Jan 272010
 

Hi Lovies. Fun news today.

Erin and I received mixed reactions after this post about health and body image. I have pages of emails from Monkees who were thrilled about the prospect of learning from and being supported by a “wellnesss coach” … and I also have pages of emails from Monkees requesting that I quit butting into their pantries and stick to my pan stories. I tell you this: it is not easy to please all the Monkees all the time. Erin and I have spent the last few weeks trying to think of the Monkeeist way to handle this dilemma. It was equally important to us to offer help to the Monkees who asked for it and to respect the boundaries of the Monkees who didn’t. I think we have a lovely solution to offer you.

Today, I am excited to announce our first Momastery Spin Off Blog, “Full at Last!” Erin will be writing and facilitating the blog (God help her) and is over there, ready and waiting for you. Her dream is to create a place where interested Monkees can talk safely about our food/body hurts and hang ups, trust each other, and learn that we are not alone. She wants to create a team. She also wants to support us and love us and hold our hands and allow us to complain and roll our eyes and get too tired a lot. She is going to be less Jillian and more Bob. And she is also going to help us learn to cook a little healthier, if we want to. You guys, Erin has taught me how to COOK some things. Not a lot of things, but a few. If she can help me, she can help anyone. I really don’t think there’s any room to argue with that logic.

So, for those of you who are interested, head on over to Erin. You’ll be in good hands. I’m going to spend some time over there today, too. For those of you who are staying put, I have an idea. Would you leave a comment suggesting a topic you’d be interested in the Monkees discussing? I’d love to know what’s in your heads and hearts.

Good Luck, Sweet Erin. May the Monkee Force be with you.



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  98 Responses to “Teamwork”

  1. I love, LOVE this blog, but sometimes feel lost when I read it because I am agnostic/atheist…not quite sure. Anyway, Glennon, in terms of ideas for future posts, I'd love to hear your thoughts on this, since so much of the other stuff you write about resonates with me.

  2. I love, LOVE this blog, but sometimes feel lost when I read it because I am agnostic/atheist…not quite sure. Anyway, Glennon, in terms of ideas for future posts, I'd love to hear your thoughts on this, since so much of the other stuff you write about resonates with me.

  3. Maryann,

    I couldn't agree with you more. Counseling is very important and my daughter has been in couseling for a couple years now. My little guy isn't though, he's only 2 and can barely speak so I figured I would save the money until I inevitably do something wrong and then we can all go to counseling together.

  4. Maryann,

    I couldn't agree with you more. Counseling is very important and my daughter has been in couseling for a couple years now. My little guy isn't though, he's only 2 and can barely speak so I figured I would save the money until I inevitably do something wrong and then we can all go to counseling together.

  5. Wow, Maryann.
    Thanks for loving us so much.Your perspective is so important.
    Love G

  6. Wow, Maryann.
    Thanks for loving us so much.Your perspective is so important.
    Love G

  7. Gosh Monkees — I have been reading comments all day and wanted to comment sooooo bad. Your comments on marriage and divorce brought back lots of sad memories from the time I was going through my divorce. I learned alot of my-self and those around me. I am so glad that you all have each other to share with and be really honest without the worry of it ending up all over down.

    Looking back after many years I do probably have more perspective now than I did even five years after. It takes two people to make a marriage and two people to break one up. I was not the one that had the affair or left but I wasn't always the supportive wife I needed to be. Our home was one of power struggles, lack of communication, selfishness, and lots of other destructive interaction. I am much happier as a single lady or at least not married to my husband. That being said, I have 3 wonderful children and am thankful that he is their Dad. I want my children to have good relationships with him.
    The one most important thing I can say to you is — Protect your children. By that I mean be sure they know they don't have anything to do with the break-up. Don't put them in the middle. Don't talk badly about their daddy. My son once said: I would rather have a jerk for a Dad that no Dad at all. He knew his Dad had done some really stupid things but still loved him, as he should. Be sure that your children get counseling and have someone besides you to talk to about the whole thing. They need to work the whole thing out in their heads so they can deal with the aftermath. One of my 3 children has done a beautiful job of figuring it all out. The other two are still as adults dealing or not dealing as the case may be with their feelings about the whole thing. I am sorry that I didn't get them any counseling. They were all in high school and college and I didn't realize at the time that they needed. Heck, when it was all going on — I was just trying to breathe and put one foot in front of the other. I was in a completely -self-preservation mode.

    I am not sure all this makes sense but I wanted to share my experience. At this point, the is definitely life after divorce and I am happier that I have ever been. God helped me take the broken pieces of my life and put them back together again –differently than I had planned but really good.

    Love you all

    Maryann

  8. Gosh Monkees — I have been reading comments all day and wanted to comment sooooo bad. Your comments on marriage and divorce brought back lots of sad memories from the time I was going through my divorce. I learned alot of my-self and those around me. I am so glad that you all have each other to share with and be really honest without the worry of it ending up all over down.

    Looking back after many years I do probably have more perspective now than I did even five years after. It takes two people to make a marriage and two people to break one up. I was not the one that had the affair or left but I wasn't always the supportive wife I needed to be. Our home was one of power struggles, lack of communication, selfishness, and lots of other destructive interaction. I am much happier as a single lady or at least not married to my husband. That being said, I have 3 wonderful children and am thankful that he is their Dad. I want my children to have good relationships with him.
    The one most important thing I can say to you is — Protect your children. By that I mean be sure they know they don't have anything to do with the break-up. Don't put them in the middle. Don't talk badly about their daddy. My son once said: I would rather have a jerk for a Dad that no Dad at all. He knew his Dad had done some really stupid things but still loved him, as he should. Be sure that your children get counseling and have someone besides you to talk to about the whole thing. They need to work the whole thing out in their heads so they can deal with the aftermath. One of my 3 children has done a beautiful job of figuring it all out. The other two are still as adults dealing or not dealing as the case may be with their feelings about the whole thing. I am sorry that I didn't get them any counseling. They were all in high school and college and I didn't realize at the time that they needed. Heck, when it was all going on — I was just trying to breathe and put one foot in front of the other. I was in a completely -self-preservation mode.

    I am not sure all this makes sense but I wanted to share my experience. At this point, the is definitely life after divorce and I am happier that I have ever been. God helped me take the broken pieces of my life and put them back together again –differently than I had planned but really good.

    Love you all

    Maryann

  9. Anonymous,
    Just checking back in after a busy afternoon and there is so much I want to say to you. I just don't know where to begin or how much you want to hear. Your second comment sounded even more like me (a year ago) than your first! No one would have guessed our marriage and life was anything but perfect (including my husband!) So I get it and I hear you. I would love to share here but I'm not sure if our story would fit it one comment. Here's my email if you want to contact me [email protected].

    South lakes mom – I love your words of wisdom.

  10. Anonymous,
    Just checking back in after a busy afternoon and there is so much I want to say to you. I just don't know where to begin or how much you want to hear. Your second comment sounded even more like me (a year ago) than your first! No one would have guessed our marriage and life was anything but perfect (including my husband!) So I get it and I hear you. I would love to share here but I'm not sure if our story would fit it one comment. Here's my email if you want to contact me [email protected].

    South lakes mom – I love your words of wisdom.

  11. Anonymous 9:50 a.m. on Marriage –

    Just want to say that it really does help to talk to others one on one about your marriage. Sometimes it's easier to talk to strangers and/or pay someone for professional advice. It's important to talk to women who are positive and realistic. After connecting with another monkee on the phone a couple times, things have improved and don't sound as bad as i wrote out above (going down the waterfall). But, I think all marriages have their ebbs and flows along the river. Hang in there Anom — you are not alone. Surround yourself with support. Kate R.

  12. Anonymous 9:50 a.m. on Marriage –

    Just want to say that it really does help to talk to others one on one about your marriage. Sometimes it's easier to talk to strangers and/or pay someone for professional advice. It's important to talk to women who are positive and realistic. After connecting with another monkee on the phone a couple times, things have improved and don't sound as bad as i wrote out above (going down the waterfall). But, I think all marriages have their ebbs and flows along the river. Hang in there Anom — you are not alone. Surround yourself with support. Kate R.

  13. Lou,
    There's really nothing wrong with Goldfish right? I just bought a bulk package! Please say they are ok… I did buy the whole grain…

  14. Lou,
    There's really nothing wrong with Goldfish right? I just bought a bulk package! Please say they are ok… I did buy the whole grain…

  15. Jeannette, G & Monkees –

    We saw the movie Fireproof when it first came out in the theatre! I cried through the whole thing. I got the book "Love Dare" shortly after – don't think i got passed day 3, maybe 2. It's difficult to do this stuff alone. Coming up on our 15th anniversary I'm trying different ways of communication and seeing a counselor — alone. It would be so much easier if we were rowing the boat together, but sometimes it's up to the woman to make changes first.I'm trying to stay afloat before going down the waterfall. If other women in this group would like to do the Love Dare, I might be up for it. Would it be one post?

    Also, I loved all of your topics of discussion.

    Here is another: Self Acceptance. If you have time alone, what do you do, how do you feel? How do we, as women, love ourselves before we can love anyone else? We may take care of ourselves physically with health and exercise, but how do we not be our own worst critic and beat ourselves up inside?

    Kate R

  16. Jeannette, G & Monkees –

    We saw the movie Fireproof when it first came out in the theatre! I cried through the whole thing. I got the book "Love Dare" shortly after – don't think i got passed day 3, maybe 2. It's difficult to do this stuff alone. Coming up on our 15th anniversary I'm trying different ways of communication and seeing a counselor — alone. It would be so much easier if we were rowing the boat together, but sometimes it's up to the woman to make changes first.I'm trying to stay afloat before going down the waterfall. If other women in this group would like to do the Love Dare, I might be up for it. Would it be one post?

    Also, I loved all of your topics of discussion.

    Here is another: Self Acceptance. If you have time alone, what do you do, how do you feel? How do we, as women, love ourselves before we can love anyone else? We may take care of ourselves physically with health and exercise, but how do we not be our own worst critic and beat ourselves up inside?

    Kate R

  17. Sharing my experiences with young kids at the toddler and preschool/elementary school age who are mean to each other in school…sharing..not giving advice. I always taught my kids compassion. It is hard yes. I told them that ususally other kids were mean because something else bad was going on in their life. Maybe their daddy was gone. Maybe someone else was very mean to them. Maybe their puppy died….so on and so forth. I told them to be kind to these kids – to smile at them – or avoid them if needed. I am happy to say my kids grew up to have compassion and they were never a "bully". Unfortunately many of these mean kids learned this behavior from their own parents. So sad.

  18. Sharing my experiences with young kids at the toddler and preschool/elementary school age who are mean to each other in school…sharing..not giving advice. I always taught my kids compassion. It is hard yes. I told them that ususally other kids were mean because something else bad was going on in their life. Maybe their daddy was gone. Maybe someone else was very mean to them. Maybe their puppy died….so on and so forth. I told them to be kind to these kids – to smile at them – or avoid them if needed. I am happy to say my kids grew up to have compassion and they were never a "bully". Unfortunately many of these mean kids learned this behavior from their own parents. So sad.

  19. Jennifer M

    You are my hero too! I can't wait to give you a big bear hug after all these years!!! I think you are a super star, fierce and fabulous Mother! You made such a tough decision, but I firmly believe in the message in Ecclesiastes — there is a time and reason for absolutely everything. So I hope you make peace with your decision as tough as it may still be to explain to your children.

    Everyone,

    You are all so inspiring, let's continue to share our stories and our ever challenging lives!

    Erin – See you at Full at Last!!! You Rock!

  20. Jennifer M

    You are my hero too! I can't wait to give you a big bear hug after all these years!!! I think you are a super star, fierce and fabulous Mother! You made such a tough decision, but I firmly believe in the message in Ecclesiastes — there is a time and reason for absolutely everything. So I hope you make peace with your decision as tough as it may still be to explain to your children.

    Everyone,

    You are all so inspiring, let's continue to share our stories and our ever challenging lives!

    Erin – See you at Full at Last!!! You Rock!

  21. Yay Erin! And thanks Glennon for sharing the Erin's new blog.
    And to all of you Monkees…you all rock! What a support you all are to each other. Love it!

  22. Yay Erin! And thanks Glennon for sharing the Erin's new blog.
    And to all of you Monkees…you all rock! What a support you all are to each other. Love it!

  23. Jennifer M,
    Hahahaha!!!! That was AWESOME!
    Susie.

  24. Jennifer M,
    Hahahaha!!!! That was AWESOME!
    Susie.

  25. I'm laughing at myself because I just realized that "Susan" and "Susie" are the same people. HAAA

  26. I'm laughing at myself because I just realized that "Susan" and "Susie" are the same people. HAAA

  27. Thanks Susie and I TOTALLY remember you from HS. I was actually just thinking of you yesterday because I was on the LB Facebook alumni page and there was a picture of the senior hall and for some reason it made me think of you sitting in the hallway on the floor in your cute little overall's looking all cute and pregnant. I always wondered what happened to you.

    I'm going to email you so we can chat.

    Susan – I want to hear your story. How does one go about marrying the same man twice? I thought only celebrities did that? Good thing I just bought my Costco size box of Goldfish the other day. I'm ready to sit back and read these stories

    Jennifer M.

  28. Thanks Susie and I TOTALLY remember you from HS. I was actually just thinking of you yesterday because I was on the LB Facebook alumni page and there was a picture of the senior hall and for some reason it made me think of you sitting in the hallway on the floor in your cute little overall's looking all cute and pregnant. I always wondered what happened to you.

    I'm going to email you so we can chat.

    Susan – I want to hear your story. How does one go about marrying the same man twice? I thought only celebrities did that? Good thing I just bought my Costco size box of Goldfish the other day. I'm ready to sit back and read these stories

    Jennifer M.

  29. When we are little girls, we watch Disney movies and dream of "happily ever after". When we grow up and marry the handsome prince, we are astounded to find out that it takes more than just wanting to be happy together to make it so.

    In the Bible in Joel, there's a story about four waves of locusts that come and destroy the land, and that God allows this because ultimately, it will lead His people back to Him.

    All marriages have waves of locusts that come through. For some one of the waves might be a disease like alcoholism or depression. For others it might be a choice like a move to somewhere far from friends/family. For others it might be an unexpected child or the absence of children.

    My marriage has had many ups and downs in the past twenty years. We have had our locusts, and I'm sure we will again. But if I didn't have these times of the locusts trying to devour everything important to me, I am sure I would think I could do it my way, and would tell God to talk to the hand. I'm just that willful and rebellious.

    I know that not every marriage will survive the years of the locusts. Some of the broken-hearted Monkees can attest to that. But for those who are still in the marriage, remember, everything has a season and a purpose under heaven.

    By the way, I chose Joel here because I know not all Monkees are believers in Jesus. That's okay, God has truth in his book that apply to every human and Joel is in the part that is pre-Christian!

  30. When we are little girls, we watch Disney movies and dream of "happily ever after". When we grow up and marry the handsome prince, we are astounded to find out that it takes more than just wanting to be happy together to make it so.

    In the Bible in Joel, there's a story about four waves of locusts that come and destroy the land, and that God allows this because ultimately, it will lead His people back to Him.

    All marriages have waves of locusts that come through. For some one of the waves might be a disease like alcoholism or depression. For others it might be a choice like a move to somewhere far from friends/family. For others it might be an unexpected child or the absence of children.

    My marriage has had many ups and downs in the past twenty years. We have had our locusts, and I'm sure we will again. But if I didn't have these times of the locusts trying to devour everything important to me, I am sure I would think I could do it my way, and would tell God to talk to the hand. I'm just that willful and rebellious.

    I know that not every marriage will survive the years of the locusts. Some of the broken-hearted Monkees can attest to that. But for those who are still in the marriage, remember, everything has a season and a purpose under heaven.

    By the way, I chose Joel here because I know not all Monkees are believers in Jesus. That's okay, God has truth in his book that apply to every human and Joel is in the part that is pre-Christian!

  31. Anonymous at 1:17,
    I married and divorced the same man,twice! So, I am going to sit back and enjoy the listening with you,too! Would you like some Goldfish?
    XoXo Susie.

  32. Anonymous at 1:17,
    I married and divorced the same man,twice! So, I am going to sit back and enjoy the listening with you,too! Would you like some Goldfish?
    XoXo Susie.

  33. Wow! Wow! Wow!
    Erin, I am in!
    Jennifer M,
    Wow! I am a recovering addict and an ex-wife of an alcoholic. The father's of my children have all been alcoholics, I tried to fix them, not such a great idea. Now I am single and raising 5 children ages 16, 13, 12, 11 and 18 mos. I have had a lot of experience with talking to kids about these things. It is important to be honest. Secrets make us sick. Don't let your children ever think they have to keep a family secret. Also, keep it all age appropriate. Your daughter may be too young to grasp what an addiction is, but she understands what being sick is. Try to explain the alcoholism as a disease, which it really is, and that the only person who can get him better is himself and God. Tell her that you have to take care of her and her sibling, right now and that is why you have to be apart. Send me an e-mail and we can talk more about this. My children have attended the Rainbow of Hope at Hava De Grace,Father Martin Ashley's program for the children of alcoholics and addicts. They have learned so much and we are all the better for it.
    My e-mail is [email protected]
    G, that is also for you to add to the contacts list.
    There are a lot of Monkees here from Lake Braddock. I graduated from LB a year ahead of Glennon. I was the pregnant senior in th class of 93. :) I found Glennon's blog through our mutual friend Sunny. What a fun and crazy and small world this is.
    XoXo Susie.

  34. Wow! Wow! Wow!
    Erin, I am in!
    Jennifer M,
    Wow! I am a recovering addict and an ex-wife of an alcoholic. The father's of my children have all been alcoholics, I tried to fix them, not such a great idea. Now I am single and raising 5 children ages 16, 13, 12, 11 and 18 mos. I have had a lot of experience with talking to kids about these things. It is important to be honest. Secrets make us sick. Don't let your children ever think they have to keep a family secret. Also, keep it all age appropriate. Your daughter may be too young to grasp what an addiction is, but she understands what being sick is. Try to explain the alcoholism as a disease, which it really is, and that the only person who can get him better is himself and God. Tell her that you have to take care of her and her sibling, right now and that is why you have to be apart. Send me an e-mail and we can talk more about this. My children have attended the Rainbow of Hope at Hava De Grace,Father Martin Ashley's program for the children of alcoholics and addicts. They have learned so much and we are all the better for it.
    My e-mail is [email protected]
    G, that is also for you to add to the contacts list.
    There are a lot of Monkees here from Lake Braddock. I graduated from LB a year ahead of Glennon. I was the pregnant senior in th class of 93. :) I found Glennon's blog through our mutual friend Sunny. What a fun and crazy and small world this is.
    XoXo Susie.

  35. Anonymous at 1:17, do you have kids? They're super, and yada yada yada, but they complicate a marriage so much.

    I'll tell you this – my marriage is a sine curve (which I've mentioned before on this blog). When it's feeling easy, I know it won't be long before the slide comes along and things are hard again. We always work it out because we still have a foundation of love, respect and friendship, but it's never very easy. We have to work hard on our marriage because we absolutely aren't who we used to be for lots of reasons, but mostly because of our three kids!

    Having said that, we're in the middle of an upswing. He's fabulous. :) Ask me in a month or two and see if I don't roll my eyes!

    :)MK

  36. Anonymous at 1:17, do you have kids? They're super, and yada yada yada, but they complicate a marriage so much.

    I'll tell you this – my marriage is a sine curve (which I've mentioned before on this blog). When it's feeling easy, I know it won't be long before the slide comes along and things are hard again. We always work it out because we still have a foundation of love, respect and friendship, but it's never very easy. We have to work hard on our marriage because we absolutely aren't who we used to be for lots of reasons, but mostly because of our three kids!

    Having said that, we're in the middle of an upswing. He's fabulous. :) Ask me in a month or two and see if I don't roll my eyes!

    :)MK

  37. Jennifer P, I would love, love to hear your story! and I love you so much for offering to share it with me! However..anonomity feels safe to me right now.. and I am worried if we exchange e-mails my secret will be out..the thing is..I have not shared my frustrations about my marriage to anyone..Everyone who knows us or knows of us as a couple think that we live this charmed existence.. we are the perfect couple..have the greatest life etc..I hide ALOT.. so much in fact that I think it is slowly destroying me. I have too much respect and love for my husband to ever embarass him without his knowledge in this forum..I know too many of you here in the real world that visit this blog.. I never in a million years thought I would be in this position..I thought that our foundation would never change..who we were 12 years ago (funny.. Jen P that is my number too) would be who we were forever..wishful thinking I guess.. no one tells you at 22 that kids, finances, day to day stresses would mess things up so much! So Jen P if the offer still stands i would love to hear your story, are you able to post it here? I would actually love to hear from any of you that feel like sharing.. listening is a huge relief to me since i am not able to share my issue within my inner circle..this is the only place I feel safe to share..even if it is only anonymously if that makes any sense at all?? oh and EE.. I hear you sister on the whole spell check thing..I am a horrible speller:)

  38. Jennifer P, I would love, love to hear your story! and I love you so much for offering to share it with me! However..anonomity feels safe to me right now.. and I am worried if we exchange e-mails my secret will be out..the thing is..I have not shared my frustrations about my marriage to anyone..Everyone who knows us or knows of us as a couple think that we live this charmed existence.. we are the perfect couple..have the greatest life etc..I hide ALOT.. so much in fact that I think it is slowly destroying me. I have too much respect and love for my husband to ever embarass him without his knowledge in this forum..I know too many of you here in the real world that visit this blog.. I never in a million years thought I would be in this position..I thought that our foundation would never change..who we were 12 years ago (funny.. Jen P that is my number too) would be who we were forever..wishful thinking I guess.. no one tells you at 22 that kids, finances, day to day stresses would mess things up so much! So Jen P if the offer still stands i would love to hear your story, are you able to post it here? I would actually love to hear from any of you that feel like sharing.. listening is a huge relief to me since i am not able to share my issue within my inner circle..this is the only place I feel safe to share..even if it is only anonymously if that makes any sense at all?? oh and EE.. I hear you sister on the whole spell check thing..I am a horrible speller:)

  39. I have wanted an opportunity to answer the question Josie asked a few posts back… what is wrong with Goldfish? Well, Josie, I will tell you. It's a little ingredient called CRACK! I have not had Goldfish in my house for years… but your question has been buzzing in the back of my head so I picked up a bag. Opened it and gave a nice healthy portion to my kids. Then proceeded to devour the rest of the bag before you could say Goldfish. The kids were crying for more. I was crying for more and plotting my next grocery store run just to get more said Goldfish. All this to say… Erin, serenity now!!! Thank you for taking us on :)

  40. I have wanted an opportunity to answer the question Josie asked a few posts back… what is wrong with Goldfish? Well, Josie, I will tell you. It's a little ingredient called CRACK! I have not had Goldfish in my house for years… but your question has been buzzing in the back of my head so I picked up a bag. Opened it and gave a nice healthy portion to my kids. Then proceeded to devour the rest of the bag before you could say Goldfish. The kids were crying for more. I was crying for more and plotting my next grocery store run just to get more said Goldfish. All this to say… Erin, serenity now!!! Thank you for taking us on :)

  41. Jeanette – I would love to talk to you about this and hear what kind of advice you can me.

    I'm not thinking of staying with him for the kids, he moved out almost 1 1/2 ago and I don't want him back either.

    Email me at [email protected] Would love to chat with you some more.

    Jennifer

  42. Jeanette – I would love to talk to you about this and hear what kind of advice you can me.

    I'm not thinking of staying with him for the kids, he moved out almost 1 1/2 ago and I don't want him back either.

    Email me at [email protected] Would love to chat with you some more.

    Jennifer

  43. Just stopping back in to read a few comments. I think Jennifer Peters just summed up Momastery: "Love you and I don't even know you." That was just about perfect.
    btw – finally got me a google account b.c I just can't be anon anymore :)

  44. Just stopping back in to read a few comments. I think Jennifer Peters just summed up Momastery: "Love you and I don't even know you." That was just about perfect.
    btw – finally got me a google account b.c I just can't be anon anymore :)

  45. Ladies, more great topics!

    Jennifer: I can say I have some first hand experience on the issue being a child of an alcoholic father who said to my mom when I was about 10: "If you're staying together for us kids, don't." I've seen a lot and grown a lot from it and perhaps I might have some advice on how to talk to young children on the subject.

    Anonymous at 9:50: I was just talking about this same subject with a friend of mine. I've been on both sides. I married in college and me and my first husband weren't on the same page with things (especially emotionally) except for being good friends. As I grew, I realized I needed different things. We of course, drifted more and more apart and things ended after 5 years (not for lack of trying). After many years of "me time", I am now celebrating my 5 year anniversary to a man that I am commited to through the good times and the bad. It isn't always easy but now my relationship is built on similar foundations and with God in my life, we will conquer all. I think all of us could have some insight to add to this and I'm betting there are others feeling the same as you.

    FYI, I've read Screamfree for Parents – just thought hearing from us practical women about how to apply it or other effective discipline techniques would be a good discussion. Spanking although controversial goes right along with this.

    Another idea: Anyone ever read/done The Love Dare by Stephen and Alex Kendric? How did it go? I'll be honest, I've attempted two times and still want to try again but it's been hard for me. For those of you who haven't heard of it, it's a book about "fireproofing" your marriage from the movie Fireproof (starring of all people, Kirk Cameron from Growing Pains – tee hee). Glennon, this could be a book for the Hermit Crab Book Club and then how fun and educational would it be to sit and read all the comments of how each love dare day went for our other fellow Monkees. Whew!

  46. Ladies, more great topics!

    Jennifer: I can say I have some first hand experience on the issue being a child of an alcoholic father who said to my mom when I was about 10: "If you're staying together for us kids, don't." I've seen a lot and grown a lot from it and perhaps I might have some advice on how to talk to young children on the subject.

    Anonymous at 9:50: I was just talking about this same subject with a friend of mine. I've been on both sides. I married in college and me and my first husband weren't on the same page with things (especially emotionally) except for being good friends. As I grew, I realized I needed different things. We of course, drifted more and more apart and things ended after 5 years (not for lack of trying). After many years of "me time", I am now celebrating my 5 year anniversary to a man that I am commited to through the good times and the bad. It isn't always easy but now my relationship is built on similar foundations and with God in my life, we will conquer all. I think all of us could have some insight to add to this and I'm betting there are others feeling the same as you.

    FYI, I've read Screamfree for Parents – just thought hearing from us practical women about how to apply it or other effective discipline techniques would be a good discussion. Spanking although controversial goes right along with this.

    Another idea: Anyone ever read/done The Love Dare by Stephen and Alex Kendric? How did it go? I'll be honest, I've attempted two times and still want to try again but it's been hard for me. For those of you who haven't heard of it, it's a book about "fireproofing" your marriage from the movie Fireproof (starring of all people, Kirk Cameron from Growing Pains – tee hee). Glennon, this could be a book for the Hermit Crab Book Club and then how fun and educational would it be to sit and read all the comments of how each love dare day went for our other fellow Monkees. Whew!

  47. Anonymous – Don't give up. Seek counseling from your church or your insurance. Whatever you do, don't give up.

    I gave up the second I found out my husband was an alcoholic and it's something I think about everyday. He's a great guy and I basically shut down when he finally admitted it to me. I was done and I wanted out. My stubborness and anger got the best of me.

    Please don't give up though. You said he's your best friend and best friends can work through anything and if you can't, then at least you know that you tried.

    Adrianne – Isn't it sad how soon the drama starts? I remember when my Taylor was in kindergarten and her coming home with the same questions. It's so hard answering them when all I wanted to say was "because their bitches and you don't want to be friends with them anyway".

    Jennifer – thanks for your kind words. I wish we had been friends too in HS but I'm glad I have you all in my life now. Makes it a little easier when I can actually talk out my feelings and not just talk to myself all the time.

    I would like to hear your story though. How getting married so young worked for you and how you made it work.

  48. Anonymous – Don't give up. Seek counseling from your church or your insurance. Whatever you do, don't give up.

    I gave up the second I found out my husband was an alcoholic and it's something I think about everyday. He's a great guy and I basically shut down when he finally admitted it to me. I was done and I wanted out. My stubborness and anger got the best of me.

    Please don't give up though. You said he's your best friend and best friends can work through anything and if you can't, then at least you know that you tried.

    Adrianne – Isn't it sad how soon the drama starts? I remember when my Taylor was in kindergarten and her coming home with the same questions. It's so hard answering them when all I wanted to say was "because their bitches and you don't want to be friends with them anyway".

    Jennifer – thanks for your kind words. I wish we had been friends too in HS but I'm glad I have you all in my life now. Makes it a little easier when I can actually talk out my feelings and not just talk to myself all the time.

    I would like to hear your story though. How getting married so young worked for you and how you made it work.

  49. anonymous:
    I was just about to jump over to Erin when I stumbled upon your comment. Your words could have been mine 1 year ago. ME TOO. I was married at 21 and 3 kids and 12 years later we were at that point. Here's some hope though: We are OK. Better even. If you want to talk I would be happy to share my story with you. Love you and I don't even know you.

    Jennifer M. – You rock and your my "herow" too. Wish we would have been closer in high school also. So happy your my friend and fellow Monkee now though!

  50. Anon:

    Check this out for some history on the making out front.

    http://momastery.blogspot.com/2009/12/sexless-in-suburbs-rated-nb-no-bubba.html

  51. anonymous:
    I was just about to jump over to Erin when I stumbled upon your comment. Your words could have been mine 1 year ago. ME TOO. I was married at 21 and 3 kids and 12 years later we were at that point. Here's some hope though: We are OK. Better even. If you want to talk I would be happy to share my story with you. Love you and I don't even know you.

    Jennifer M. – You rock and your my "herow" too. Wish we would have been closer in high school also. So happy your my friend and fellow Monkee now though!

  52. Anon:

    Check this out for some history on the making out front.

    http://momastery.blogspot.com/2009/12/sexless-in-suburbs-rated-nb-no-bubba.html

  53. I have a topic to suggest! In a recent, previous post, you mentioned that Craig had issues with "making out". Can you tell us more about that?

  54. I have a topic to suggest! In a recent, previous post, you mentioned that Craig had issues with "making out". Can you tell us more about that?

  55. anonymous at 9:47:

    No no no, it's not too heavy a topic! I think it's a perfect topic. I don't feel like I have any words of wisdom in this area, but I bet the Monkees can help. Please don't apologize, and NEVER ask to be ignored. It won't happen here.

    Jennifer M: My husband just left for a three-day business trip, and I am feeling sorry for myself because I'm flying solo for just a few days. I honestly can't imagine doing it all the time. You have all of my admiration. Unfortunately, I have no idea how to discuss such difficult things with kids. I can't even find a good way to explain to my daughter why some kids in her kindergarten class are mean to other kids for no reason. She's been coming home with tough questions lately.

  56. anonymous at 9:47:

    No no no, it's not too heavy a topic! I think it's a perfect topic. I don't feel like I have any words of wisdom in this area, but I bet the Monkees can help. Please don't apologize, and NEVER ask to be ignored. It won't happen here.

    Jennifer M: My husband just left for a three-day business trip, and I am feeling sorry for myself because I'm flying solo for just a few days. I honestly can't imagine doing it all the time. You have all of my admiration. Unfortunately, I have no idea how to discuss such difficult things with kids. I can't even find a good way to explain to my daughter why some kids in her kindergarten class are mean to other kids for no reason. She's been coming home with tough questions lately.

  57. anonymous. i hear you. and this is NOT too heavy a topic. this is how we LIKE it girl!

    i hear you. im thinking. everybody think.

    we love you.

  58. anonymous. i hear you. and this is NOT too heavy a topic. this is how we LIKE it girl!

    i hear you. im thinking. everybody think.

    we love you.

  59. ok. so i have a topic that I would like to discuss.. How to have a healthy and happy marriage when you both are on different pages about stuff..(important stuff)I love my husband, he is truly my best friend and we get along for the most part..but we have majorly different views on having more children..sponsoring children.. donating money to charity..My going back to work…just to name a few..I feel like he has become more selfish when I am trying to become less selfish.. How do I know if and when this marriage is going to work for the long haul if we can't agree on these things? I was watching Oprah the other day and she interviewing "Rosie O'Donnell" I am not a huge fan of hers but the interview was actually pretty good..she said something that resonated pretty loudly with me..she said "the people that we need when we are 30 years old (in my case 20)may not necessarily be the ones we need when we are 40.."she was discussing her divorce with her long time partner and how they are co-parenting.. and how she still loved her, but they were just moving in two differnt directions..did anyone see this interview? Anyway..I related..I guess i have reached a point in my life that I am no longer that 22 year girl who's willing to let her husband have such a big influence on the things that i deem important just so not to cause an arguement..and that is what is happening lately.. ALOT..I tell him the things that I want to do and he pushes back..and in turn I am emotionally dispondant and it is effecting us deeply..HELP!!I don't want my marriage to end.. Is this too heavy a topic? if so I am soo sorry..please ignore..

  60. ok. so i have a topic that I would like to discuss.. How to have a healthy and happy marriage when you both are on different pages about stuff..(important stuff)I love my husband, he is truly my best friend and we get along for the most part..but we have majorly different views on having more children..sponsoring children.. donating money to charity..My going back to work…just to name a few..I feel like he has become more selfish when I am trying to become less selfish.. How do I know if and when this marriage is going to work for the long haul if we can't agree on these things? I was watching Oprah the other day and she interviewing "Rosie O'Donnell" I am not a huge fan of hers but the interview was actually pretty good..she said something that resonated pretty loudly with me..she said "the people that we need when we are 30 years old (in my case 20)may not necessarily be the ones we need when we are 40.."she was discussing her divorce with her long time partner and how they are co-parenting.. and how she still loved her, but they were just moving in two differnt directions..did anyone see this interview? Anyway..I related..I guess i have reached a point in my life that I am no longer that 22 year girl who's willing to let her husband have such a big influence on the things that i deem important just so not to cause an arguement..and that is what is happening lately.. ALOT..I tell him the things that I want to do and he pushes back..and in turn I am emotionally dispondant and it is effecting us deeply..HELP!!I don't want my marriage to end.. Is this too heavy a topic? if so I am soo sorry..please ignore..

  61. Ladies,

    Jennifer M and I went to high school together, but didn't really connect until we found each other again through this blog.

    She is raising two beautiful children on her own right now, while their stepdaddy deals with his alcohol addiction away from the family.

    Jennifer works full time, loves her children full time, and maintains a sense of humor full time.

    Today was "Hero" day at her daughter's school. Her little girl dressed up as Jennifer, and wore a name tag to school that read "My mom is my hero."

    So I don't know Jennifer. Maybe you should be the one offering the rest of us advice.

    Love you.

  62. Ladies,

    Jennifer M and I went to high school together, but didn't really connect until we found each other again through this blog.

    She is raising two beautiful children on her own right now, while their stepdaddy deals with his alcohol addiction away from the family.

    Jennifer works full time, loves her children full time, and maintains a sense of humor full time.

    Today was "Hero" day at her daughter's school. Her little girl dressed up as Jennifer, and wore a name tag to school that read "My mom is my hero."

    So I don't know Jennifer. Maybe you should be the one offering the rest of us advice.

    Love you.

  63. OMG, YAY Kristin. I just got whole body chills reading that Geoff is FINALLY home!!!

    I had heard of about 80 adoptive parents finally had the chance to bring their babies home from Haiti last week and I was wondering, hoping and praying that Geoff was in that group of 80 children.

  64. OMG, YAY Kristin. I just got whole body chills reading that Geoff is FINALLY home!!!

    I had heard of about 80 adoptive parents finally had the chance to bring their babies home from Haiti last week and I was wondering, hoping and praying that Geoff was in that group of 80 children.

  65. I have a topic for you and you might be the best person to ask.

    How do you explain to a 7, almost 8 year old that the reason Daddy (step-Dad) doesn't live with us anymore is not because we don't like each other (well that's still to be determined) but because Daddy is an alcoholic?

    This conversation came up on Monday with my daughter after she had to say good-bye to Daddy Kris after one of his visits and she said that she was tired of saying good-bye to him and wanted him to move back home and didn't understand why he can't come back. Instead of giving her some BS answer I thought I would go with the truth but I wasn't really getting anywhere because I didn't know how to explain in a way that didn't make me sounds like a angry bitter soon to be divorced Mom of 2.

    So yeah, that's my idea for a topic.

    On another note I am my daughter's "Herow", lol

  66. I have a topic for you and you might be the best person to ask.

    How do you explain to a 7, almost 8 year old that the reason Daddy (step-Dad) doesn't live with us anymore is not because we don't like each other (well that's still to be determined) but because Daddy is an alcoholic?

    This conversation came up on Monday with my daughter after she had to say good-bye to Daddy Kris after one of his visits and she said that she was tired of saying good-bye to him and wanted him to move back home and didn't understand why he can't come back. Instead of giving her some BS answer I thought I would go with the truth but I wasn't really getting anywhere because I didn't know how to explain in a way that didn't make me sounds like a angry bitter soon to be divorced Mom of 2.

    So yeah, that's my idea for a topic.

    On another note I am my daughter's "Herow", lol

  67. I think that's a wonderful idea. I will be stopping over, I need tons of great ideas on how to cook healthy. Hubby is tired of baked chicken.
    Great ideas from Jeanette!

  68. I think that's a wonderful idea. I will be stopping over, I need tons of great ideas on how to cook healthy. Hubby is tired of baked chicken.
    Great ideas from Jeanette!

  69. Chief Monkee..AKA….Glennon.

    EE is Erin Entlich…lol. I just wanted to tell my EE that I loved her.

    I will go by luv2run because that is what I do……Don't have to win the race, just want to be in the race.

    Thanks for giving me the courage to write my thoughts on paper. I hate to write but love to talk. Hey, can you get spell check on this sight? hahahahah Just kidding, I will dust off my dictionary and do it the old fashion way.

    Have a great day!

    luv2run

  70. Chief Monkee..AKA….Glennon.

    EE is Erin Entlich…lol. I just wanted to tell my EE that I loved her.

    I will go by luv2run because that is what I do……Don't have to win the race, just want to be in the race.

    Thanks for giving me the courage to write my thoughts on paper. I hate to write but love to talk. Hey, can you get spell check on this sight? hahahahah Just kidding, I will dust off my dictionary and do it the old fashion way.

    Have a great day!

    luv2run

  71. jeannette and everyone – you can go to http://www.screamfree.com to learn about scream free parenting. Also a site for Neil McNerney from the Northern VA area – he offers classes. Google him. I know him. He is a wonderful person and has his own practice.

  72. jeannette and everyone – you can go to http://www.screamfree.com to learn about scream free parenting. Also a site for Neil McNerney from the Northern VA area – he offers classes. Google him. I know him. He is a wonderful person and has his own practice.

  73. Jeanette, thank you for the great ideas!

    And Kristin…I am overjoyed. Please, please, sneak us some pictures of that Geoff.

  74. Jeanette, thank you for the great ideas!

    And Kristin…I am overjoyed. Please, please, sneak us some pictures of that Geoff.

  75. EE!!

    Welcome EE!!!! We are THRILLED to make your acquaintance! Thank you for being so brave.

    LOVE,
    G

  76. EE!!

    Welcome EE!!!! We are THRILLED to make your acquaintance! Thank you for being so brave.

    LOVE,
    G

  77. First Time Monkee Post and I am freaking out because there is no spell check option. AHHHHHH…..try and decipher the words out brainiac monkeys!

    Our Erin (a couple of posts ago) is really MY ERIN!!!! She is a wonderful person with a HUGE heart. I have known Erin for, well lets just say before her Jordashe Jeans incident. I can assure you (even though you dont know me from the jungle) that Erin is one of the smartest Monkees I know and we should all be lucky to have found her and Glennon….darn what a Monkee team. Erin sent me this blog to read her post and have become a Monkee stalker ever since. I have gone back and read every post and every comment. I laughed and agreed and laughed a lot again. I thought I would NEVER EVER post anything. I would just sit back and just read and agree with all of you because I am an agreeable person by nature. But as soon as MY ERIN got involved, I thought that I had to put in my monkee plug for my favorite monkee of all time. I couldn't just sit behind my computer and not speak up. My Erin….I can't wait to see what you have to say and advice you are going to give me. Good luck on trying to get me to give up my diet cokes and chocolate. I can always use your monkee advice. Love you EE

  78. First Time Monkee Post and I am freaking out because there is no spell check option. AHHHHHH…..try and decipher the words out brainiac monkeys!

    Our Erin (a couple of posts ago) is really MY ERIN!!!! She is a wonderful person with a HUGE heart. I have known Erin for, well lets just say before her Jordashe Jeans incident. I can assure you (even though you dont know me from the jungle) that Erin is one of the smartest Monkees I know and we should all be lucky to have found her and Glennon….darn what a Monkee team. Erin sent me this blog to read her post and have become a Monkee stalker ever since. I have gone back and read every post and every comment. I laughed and agreed and laughed a lot again. I thought I would NEVER EVER post anything. I would just sit back and just read and agree with all of you because I am an agreeable person by nature. But as soon as MY ERIN got involved, I thought that I had to put in my monkee plug for my favorite monkee of all time. I couldn't just sit behind my computer and not speak up. My Erin….I can't wait to see what you have to say and advice you are going to give me. Good luck on trying to get me to give up my diet cokes and chocolate. I can always use your monkee advice. Love you EE

  79. Topics (relative to me in my little ole neck of the world):

    Disciplining children – how to make it work and NOT be a screamer.

    Transitioning from career woman to SAHM or vice versa.

    Trying to fulfill yourself but not overwhelm or take away from everything else you are already doing.

    Yeah so, those can be a bit heavy. How about for some lighter conversations (that help us get to know each other better):

    What are some traditions you've created for your families?

    What are our guilty pleasures and how/when do we get them (soap operas, chocolate, time alone, etc)?

    What do we do for our self satisfaction outside of our career or family?

    Posts all about Glennon:

    How did you meet hubby?

    Give us a breakdown of family and "pre-Momastery" friends that comment and explain the relationship. Maybe a who's who of Momastery.

    What would be your dream job?

    Okay, that's all I got for now. Maybe that can lend some inspiration to a future Momstery post. We all would probably be content with just reading you write out the alphabet, Glennon.

  80. Topics (relative to me in my little ole neck of the world):

    Disciplining children – how to make it work and NOT be a screamer.

    Transitioning from career woman to SAHM or vice versa.

    Trying to fulfill yourself but not overwhelm or take away from everything else you are already doing.

    Yeah so, those can be a bit heavy. How about for some lighter conversations (that help us get to know each other better):

    What are some traditions you've created for your families?

    What are our guilty pleasures and how/when do we get them (soap operas, chocolate, time alone, etc)?

    What do we do for our self satisfaction outside of our career or family?

    Posts all about Glennon:

    How did you meet hubby?

    Give us a breakdown of family and "pre-Momastery" friends that comment and explain the relationship. Maybe a who's who of Momastery.

    What would be your dream job?

    Okay, that's all I got for now. Maybe that can lend some inspiration to a future Momstery post. We all would probably be content with just reading you write out the alphabet, Glennon.

  81. Thanks G … and to everyone for all the encouragement! Diane … giggling over the L&S comment – I used to love that show!

  82. Thanks G … and to everyone for all the encouragement! Diane … giggling over the L&S comment – I used to love that show!

  83. Looking forward to Erin's blog. I need some good, healthy perspective regarding all of the food & weight issues. I have all the right info in my head, it's just getting it into my heart and keeping the right perspective with all of it.

  84. Looking forward to Erin's blog. I need some good, healthy perspective regarding all of the food & weight issues. I have all the right info in my head, it's just getting it into my heart and keeping the right perspective with all of it.

  85. Thanks Glennon, what a great idea! I will pay Erin a visit today! Need to also share great news with everyone! My Erin, who was in Haiti, got her Geoff in Florida just last night! It has been a hairy week for them all and they are all together taking a few days to let the other children get to know Geoff. Thanks for the special Monkee prayers for her and for him.
    Kristin

  86. Thanks Glennon, what a great idea! I will pay Erin a visit today! Need to also share great news with everyone! My Erin, who was in Haiti, got her Geoff in Florida just last night! It has been a hairy week for them all and they are all together taking a few days to let the other children get to know Geoff. Thanks for the special Monkee prayers for her and for him.
    Kristin

  87. Here's to "Laverne and Shirley" success. Happy Days for Erin! Congrats.

  88. Here's to "Laverne and Shirley" success. Happy Days for Erin! Congrats.

  89. Go Erin, It's your birthday. Not for real though, just for play, play.

    Going to check you out now.

    Tricia

  90. Go Erin, It's your birthday. Not for real though, just for play, play.

    Going to check you out now.

    Tricia

  91. I am headed your way Erin!

    -Courtney

  92. I am headed your way Erin!

    -Courtney

  93. Can't wait to check it out Erin!

  94. Can't wait to check it out Erin!

  95. Go Erin go! I am excited for you and I can't wait to check it out!

  96. Go Erin go! I am excited for you and I can't wait to check it out!

  97. Good luck, Erin!!

  98. Good luck, Erin!!

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