forward to curling up in her mind a bit.

    I tell you all this as background of the words of a song that Nellie wrote and that campers sing every night as part of the end-of-day ritual. It's called The Winds of God:
    The Winds of God are blowing, so keep your sails unfurled.
    And the Winds of God will take you to safe harbors of the world.

    Forever they're in motion to take you where they will.
    Forever full of power, if there are sails to fill.

    So take the helm, be master, unfurling sails your part.
    And the Winds of God will take you to safe harbors of your heart.

    I offer you all Nellie's words– she's a lady whose life included getting pretty tossed around and she turned her grief into something that outlived her and still brings life and health to people today.

    And given that yesterday was Pentecost and the Holy Spirit is described as rushing in like a wind– it all seems to line up with Mike and Megan and Glennon and all the monkees who are searching for ways to love the world.

  6. kristi that made me laugh.

    slm- thanks for stopping the tooth brushing to pray for me. i miss Sister like crazy.

  7. That was supposed to say "But THANK you for the reminder!" I wasn't patient enough to preview the comment before I sent it!!

  8. Good things come to those who wait…

    I just wish I were more patient! But that you for the reminder.

    And speaking of shoes and patience…I am wearing my new "Old Friend" fuzzy slippers today. Yes, it's Hot out, and Yes, I did run several errands to include drop off and pick up of my daughter at preschool, Target and Michaels. and YES I did get lots of looks! But I had to get new slippers because I wore holes in my old ones. And I had to get the same ones because I'm like that. And I have to break these new ones in…and the only way to do it is to wear them. So if you see me around town, say hi. And while you are at it, tell me to be more patient! I need that reminder, a lot!

    xoxo ~ kristi

  9. Terri, I did the same thing this morning! I went to work all dolled up. . . in my ugly old crocks that I wear because I have old lady heel. Had to turn around!


  10. Terri I love that. LOVE THAT.

  11. Diane those beads are really cool. People around here are selling them everywhere and very cheap too. They are made from strips of paper from magazines, etc and really pretty and colorful.

    I just had to share this story with you GLENNON when you get your funnies back 'cause this is funny …. I drove all the way to work this morning….all dressed professional…. and realized I still had my flip flops on! AH hahahaha!!! Turned around, went back and got the proper shoes (thank goodness I only work 7 minutes down Route 28). It's all your fault because I was reading Momastery!!!! (I should have left them on, I LOVE my flip flops).


  12. G,

    I swear, I never know what you're going to say next! But I am gratefully here to be a willing ear as you figure it out!

    And for those of you who are moved to do something for orphans in Uganda, the GSF website has a sponsorship program so you can write letters to one little one.

    Also, 147 million orphans is a great organization that sells the gorgeous necklaces mentioned a few times. Check them out:

  13. hey lovies…i accidentally posted this twice….so i transfered these comments over so you wouldn't miss them! i am so grateful for you!!

    MK Gregory said…
    Whew! I am so relieved! I was so worried about the potential re-inventing of the wheel and how it might affect already exhausted moms and dads out there. I LOVE the idea of clicking on that link and giving generously if you choose and waiting for the right thing if that's what feels right.

    And if you have school supplies to share and want to save on shipping, call your local public school. Most counties across this country have a school or two that are in desperate need of supplies for their kids. I live in Loudoun, which I'm told is the richest county in the country, and there's a school like that less than 3 miles from my house. Their supply request list looks almost just like the one from Uganda. Crazy, I know.

    Thanks, M&M, and Glennon, for giving us great ideas for sharing our hearts and money, and for taking the time to do things right. I support you 100% and appreciate your burning hearts more than you know.


    MAY 24, 2010 6:26 AM

    SouthLakesMom said…

    Glennon, last night while I was brushing my teeth the random thought that went through my head was, "Wow, I bet Glennon is really missing Amanda. I know this is very hard for her." So I prayed for you and finished brushing.

    I think God is like that. He gives us what appear to us to be random thoughts, but that He wants us to do something about. First and foremost He wants us to pray because that's how we know it's HIM talking. Then, in our prayer, He gives us more information and guidance.

    Psalm 46:10 Be still and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.

    Psalm 86:15 You, O Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in life and faithfulness.

    Silly M&M, wondering if we'll still have them. Monkees don't abandon other monkees. And we want to see the pictures when you bring your babies home.

    MAY 24, 2010 7:11 AM

    Anonymous said…

    Can't wait for some funnies amongst all this serious, hard stuff. Have to spread it around. Have a great week all!


    MAY 24, 2010 7:25 AM

    Miss Molly said…
    What a wonderful healthy and selfless decision G and M & M are making for everyone!

    Really looking forward to funny stories tomorrow and I don't completely believe you have a zit problem. I'm just being honest…. wink wink.

    MAY 24, 2010 8:09 AM

    Colleen said…

    You guys did such hard things today. And tomorrow we will get to do silly things and the next day we will do prayerful things and the next day, bang-ish things. Monkees do all kinds of things – together. :)

    I'm looking forward to all of them.

    MAY 24, 2010 8:17 AM

    cindy said…

    right here waiting with you G. i believe things always happen for a reason (good and bad). sometimes it is a hard pill to swallow. but in time you (we) will know. i will be here with you, just being.

    MAY 24, 2010 9:06 AM

    L said…

    Can't wait to hear about your zits and bangs.

    MAY 24, 2010 10:06 AM

    Ray and Rebecca said…
    We are taught from childhood, FOLLOW THROUGH, FOLLOW THROUGH…well that is a great lesson, but it also should be added…IF IT MAKES SENSE! I think taking a step back and slowing down is all very good. Not reinventing the wheel, also very good. Glennon I hate to think how this has been stressing you out when you need to be resting and healing.

    There is a time and a place for all things. You have started something in many hearts and it is not up to you to have to finish it, it is up to us. I like your charge for us to go forth on our own and donate and contribute as we are led.

    You serve Glennon through your stories and humor, it is important, I look forward to resting in your humor very soon!


  14. Yay PERU!!!!

    I'm trying to love extra-ordinarily in my kitchen today. It's hard.

    The news about the love revolution has clearly not reached my girls, who are attempting to gouge each others eyes out with play-doh tools.

    Why don't they understand it's A REVOLUTION???

  15. Growing takes time and patience…as do hard things. His time is His time because we aren't in control. I personally have a hard time not being in control, but I am learning! After reading this, the light came on for me!! My place is in Peru, at Hannah's Home. A place I have visited and worked to build. Thanks for the perspectacles!! Happy Monkee Monday!

  16. I think we all knew that this wasn't going to be quick and easy. Nothing good ever is, is it? So, we will exercise patience we don't have and the love we have an ample supply of as we ponder how we can do more to help the lovelies in Africa and wait for the compass to point us in the right direction. Everything in God's time, right?

    And, G, the family news and funnies are so needed and loved. Can't wait!

  17. Also, a few of you have mentioned that you have children at the orphanage that you are waiting to bring home. It would be an honor to hug those kids and tell them about you, that you are coming soon to bring them home. I would love to be your arms and voice for you until you can squeeze them yourselves. If you would like to tell me who your babies are, please email me at amandafdoyleatgmaildotcom and give me any details you have.

  18. Hello, Sister! Hello, Friends!
    I love Megan and Mike and I am so thankful for what they did here, introducing us to GSF. It was brave and generous.
    I am also overjoyed because there is no doubt in my mind that there will be a place for us to share in Rwanda. I continue to be with the children and Sisters here, and am learning much for us.
    No doubt the world is unfolding exactly as it should.
    Breath easy today, Monkees. There is just enough time for all the important stuff.
    p.s. When my Sister comes here I will pee in my pants.

  19. Very happy for you Mike and Megan!

    G – as Lou sang, hi ho hi ho…

    Looking forward to your amazing big and small stories about God, Love, Faith, Hope, Hoodies, Zits, Bangs, and Bracelets… they really bring out much welcomed laughter, tears, and did i mention laughter in the form of giggles that interrupt the entire flow at the office.

    i guess they are safe for tomorrow since i came to momastery a day early!

  20. Mike and Megan, Get back to your jotting and tittling and enjoy your little ones! Look forward to meeting them some day.

    G, hi ho hi ho, off to Rwanda we will go… eventually.


  21. Works for me, Babe! Love and Hugs!

  22. wow.
    praying for you.
    God is WORKING on you! (and many others because of you!)
    that much is obvious.
    you're so right.
    serving Him isn't easy or quick.
    doesn't look the way we might want it.
    i have to remind myself almost every day that it's just as important for me to answer my 4 year old's millionth question of the day with a smile on my face as it is for someone "more important" (in my opinion) to do something BIG for Him.

    its the heart.
    always comes back to the heart.
    is your heart right?
    if so, go for it.
    He'll guide you.

    if not, fix that first.

    praying for you and what God has in store!

    oh, and if you DO go to Rwanda…i can't wait to hear more about it! because my heart (and 2 of my sons) are there, too!!!

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